Yeah I need to destroy it... The more sore I am is the time I notice more gains ...
I've seen you say that, but what I'm asking is how many times have you taken a step back and tried a different training style for a extended period of time.
Like here's a example.
For years I almost never went to failure on purpose, first it was full body 3xweek with 1 exercise per body part. Made very fast size and strength gains but stalled in a few months, then just focused on getting 3 sets of 6-8 reps and then adding 5 lbs to the bar doing 2 exercises per body part on a ppl routine, Occasionally I would fail and repeat the weight. Progress stalled after about a 6 months.
Then I switched to a bro split and killed it, high intensity, drop sets and rest pause ect. Progress started up again, only failure on the last set per exercise.
Then I started getting hurt and switched to more volume, not really hitting failure but just going till the pump gets painful and then stop, doing this while still following progressive overload principles currently and it's working good, every 3-4weeks I plan to have a week where I destroy ****, then active deload and repeat. Idk how long this is going to work but il ride it out.
What I'm getting at is we need to switch it up once in a while. If progress has stalled or your getting injured maybe make a change.
If everything is working tho stay the same.
How much have your lifts increased over the past year. Has your pressing movements gone up 15-20lbs for reps, leg exercises 20+lbs for reps. Add 5-10lbs on isolation work.
Stuff like that you should keep notes on and use it to help figure out when to change things.
I also say you say that you got to max out from time to time, no you absolutely don't ever need to max out unless your a powerlifter peaking for a meet. Talk to pretty much any high level amateur or pro bodybuilders and they will tell you they never max out, most will never go under 6-8 reps. Maxing out with 1-3 reps has no place in bodybuilding, it doesn't build much if any muscle and has a big risk and small reward