5 Weeks On And Have Dead D**k

[iparatroop]

But what do I tell her? She'll be heart broken.

Tell her the plane broke and the US closed its borders.
I don't know man, I'd try to have her get an extended stay here and feel out how the two of you work together on a daily basis. A probationary period of sorts. Let her know that's what you want to try prior to marriage. On the flip side, broken hearts heal stronger in the long run.

[JoeBrooklyn]

Tell her the plane broke and the US closed its borders.
I don't know man, I'd try to have her get an extended stay here and feel out how the two of you work together on a daily basis. A probationary period of sorts. Let her know that's what you want to try prior to marriage. On the flip side, broken hearts heal stronger in the long run.

We have tried to get her VISAs twice, both rejected. We have now put in for a Fiance VISA and are still waiting.

[fueledpassion]

But what do I tell her? She'll be heart broken.

Making this decision, you have to know that to give her a heart break now is to save her from a much greater heart break later. You don't want to get married, have kids, get settled, share accounts, become altogether comfortable with that individual and then break it off. Because if your attitude about her is like this now, you'll have a real challlenge for yourself later.

If you are looking for an exit strategy - here is one. Be a man. Have some balls. Know that it's best for both of you in the long run.

There are ways to avoid pain like this altogether, but the technique must be incorporated at the inception of the relationship. You don't have that luxury my man. Sorry to hear this. I can only imagine.

[JoeBrooklyn]

Making this decision, you have to know that to give her a heart break now is to save her from a much greater heart break later. You don't want to get married, have kids, get settled, share accounts, become altogether comfortable with that individual and then break it off. Because if your attitude about her is like this now, you'll have a real challlenge for yourself later.

If you are looking for an exit strategy - here is one. Be a man. Have some balls. Know that it's best for both of you in the long run.

There are ways to avoid pain like this altogether, but the technique must be incorporated at the inception of the relationship. You don't have that luxury my man. Sorry to hear this. I can only imagine.

Ok, I will have to now muster the strength and words. This really sucks. Keep in mind, it's not that I think she's a bad person or I'm not attracted to her, it's just the whole idea of getting married again has the same effect on me as when I repelled from a helicopter the first time and the second and the, you know what I mean.

[fueledpassion]

Ok, I will have to now muster the strength and words. This really sucks. Keep in mind, it's not that I think she's a bad person or I'm not attracted to her, it's just the whole idea of getting married again has the same effect on me as when I repelled from a helicopter the first time and the second and the, you know what I mean.

Well now, hang on.

It is a natural reaction (especially in men) to fear commitment. Heck I am having the coldsweats over the thought of committing to a new church, lol. People are naturally selfish. The idea of committing to something or someone unknown is scarey and often repels the common man, lol. No risk = no reward. This is business law. It also applies to other various things in life, too.

I am certain this community is the best choice for me yet I still fear this notion of being committed. I wont get into psychology and theology, lol, but I do think there are inherent issues that must be delt with on the inside in order to bravely and boldly commit to something or someone.

I was also a bit fearful to commit to my wife just 5 months ago yet at the same time I was 100% sure and I still am 100% sure that she is the best fit for me. To make things extra clear, you have to ask yourself the right question.

Too many men ask the wrong one --> like: "Is she the right woman for me? Is she attractive enough? Is she respectful enough? Is the sex good and often? etc etc. Don't get me wrong, those things are important but dont fool yourself into thinking that these are the things you will concern yourself with 30 years from now. These attributes of a relationship come and go, and often!

A good starting point is to ask yourself this question: "Am I ready to commit to someone (regardless of who) for the rest of my life?" Do you see how this steers your focus away from your potential spouse and toward yourself? You need to validate or nullify your character when considering marriage. Ask things like, "Do I value commitment more than passion?" Do I value commitment more than results? Do I have a character consistent with trustworthiness and gentleness? People always look at marriage as a test of how well their spouse does at being a spouse. The reality is, marriage is a test of your character - that's all.

Seriously man. There's a lot to think about before just backing out or moving forward.

[JoeBrooklyn]

Well now, hang on.

It is a natural reaction (especially in men) to fear commitment. Heck I am having the coldsweats over the thought of committing to a new church, lol. People are naturally selfish. The idea of committing to something or someone unknown is scarey and often repels the common man, lol. No risk = no reward. This is business law. It also applies to other various things in life, too.

I am certain this community is the best choice for me yet I still fear this notion of being committed. I wont get into psychology and theology, lol, but I do think there are inherent issues that must be delt with on the inside in order to bravely and boldly commit to something or someone.

I was also a bit fearful to commit to my wife just 5 months ago yet at the same time I was 100% sure and I still am 100% sure that she is the best fit for me. To make things extra clear, you have to ask yourself the right question.

Too many men ask the wrong one --> like: "Is she the right woman for me? Is she attractive enough? Is she respectful enough? Is the sex good and often? etc etc. Don't get me wrong, those things are important but dont fool yourself into thinking that these are the things you will concern yourself with 30 years from now. These attributes of a relationship come and go, and often!

A good starting point is to ask yourself this question: "Am I ready to commit to someone (regardless of who) for the rest of my life?" Do you see how this steers your focus away from your potential spouse and toward yourself? You need to validate or nullify your character when considering marriage. Ask things like, "Do I value commitment more than passion?" Do I value commitment more than results? Do I have a character consistent with trustworthiness and gentleness? People always look at marriage as a test of how well their spouse does at being a spouse. The reality is, marriage is a test of your character - that's all.

Seriously man. There's a lot to think about before just backing out or moving forward.

Thank you for the advice. The onlything about commitment with me is that I never had a problem with it when I was younger. Only now I have grown to fear it, or since my divorce. I think the answers to most of the questions I should ask myself is no, at least not at this time. I may change my mind; or I may not. I think what I need to do is just postpone the marriage. The only thing that sucks is that the only time she sees me is when I go to see her, she can't get a VISA. She is buying a new house and getting it refurbished and that will take a month. I will wait until after that to tell her I want to postpone.
In the meantime, the Thai girl broke up with me. She felt that I didnt text her enough when I was away. In a way it's good because it saved me having to break up with her; but now I miss her. But I think it's good since it will help me clear my head as to what I should do next.
I've been very sad since I have come back from South Africa. Also just found out that on the 4th we will find out if my company will be laying people off. Great time to look for a job in this Obama economy, 7.8% published unemployment rate and 15% REAL unemployment if you count those who have given up looking.
I think I learned a valuable lesson from all of this and that's 1-try to date only people near you and/or those that can see you as hard as that may be for me and 2-Be faithful, never cheat.

[Killler]

Wtf....

What kind of mystical elixir of life is keeping this crazy thread alive!?!

[JoeBrooklyn]

Wtf....

What kind of mystical elixir of life is keeping this crazy thread alive!?!

LOL!! LMAO!!
I think it's the title. The fear of dead d**k is a fear of any man; but then once you go in the thread and you see the topic ranges from sexual dysfunction to sexual encounters, to AAS to PCT to hormone imbalances and what to do to politics to personal relationship problems it attracts alot of opinions and people. That's my guess.

[saludable24]

LOL!! LMAO!!
I think it's the title. The fear of dead d**k is a fear of any man; but then once you go in the thread and you see the topic ranges from sexual dysfunction to sexual encounters, to AAS to PCT to hormone imbalances and what to do to politics to personal relationship problems it attracts alot of opinions and people. That's my guess.

This is without a doubt the most interesting and entertaining thread I have followed in years. Good luck figuring things out, Joe. Don't let fear itself make you miss out on a great thing. If there are issues that you see that cannot be resolved, that is one thing; but don't give up something good just because of fear. Letting fear make a decission for us only leads to regret. Making a decission based on real evidence, good logic, and possitive emotion, even if you would come to the same conclussion as fear would lead you to, will always feel better because you controlled the decission and did not let fear control you. Take some time to seriously get some good thinking done on the subject and on yourself; postponing things in order to do this is resonable. You may want to include her in talking about your fear/hesitancy. If she would be understanding enough to help you through this patch of doubt, whatever the conclussion may be, she would be a real keeper if you decide to move forward with marriage. But all this is just my opinion/advice; take it for what it is worth. I wish you luck either way you go.

fueledpassion's advice above is stellar.

[hardwork25]

Don't make any decision either way until you're 6 months off of a cycle and your emotions are in check. You've out some many compounds into your body the last couple months or whatever it is I would suggest letting everything clear, return to homeostasis and then make a clear and unemotional decision. If it was meant to be then 6 moths won't make a difference in the long run bro.

[hardwork25]

Don't make any decision either way until you're 6 months off of a cycle and your emotions are in check. You've out some many compounds into your body the last couple months or whatever it is I would suggest letting everything clear, return to homeostasis and then make a clear and unemotional decision. If it was meant to be then 6 moths won't make a difference in the long run bro.

Jesus guys I apologize for the poor spelling and grammar. I feel like a chick wrote that.

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[usealittle]

WTF!... This thread is 40sum pages long! Fuq....

[hardwork25]

Hey joe I just stated a log if you'd like to follow brotha.

[JoeBrooklyn]

Hey joe I just stated a log if you'd like to follow brotha.

Thank you. Where is it?

[JoeBrooklyn]

Tomorrow will be the beginning of week 3 of PCT. It consists of 2 Forged PCT per day (one in the morning and one at night), 100/mg of Clomid week 1 per day and 50mg per day for the next two weeks, 2 Unleashed in the morning and two at night, 3 Prolactrone per day and beginning in weeks 2 DAA.
So far, although I wake up with erections, my libido seems shot.

[fueledpassion]

Tomorrow will be the beginning of week 3 of PCT. It consists of 2 Forged PCT per day (one in the morning and one at night), 100/mg of Clomid week 1 per day and 50mg per day for the next two weeks, 2 Unleashed in the morning and two at night, 3 Prolactrone per day and beginning in weeks 2 DAA.
So far, although I wake up with erections, my libido seems shot.

This has always been my problem after cycle - functionality is there, desire is not.

[JoeBrooklyn]

This has always been my problem after cycle - functionality is there, desire is not.

So what do you do? I'm beginning to think in my case it may be estrogen too low. I crushed estrogen with letro, so it may already be low before PCT and now Clomid will make it lower.

[iparatroop]

So what do you do? I'm beginning to think in my case it may be estrogen too low. I crushed estrogen with letro, so it may already be low before PCT and now Clomid will make it lower.

Joe, if functionality is there and desire is not, your body just may need more time to naturally start producing test again. You suppressed its ability to do so for a while, it will take a bit to reboot.

[JoeBrooklyn]

Joe, if functionality is there and desire is not, your body just may need more time to naturally start producing test again. You suppressed its ability to do so for a while, it will take a bit to reboot.

Well functionality is at best shotty. Some days I'm fine others I'm not but everyday no desire.

[iparatroop]

See if there is a polyclinic near you. If it's the same as the polyclinic near me, they have great endos and quick results.