The growing pains of life. 9 year relationship that fails. I went threw the exact same thing 3 years ago. Honestly it hurts, and it sucked so bad. I get what your saying about going to work, and also having a workout schedule to attend to. You know what helped me? Pu**y. I know that sounds funny, but there is a lot of learning and growth involve when interacting in any kind of relationship. Among all the different types of relationships I had after, there was one girl I was in a relationship for a couple of months till she moved. I had a stronger attraction and bond with her then anyone I met in my whole life, till present day. I'm not saying don't mourn over lost relationships - just keep it very short.