(O.T.) Explaining supp spending to wife

[stl123]

I assume that I am not the only person here that is constantly explaining to the wife why I just dropped another $30-$40+ dollars on another supplement. :nono: This is a constant problem for me. I am intrested to see how other people handle this situation.

Me personally, when my wife makes a comment about a charge on the bank account or the CC. I ask her to log in to her credit card and let me see her charges. Most of the times it works because I know she spends money on stupid s**t all the time too. However a couple of times it backfired and I came off like a total a$$. One time she sat down and added up all the charges on the CC and Debit card and showed me how much I spent that month.:blink: I have to say I was a little suprised, but that was a month I was starting a hormonal cylce and I needed support supps and PCT. So it was a little bit up there.

For the most part she has given up because she knows I am going to do it anyway (too many good products out there that I still have to try). I have a cabinet in my kitchen that looks like an old time apothecary that is filled with bottles and misc. supps. She made the comment just the other night that everytime she opens that cabinet there is more crap in it. I just laughed if off.

How many people here have this problem with their wife/partner and how do you handle it?

 

[PappaD]

I got my wife into training as well and now she understands!!

 

[bpmartyr]

I just open the closet with all her purses & shoes, point and walk away.

 

[stl123]

I got my wife into training as well and now she understands!!

I got my wife into training too. However, she still doen't understand the rationale for me needing supplements, because she doesn't take any at all. So its the opposite for me. She thinks that if she does it w/o supps that I should to.

She is pregnant now. So I'm sure that in June after it is over she will want to go out an by some thermogenic supps.
which will obviously work in my favor.

 

[T-Bone]

My tells me,"You can get your protein and a multi-vitamin, you don't NEED anything elese".

 

[john123131]

not married....wohooooo..lol..

 

[stl123]

My tells me,"You can get your protein and a multi-vitamin, you don't NEED anything elese".

That's almost word for word what my wife says. Its easy to explain the protein and a multi. I tell her it saves money in the long run. Instead of buying snacks all day.

 

[B5150]

I assume that I am not the only person here that is constantly explaining to the wife why I just dropped another $30-$40+ dollars on another supplement. :nono: This is a constant problem for me. I am intrested to see how other people handle this situation.


How many people here have this problem with their wife/partner and how do you handle it?

I buy three, four, times a years at most.

I never ever CHARGE anything. I buy what I can afford to pay for CASH.

I never ever buy brand name OTC products but rather the actives in bulk. In this situation most times I buy 6-9-12 months worth of materials for the cost of 30-90 days supply otherwise.

I will break down and buy a brand named at a blow out (prima - sesamine is an example) otherwise I have no desire to pay for a fancy brand named label and bottle.

I never ever (very rarely) place a one or two item order.

I never impulse shop or buy the latest and greatest pimped product. I know what works. I buy what works. I buy staples and lots of them at discounted bulk prices.

One very improtant part I forgot to mention; I never ever ask my wife if I can buy anything. I love her, support her and respect her. Because of that I choose to INFORM her of what I am doing with the money of ours which I earn.

 

[stl123]

One very improtant part I forgot to mention; I never ever ask my wife if I can buy anything. I love her, support her and respect her. Because of that I choose to INFORM her of what I am doing with the money of ours which I earn.

This is my mentality as well. I go to work and earn money just like she does and I have the right to spend a % of that money on whatever I choose to. I also never ask her before I buy. I probably should have made that clearer. This is what she doesn't like. This expaining that I have to do is always after the fact, when we are doing bills for the month. She thinks that I should say something to her first, which I don't agree with. When she wants to buy cloths she doesn't ask me or anything like that. That is why I do what I want anyway.

 

[Dwight Schrute]

This is my mentality as well. I go to work and earn money just like she does and I have the right to spend a % of that money on whatever I choose to. I also never ask her before I buy. I probably should have made that clearer. This is what she doesn't like. This expaining that I have to do is always after the fact, when we are doing bills for the month. She thinks that I should say something to her first, which I don't agree with. When she wants to buy cloths she doesn't ask me or anything like that. That is why I do what I want anyway.

Tell her she is your wife, not your mother. If its money you earn and can afford to spend, tell her to pipe down.

Your old enough to rely on your own self discipline to keep it fair. If she doesn't trust that, then thats her problem, not yours.

If you are spending more money than you can afford, its different...

 

[gordi]

I just tell my wife that I want to build up some more muscle or lose some fat to look good for her, and this supp will help me do it... but...

I got my wife into training too. However, she still doen't understand the rationale for me needing supplements, because she doesn't take any at all. So its the opposite for me. She thinks that if she does it w/o supps that I should to.

...I can see that, in your case, my great excuse isn't going to cut the mustard.

 

[T-Bone]

That's almost word for word what my wife says. Its easy to explain the protein and a multi. I tell her it saves money in the long run. Instead of buying snacks all day.

Well I kind of agree with what my wife says so it is hard to argue it. Plus we are in dept up to our eyeballs. We had contacted one of those credit consolidation companies a while back. Two years into paying them they got sued by the FTC. They paid off one account but with still have 4 more. What they did is make us pay them so much a month and then let it build up in our account and then at a certain point make an offer to one of the creditors. So this entire time it is building up we would get harresing phone calls from bill collectors. We even had a sherif come over the apartment and serve us papers. Never had to go to court though because the company helped us out. So now we are out around $3000 and still paying off each individual account with money that we don't have. So ya see, I really don't have any money for supplements at all.

 

[B5150]

I am the primary (sole) income in my home. I make our money and therefore I share with her what I am doing with our money at or about the time I use it. As well she informs me what she is/has done with our money at or about the time as well.

Maybe if you both quit doing things on the side and be open neither of you would feel the animosity you feel towards each other in this circumstance. You both may also see that you both waste a lot of money on useless, worthless stuff

 

[LilPsychotic]

Yeah, I agree with B. Buy all your stuff at one time, and never charge it. That way, you save money with less shipping/intrest fees, and you can tell your wife that your now "stocked up" and don't have to get anything for a while. Also, keep a separate account for your supp spending, so she can't see exactly how much you spend.

 

[stl123]

I think I am being a little misinterpreted. We don't fight about it, there is no animosity towards each other or anything like that. Me and my wife have a great relationship we have been together for 9 years. We have a great house and are expecting our first child in under 3 months(its a girl). It doesn't happen everytime I buy something. It just irks me a little bit when she asks me about it. It's really the only thing we disagree on in our relationship.

Not to mention that my wife make a hell of a lot more than me. She is a very high position at the biggest sports/concert venue here in STL (great perks for me). I do very well for myself but my wife really is the breadwinner and I don't mind.

I just wanted to see if other people have the same DISAREEMENTS in their relationship and to what degree. I'm sure that it is something that everyone in a relationship has to deal with.

 

[LilPsychotic]

I think I am being a little misinterpreted. We don't fight about it, there is no animosity towards each other or anything like that. Me and my wife have a great relationship we have been together for 9 years. We have a great house and are expecting our first child in under 3 months(its a girl). It doesn't happen everytime I buy something. It just irks me a little bit when she asks me about it. It's really the only thing we disagree on in our relationship.

Not to mention that my wife make a hell of a lot more than me. She is a very high position at the biggest sports/concert venue here in STL (great perks for me). I do very well for myself but my wife really is the breadwinner and I don't mind.

I just wanted to see if other people have the same DISAREEMENTS in their relationship and to what degree. I'm sure that it is something that everyone in a relationship has to deal with.

Yeah, mine thinks that it's stupid and dangerous because the stuff isn't regulated. Sad thing is, I think she's right.

 

[stl123]

Maybe if you both quit doing things on the side and be open neither of you would feel the animosity you feel towards each other in this circumstance. You both may also see that you both waste a lot of money on useless, worthless stuff

Its really not as big of a deal as you make it sound. Like I said it is the abosolute only thing we disagree about.

I really was not asking opinions about how I should handle it. I handle it just fine. In fact I am just getting ready to order some bulk goods in a minute (yesterday was payday) I just wanted to see how OTHER people handle it in THEIR situation.

Your situation is a little different than mine since you are the sole provider. Me and my wife both work full time and she actually makes a great deal more than me.

:thumbsup:

 

[stl123]

Yeah, mine thinks that it's stupid and dangerous because the stuff isn't regulated. Sad thing is, I think she's right.

Yeah she told me the other night that she hoped I didn't die of a heart attack when I was 30. She really doesn't know the ins and outs of what I am taking or what the benifits are. I try to explain it to her and for the most part she gets it. Most of my bottles are vitamins and support supps so I won't have a heart attack when I am 30.:lol: The one thing that scared her was when I was taking Hdrol, she read the warning label and didn't like it very much.

 

[LilPsychotic]

Yeah she told me the other night that she hoped I didn't die of a heart attack when I was 30. She really doesn't know the ins and outs of what I am taking or what the benifits are. I try to explain it to her and for the most part she gets it. Most of my bottles are vitamins and support supps so I won't have a heart attack when I am 30.:lol: The one thing that scared her was when I was taking Hdrol, she read the warning label and didn't like it very much.

Same hear I have 2 bottles of h-drol and a havoc. And then she saw my "research chemicals" and was like what the f- is this, because we both work in the medical field and know what these things are. I really had to get into the science of it and explain that I didn't have breast cancer. That was a tough one.

 

[PappaD]

I am blessed to have a wife that let's me buy whatever I want, whenever I want! It's a good thing!!

 

[fatboy]

Convince her that some of them might actually be good for her as well and share.

P.S. Be careful of this tactic with DHEA if you are both over 40. Women apparently are much better at converting DHEA to both testosterone and estrogen than men are. So she's put on about 10 lbs of muscle, gone from a loose 34B cup to what looks to be an awfully tight 36C cup, has the libido of an 18 year old teenage male, and threatens to kick my ass if I don't take my Cialis precisely when she tells me to. I am sometimes tempted to argue but then realize that she could indeed kick my ass if need be. Ah well ... I was always told to be careful what to wish for.

 

[stl123]

Same hear I have 2 bottles of h-drol and a havoc. And then she saw my "research chemicals" and was like what the f- is this, because we both work in the medical field and know what these things are. I really had to get into the science of it and explain that I didn't have breast cancer. That was a tough one.

Yeah, I bet that was a fun conversation. :toofunny:

At least if you get breast cancer you're covered. :thumbsup:

 

[stl123]

P.S. Be careful of this tactic with DHEA if you are both over 40. Women apparently are much better at converting DHEA to both testosterone and estrogen than men are. So she's put on about 10 lbs of muscle, gone from a loose 34B cup to what looks to be an awfully tight 36C cup, has the libido of an 18 year old teenage male, and threatens to kick my ass if I don't take my Cialis precisely when she tells me to. I am sometimes tempted to argue but then realize that she could indeed kick my ass if need be. Ah well ... I was always told to be careful what to wish for.

Wow. I might have to sprinkle some DHEA in my wifes supper tonight. :lol:

 

[fatboy]

Wow. I might have to sprinkle some DHEA in my wifes supper tonight. :lol:

Don't think it'll work at your age (unless you've got one of those May-December marriages, in which case, put it in her breakfast too).

 

[boxmeman]

Same hear I have 2 bottles of h-drol and a havoc. And then she saw my "research chemicals" and was like what the f- is this, because we both work in the medical field and know what these things are. I really had to get into the science of it and explain that I didn't have breast cancer. That was a tough one.

DUDE taht sux lol thats would def be a funny scene or scenario to hear!!! I'd def pay to see you talking your way out of that one!!!

 

[Dr Packenwood]

I'm not married, but involved and she knows that I'm not giving up going to gym, and I'm not giving up supplementing again for anyone.

Its PART of who I am. Not something that can or will be changed.

 

[p5sky]

when my wife makes a comment about my supps/cost I simply take off my shirt and simultaneously point to a picture of me 4 years ago at 25 lbs lighter. She rarely says anything because she has tons of shoes/purses, pays to get her eyebrow done so that she has "two" and then there's the hair salon! High maintenance girl so she cant give me sh*t about anything.

 

[stl123]

pays to get her eyebrow done so that she has "two" and then there's the hair salon!

:rofl:


Better hope she doesn't get on here and see that. :toofunny:

 

[p5sky]

:rofl:


Better hope she doesn't get on here and see that. :toofunny:

oh I tell her how nice it looks when she has two, always giving compliments:stick:

 

[Ziquor]

This's a no brainer - get a divorce...

 

[bigdaddy45]

hey stl123,
I had a bit of dejavu,Ive had the exact same conversation with my wife and i tell her you can't put a price on your health and as you get older it gets more expensive to maintain your health.hang in there it sounds like your handling things ok

 

[stl123]

hey stl123,
I had a bit of dejavu,Ive had the exact same conversation with my wife and i tell her you can't put a price on your health and as you get older it gets more expensive to maintain your health.

Thats a good one.:clap2:

 

[majorpain]

My ex wife used to complain all the time about me purchasing supplements. I too had a cabinet off to the far side corner of the kitchen. I laughed at you comment about your wife looking in there and what she would tell you. My ex would do the same. LOL! :toofunny:
She came out of a bag on me back in the day when I came home with the latest and greatesat from EAS "Phosphegen" The big size! Oh yeah, and a big box of meal replacement shakes. :dance:
It doesn't happen anymore.

 

[BB12]

:toofunny:

This is one of the best post I've seen in a very long time! My wife and I are going on 7 years. The first two years it was "what the hell are you taken now" or "how many bottles of whatever you bought could fit in that huge box".

Now, I have my own closet in kitchen, have her taken sups and she doesn't even ask what's in the box... it's to funny cause when they come she says "this one's going to make you HUGE right?"

All-in-all, she's cool with it now... as long as nothing makes my junk fall off:blink:

Then we both laugh!

 

[stl123]

My ex wife used to complain all the time about me purchasing supplements. I too had a cabinet off to the far side corner of the kitchen. I laughed at you comment about your wife looking in there and what she would tell you. My ex would do the same. LOL! :toofunny:
She came out of a bag on me back in the day when I came home with the latest and greatesat from EAS "Phosphegen" The big size! Oh yeah, and a big box of meal replacement shakes. :dance:
It doesn't happen anymore.

:lol: Thats good stuff bro.

My cabinet is going to be even fuller in a couple days. I just ordered 100g of Beta-Alanine and NutraPlanets Bulk Ultimate mass stack (100g Arginine EE, 100g Creatine EE, and 100g Citrulline malate for $19.99). I might have to take over another cabinet. :woohoo:

 

[stl123]

:toofunny:

This is one of the best post I've seen in a very long time! My wife and I are going on 7 years. The first two years it was "what the hell are you taken now" or "how many bottles of whatever you bought could fit in that huge box".

Now, I have my own closet in kitchen, have her taken sups and she doesn't even ask what's in the box... it's to funny cause when they come she says "this one's going to make you HUGE right?"

All-in-all, she's cool with it now... as long as nothing makes my junk fall off:blink:

Then we both laugh!

Wow, that sounds very familiar.:toofunny:

Your wife sounds soo much like my wife. Now you have me thinking, is she over at your place when she's "working late"? Now I'm sad.:sad:

The only thing that will cheer me back up is if you give me your bottle of 3AD.:lol:

 

[BB12]

That's a negative brother... on the 3-AD!

Is your wife about 5'5" 115 pounds? Just playing...

I think she figured it was a losing battle... boys will be boys!!

 

[stl123]

That's a negative brother... on the 3-AD!

Whew.... ya had me worried there for a minute. She is a little shorter than that.

Yeah, I'm just a little jealous I have to wait like everyone else for the 3AD. But mark my words I am getting me a piece of that action when I can.

Good Luck on your log by the way. I will be following you on your journey. When do you expect to start?

 

[MashedPotato]

Easy solution here:

Ok so you earn your total income per month, then you both say "we each have $300" or whatever to spend on whatever we like that month.

That way you can both spend it on whatever you like, or save it. You can spend your whole $300 on drinking or video games, or your wife can spend $300 on clothes or shoes, whatever you are both into.

Setting a budget and sticking with it is the best way. On the odd month where you may need more, you simply tell her, and she knows its only this month for such and such reason. Same applies for her, if she has say a $100 top she wants but already spent $240 this month, you can both agree she can buy it this month as its a "treat".

Works great.

 

[BB12]

Whew.... ya had me worried there for a minute. She is a little shorter than that.

Yeah, I'm just a little jealous I have to wait like everyone else for the 3AD. But mark my words I am getting me a piece of that action when I can.

Good Luck on your log by the way. I will be following you on your journey. When do you expect to start?

ships out sometime next week!

 

[MashedPotato]

ships out sometime next week!

tee hee.

know what i mean bigboy12

 

[BB12]

Oh yeah...

 

[MashedPotato]

Oh yeah...

tee-hee :woohoo:

ok enough.

 

[AlexParty]

Dude I can relate to you, I'm sure we all can. I'm not married but I have a 3 year girlfriend. Whenever she walks into my room and sees my new supplements(i like to display them on my cabinet... you know...) and she says "Oh my god again?" or the worst is "Your buying more steroids?"........steroids? I didn't know supplements were steroids. I hate when people make that comparison, so stupid.

Anyhow just deal with it or shrug it off. Could get dangerous while on a cycle, aggression goes up and she says something to tick you off, that's the challenging part. But you guys shouldn't arguing about something this small. It's your "HOBBY" and I'm sure she has hers(shoes, skin care products, clothes) so it balances out. Good luck and make funny comments when she says stuff like that like "Why you so interested, wanna bench 300 lbs too?" Just shrug it off because if you make it serious it'll turn into a fight hence no pu$$y that night.

 

[stl123]

Dude I can relate to you, I'm sure we all can. I'm not married but I have a 3 year girlfriend. Whenever she walks into my room and sees my new supplements(i like to display them on my cabinet... you know...) and she says "Oh my god again?" or the worst is "Your buying more steroids?"........steroids? I didn't know supplements were steroids. I hate when people make that comparison, so stupid.

Anyhow just deal with it or shrug it off. Could get dangerous while on a cycle, aggression goes up and she says something to tick you off, that's the challenging part. But you guys shouldn't arguing about something this small. It's your "HOBBY" and I'm sure she has hers(shoes, skin care products, clothes) so it balances out. Good luck and make funny comments when she says stuff like that like "Why you so interested, wanna bench 300 lbs too?" Just shrug it off because if you make it serious it'll turn into a fight hence no pu$$y that night.

We really don't fight about it. The comments are just a little annoying. I knew that this had to be something that everyone dealt with and I just wanted to hear everybody else's situation. It turned out to be more entertaining than I thought. It seems like 95% of the people here have dealt with this to some degree.

Besides after a 9 year relationship we know by now that arguing isn't going to help anything.

Thats funny about the steroids comment. I was at work one day and a bottle of Creatine EE ,of all things, fell out of my bag and one of the dudes at work wanted to know why I was juicing. :toofunny:

 

[AlexParty]

We really don't fight about it. The comments are just a little annoying. I knew that this had to be something that everyone dealt with and I just wanted to hear everybody else's situation. It turned out to be more entertaining than I thought. It seems like 95% of the people here have dealt with this to some degree.

Besides after a 9 year relationship we know by now that arguing isn't going to help anything.

Thats funny about the steroids comment. I was at work one day and a bottle of Creatine EE ,of all things, fell out of my bag and one of the dudes at work wanted to know why I was juicing. :toofunny:

Lol... ya that's funny. Then you go into the explanation of the difference between supps and steroids all too just reveal you know a little too much about steroids :dance:

 

[stl123]

Lol... ya that's funny. Then you go into the explanation of the difference between supps and steroids all too just reveal you know a little too much about steroids :dance:

:rofl:

I didn't at that point, but I really do now.

 

[Outside Backer]

i tell her to look around her house then i tell her to stfu cuz i pay for evferything

 

[SamBoz19]

X2

not married....wohooooo..lol..

^^^That goes double for me. LMAO :toofunny:

 

[BB12]

i tell her to look around her house then i tell her to stfu cuz i pay for evferything

You guys made my night...