(O.T.) Explaining supp spending to wife

stl123 · 03-15-2008, 12:46 PM

I assume that I am not the only person here that is constantly explaining to the wife why I just dropped another $30-$40+ dollars on another supplement.

This is a constant problem for me. I am intrested to see how other people handle this situation.

Me personally, when my wife makes a comment about a charge on the bank account or the CC. I ask her to log in to her credit card and let me see her charges. Most of the times it works because I know she spends money on stupid s**t all the time too. However a couple of times it backfired and I came off like a total a$$. One time she sat down and added up all the charges on the CC and Debit card and showed me how much I spent that month.

I have to say I was a little suprised, but that was a month I was starting a hormonal cylce and I needed support supps and PCT. So it was a little bit up there.

For the most part she has given up because she knows I am going to do it anyway (too many good products out there that I still have to try

). I have a cabinet in my kitchen that looks like an old time apothecary that is filled with bottles and misc. supps. She made the comment just the other night that everytime she opens that cabinet there is more crap in it. I just laughed if off.

How many people here have this problem with their wife/partner and how do you handle it?

PappaD · 03-15-2008, 12:50 PM

I got my wife into training as well and now she understands!!

**bpmartyr** · 03-15-2008, 12:55 PM

I just open the closet with all her purses & shoes, point and walk away.

stl123 · 03-15-2008, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by PappaD

I got my wife into training as well and now she understands!!

I got my wife into training too. However, she still doen't understand the rationale for me needing supplements, because she doesn't take any at all. So its the opposite for me. She thinks that if she does it w/o supps that I should to.

She is pregnant now. So I'm sure that in June after it is over she will want to go out an by some thermogenic supps.
which will obviously work in my favor.

T-Bone · 03-15-2008, 01:04 PM

My tells me,"You can get your protein and a multi-vitamin, you don't NEED anything elese".

john123131 · 03-15-2008, 01:20 PM

not married....wohooooo..lol..

stl123 · 03-15-2008, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by T-Bone

My tells me,"You can get your protein and a multi-vitamin, you don't NEED anything elese".

That's almost word for word what my wife says. Its easy to explain the protein and a multi. I tell her it saves money in the long run. Instead of buying snacks all day.

**Heat Miser** · 03-15-2008, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by stl123

I assume that I am not the only person here that is constantly explaining to the wife why I just dropped another $30-$40+ dollars on another supplement.

This is a constant problem for me. I am intrested to see how other people handle this situation.

How many people here have this problem with their wife/partner and how do you handle it?

I buy three, four, times a years at most.

I never ever CHARGE anything. I buy what I can afford to pay for CASH.

I never ever buy brand name OTC products but rather the actives in bulk. In this situation most times I buy 6-9-12 months worth of materials for the cost of 30-90 days supply otherwise.

I will break down and buy a brand named at a blow out (prima - sesamine is an example) otherwise I have no desire to pay for a fancy brand named label and bottle.

I never ever (very rarely) place a one or two item order.

I never impulse shop or buy the latest and greatest pimped product. I know what works. I buy what works. I buy staples and lots of them at discounted bulk prices.

One very improtant part I forgot to mention; I never ever ask my wife if I can buy anything. I love her, support her and respect her. Because of that I choose to INFORM her of what I am doing with the money of ours which I earn.

stl123 · 03-15-2008, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by B5150

One very improtant part I forgot to mention; I never ever ask my wife if I can buy anything. I love her, support her and respect her. Because of that I choose to INFORM her of what I am doing with the money of ours which I earn.

This is my mentality as well. I go to work and earn money just like she does and I have the right to spend a % of that money on whatever I choose to. I also never ask her before I buy. I probably should have made that clearer. This is what she doesn't like. This expaining that I have to do is always after the fact, when we are doing bills for the month. She thinks that I should say something to her first, which I don't agree with. When she wants to buy cloths she doesn't ask me or anything like that. That is why I do what I want anyway.

**Yukon Cornelius** · 03-15-2008, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by stl123

This is my mentality as well. I go to work and earn money just like she does and I have the right to spend a % of that money on whatever I choose to. I also never ask her before I buy. I probably should have made that clearer. This is what she doesn't like. This expaining that I have to do is always after the fact, when we are doing bills for the month. She thinks that I should say something to her first, which I don't agree with. When she wants to buy cloths she doesn't ask me or anything like that. That is why I do what I want anyway.

Tell her she is your wife, not your mother. If its money you earn and can afford to spend, tell her to pipe down.

Your old enough to rely on your own self discipline to keep it fair. If she doesn't trust that, then thats her problem, not yours.

If you are spending more money than you can afford, its different...

gordi · 03-15-2008, 01:53 PM

I just tell my wife that I want to build up some more muscle or lose some fat to look good for her, and this supp will help me do it... but...

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Originally Posted by stl123

I got my wife into training too. However, she still doen't understand the rationale for me needing supplements, because she doesn't take any at all. So its the opposite for me. She thinks that if she does it w/o supps that I should to.

...I can see that, in your case, my great excuse isn't going to cut the mustard.

T-Bone · 03-15-2008, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by stl123

That's almost word for word what my wife says. Its easy to explain the protein and a multi. I tell her it saves money in the long run. Instead of buying snacks all day.

Well I kind of agree with what my wife says so it is hard to argue it. Plus we are in dept up to our eyeballs. We had contacted one of those credit consolidation companies a while back. Two years into paying them they got sued by the FTC. They paid off one account but with still have 4 more. What they did is make us pay them so much a month and then let it build up in our account and then at a certain point make an offer to one of the creditors. So this entire time it is building up we would get harresing phone calls from bill collectors. We even had a sherif come over the apartment and serve us papers. Never had to go to court though because the company helped us out. So now we are out around $3000 and still paying off each individual account with money that we don't have. So ya see, I really don't have any money for supplements at all.

**Heat Miser** · 03-15-2008, 01:54 PM

I am the primary (sole) income in my home. I make our money and therefore I share with her what I am doing with our money at or about the time I use it. As well she informs me what she is/has done with our money at or about the time as well.

Maybe if you both quit doing things on the side and be open neither of you would feel the animosity you feel towards each other in this circumstance. You both may also see that you both waste a lot of money on useless, worthless stuff

LilPsychotic · 03-15-2008, 02:21 PM

Yeah, I agree with B. Buy all your stuff at one time, and never charge it. That way, you save money with less shipping/intrest fees, and you can tell your wife that your now "stocked up" and don't have to get anything for a while. Also, keep a separate account for your supp spending, so she can't see exactly how much you spend.

stl123 · 03-15-2008, 02:21 PM

I think I am being a little misinterpreted. We don't fight about it, there is no animosity towards each other or anything like that. Me and my wife have a great relationship we have been together for 9 years. We have a great house and are expecting our first child in under 3 months(its a girl). It doesn't happen everytime I buy something. It just irks me a little bit when she asks me about it. It's really the only thing we disagree on in our relationship.

Not to mention that my wife make a hell of a lot more than me. She is a very high position at the biggest sports/concert venue here in STL (great perks for me). I do very well for myself but my wife really is the breadwinner and I don't mind.

I just wanted to see if other people have the same DISAREEMENTS in their relationship and to what degree. I'm sure that it is something that everyone in a relationship has to deal with.

LilPsychotic · 03-15-2008, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by stl123

I think I am being a little misinterpreted. We don't fight about it, there is no animosity towards each other or anything like that. Me and my wife have a great relationship we have been together for 9 years. We have a great house and are expecting our first child in under 3 months(its a girl). It doesn't happen everytime I buy something. It just irks me a little bit when she asks me about it. It's really the only thing we disagree on in our relationship.

Not to mention that my wife make a hell of a lot more than me. She is a very high position at the biggest sports/concert venue here in STL (great perks for me). I do