Jimmyjusa - I think you are trying; but tstak's comments aren't too far off. You aren't lying to us, you are lying to yourself.
It is common, we often fool ourselves into thinking that we are trying and don't. The key to me is, I asked you 3-4 times if you weigh your food with a scale or measure it and you didn't answer until you finally said,
Protein shakes are measured by the scoop of course, protein bars have the nutrition labels, and with vegetables I figured I don't need to measure those since they are a major source of my fiber and are fairly low calorie. Most meat we get is a pound and I have half.
On these items you are somewhat right - this sounds like a plausible answer to the question at first. But it shows that you ARE NOT weighing and you ARE NOT planning your meals. You're half measuring. Like you say, when things are prepackaged, I get that and it's cool - but you shouldn't be eating everything prepackaged. You need to start weighing and preparing meals.
And depending on the veggies you are eating, you may have to measure them. And your carb sources should DEFINATELY be measured. Rice, pasta, etc. - what looks to be a small amount can turn out to be 2-3 servings sometimes. If you aren't weighing, you won't be accurate and could be taking in 2-3X the carbs/calories that you think.
Get a scale and a notebook, weigh it all, write it all. You will learn more about what is wrong from that one thing than you realize.
And again, not busting your balls. We have all been here.
I'll give another example. Let's say you're in a 500 cal/day deficit. That's 3,500 calories/week. You do great 6 days a week and then have a cheat meal one night. You decide to go to Olive Garden for this meal and don't add up the calories. You have the soup, the bread sticks, the meal, and then a slice of cake (hey it's your free meal right?) You just ate 3000-3500 calories in that one meal. No joke. And the pound you lost dieting for 6 days? Gone. No more deficit.
This is something I did 2 weeks ago. My gf suggested Olive and I was going to go until I looked at the nutritional info. It's SOOO easy to overeat and not even realize it.
Plus, if you weigh and write everything down - you can bring that log to your doctor or to us and say, "Here it is" and we will be able to see exactly what you are eating and have a better suggestion.