Is there a pheramone that will make wives have sex
- 06-27-2007, 10:44 PM
- 06-28-2007, 06:39 AM
- 06-28-2007, 09:18 AM
Of course, it is apparent that you should have and make the time to change some things with yourself to make you more attractive... wether that be for your wife, or for potential other women, or for yourself...
Never stop improving ... women can sense this drive alone and are attracted to it.
I also don't think it can be ALL "bad" .... I'd really like a few more people to chime in and tell me that things are still great after so many years....
06-28-2007, 10:05 AM
Actually she "starts the process" plenty of the time nowadays, that down period was just during a bunch of particularly hard financial stuff right after moving into our first house around 7 years ago. Thats generally what hits you in the crotch first, having a hit in the wallet.
06-28-2007, 11:39 AM
This is why I think you should date someone for a lengthy period of time, to get to know them and find out if you 2 are sexually compatable.
06-28-2007, 01:14 PM
06-29-2007, 05:39 PM
It's Not All Bad...Check It Out!
I'm sure this post (though interesting, funny, etc) is scaring the heck most unmarried guys.
I'm married over 12 years, we have 4 boys (10 and under) and we are loving life together. We are both take care of ourselves because we want to look good and feel good in the arms of each other.
Put your girl first in all you do and she will be swept away and dedicated to you.
No joke... we have sex every day to EOD. In fact I just finished our Lover Lounge. We have a covered porch and she begged me to tile the floor, screen it in, install hot tub, wicker furniture, etc. 1st night the hot tub went live...bamb! hot sex in the backyard!!! Women love a man that provides physically and emotionally.
Marry the right one and you'll only marry once!
07-02-2007, 01:38 AM
07-02-2007, 08:58 AM
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07-02-2007, 09:30 AM
All married guys seem to go through this, I am no different. We are at 7 years married now, and it really does ebb and flow. Dont necessarily blame it on her focus on the kids, there are usually other things involved. We have a 4 year old, and I can tell you, that it does make it a bit rough, but as was said previously, the have to sleep.
It is usually based on financial issues where I have noticied the biggest drop, however, if you have to scrounge together a few hundred bucks for a night out and a babysitter it will be worth it
07-02-2007, 09:31 AM
Oh don't get me wrong, we have sex about once every 4-5 weeks, which is better than nothing, but frustrating. We have sex as long as I initiate it. I can only remember 1 or 2 times since we have been married(11 years) that she actually initiated sex. It would be nice for her to initiate it every once in a while, so at least it seems like she cares.
I don't know what to do next.
Every year, once or twice a year we take a long weekend and go somewhere, just the two of us. It's usually great. The last time was in December. We had sex twice in three days and when we got back, after a week went by with nothing, I asked her what happened. Why when we were on vacation it was so good and now, nothing. She said that vacation is different and now we are back in the real world. Sex that often doesn't happen in the real world. WTF?
If i have to work this hard just for sex once a month, then I just don't think that it's worth it.
07-02-2007, 12:53 PM
Does your wife worry about you straying? As in finding someone to give you what she's not?
07-02-2007, 01:33 PM
She swears they never had sex, but she said they did kiss. After asking her several times over a couple of months if she even wanted to try to save our marriage and her answering yes, she started going to counseling. About three weeks later I went with her for a while. I knew it would take time, so I was patient. I've been trying to do everything that she said I wasn't doing and be as loving and caring as possible. The only thing I was asking from her was sex more often. A couple of months we actually had sex twice a month, but that didn't last long. That brings us up to now.
Now I know I'm far from perfect, but I have been nothing but faithful and loyal to her since we were married. I've always done the laundry, dishes, vacuuming, all the yard work, and I cook most of the time(hell I sound like the woman), since we've been married. If anyone had a reason to go outside the marriage for anything, it was me. Maybe that is part of the problem, she knows I will never be unfaithful to her. I don't know
Anyway I'm just throwing this out there for possible advice. I'm not looking for any pity or anyone to feel sorry for me, just for suggestions. Thanks.
07-02-2007, 01:45 PM
I dated / almost married a girl for over 3 years. During this time we made like rabits, and had the greatest love life you could possibly imagine. Kitchen, bathroom, living room, everywhere... All the time.
Anyways, she went off to Europe for a summer back packing and came back with a tail of sexcapades after quite a bit of coaxing. She felt really guilty, cried her little head off, and I forgave her. She graduated a semester before me, and so she setup in a townhouse for gradschool and hooked me up with the townhouse right next to hers. Turns out, she never really had 'loved' me anymore after that summer, and it was just a relationship of convenience and co-dependence rather than love. I did like you, and took care of everything I could, and gave her massages, did all the really good BF stuff. Gifts, cards, flowers etc... She was a nerd girl so I even built her computers.
Long story short, a semester into grad school, an Aussy fllies in she had met online, they make like rabits, and she invites me over the next day to 'fix' her computer. Up stairs looked like a war had happened with bedding everywhere, lamp knocked over, and used wrappers as far as the eye could see.
Anyways, writing on the wall was she didn't really 'love' me, she just 'needed' me. She still admits that I'm the best damn thing she ever had in bed, but she can dominate this other poor fool who's a chef, and doesn't have a degree to speak of.
I lived next door to this non-sense for over a year, listening to the rabits go at it.
Maybe I'm bitter, but it's sort of what they say about guys too, once they wander, they never come home.
There's obviously a reason she's not that interested, and it's probably because she really isn't. An honest sit down talk about your relationship, not involving sex is in order. Figure out what's really 'up' because she probably hasn't even thought about it as much as listened to her sub-conscious turn her sex drive into a puddle of mud.
If she was really happy, it would still be like you were dating. She'd still be jumping your bones every chance she got.
My opinion, nip it in the bud now before it brews into a full blown episodic trip in bizarro world.
07-02-2007, 02:54 PM
1meand...I have no advice for you bro. You're in one tough situation. You're a better man than me for sticking with things the way you have.
This is not advice for you: I would move on and never look back. If it was me, that's what I would do. But, obviously, you're not me and I'd never tell somebody else to do something like that.
Sorry man. I hope things get better for ya, whichever way they go.
07-02-2007, 03:09 PM
Yeah, I don't have much advice there either. Its definitely a hard situation to be in 1meand. It does sounds like you still trust her, which probably is the hardest part. I know that would be the worst for me, trying to trust her afterwards. forgetting about the "crap you have to do to keep a house running" do you have other things in common that you do together? or ones that you could do together? Or is pretty much all of both of your lives tied up in 40+ hrs a week of work and then dealing with household duties.
07-02-2007, 05:10 PM
07-03-2007, 02:52 AM
1Meand your situation makes me truly sad. I would look at this with open eyes though and if in your heart you feel she truly loves you then stay with her and she will be more than willing to fix it up. There is much counselling needed here if this is the case....
and if not....it's time to get your personal house in order, because it's not good for you, your wife, your kids or anyone else. This sounds pretty toxic to all involved. Do what's right and talk to a counsellor either way.
Don't delay finding the love you deserve in life, if the one you truly love has moved on....<tears n sadness>
I hope you receive all you truly deserve in life...
<3 Neoborn <3
07-03-2007, 09:31 AM
You guys never heard of that exotice substance that improves libido in over 90% of the female population. Its so common that most most men overlook it, although women can rarely walk by it without giving it a glance.
Jewelry, dropping panties since the stone age.
07-03-2007, 09:42 AM
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07-06-2007, 08:09 PM
It only gets worse bro. 20 years and 4 kids later she got a hysterectomy and all I got are real big forearms.
07-06-2007, 10:23 PM
Thank goodness we can all make a "thank you" donation to the guy who invented the "Fleshlight" most definitely a married man
Last edited by neoborn; 07-06-2007 at 10:25 PM. Reason: LOL fleshlight
07-07-2007, 01:28 PM
07-07-2007, 10:05 PM
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07-10-2007, 09:20 PM
07-17-2007, 11:04 AM
This thread really shows a lot of truths about women and what they want/need from a relationship.
Whilst i have not married yet, i have had a number of GF's. And out of those the ones with the lowest libido were the ones i doted on most. I would never condone an outlandish concept such as the classic "treat em mean, keep em keen!" however it has become clear to me that women are all about the big picture. Sex for them, whilst enjoyable, is not a full on NEED for them, at least not daily or even weekly. Its like blokes and washing up or vacuuming. We dont mind it, it makes us feel pretty good too. But if it doesnt happen then its not the end of the world is it.
Thats the closest i can come to an analogy on the subject. Women have sex to keep their man 80% of the time and 20% to satisfy their urges. These are just the observed percentages pre marriage/childbirth, prolly closer to 90/10 later on.
If a woman doesn't want sex its because she's either not happy enough in her life or she's getting her oats elsewhere. If presents and help around the house, massages etc don't work, then she's getting it somewhere else.
Unfortunately for 1meand, she had sex with someone else and cannot come to terms with the guilt. She fell out of love with you and strayed and now she cant let go. She's not confused, she's scared, scared of the repercussions of what she has done and scared because she cant deal with them. It's a sad sad story my friend.
07-19-2007, 10:43 AM
07-26-2007, 05:05 PM
so you should have to be an ass kissing indentured beast of burden to get laid by ur wife? your joking right?? your wife should have sex with you because you want to have sex! it's part of her JOB as your WIFE, just like it is part of your job as her mate to have sex with/ get her off whenever she has those needs/feelings, the idea that people, men or women should have to so some elaborate song and dance to/for their mate to have their sexual needs met is rediculous, that's one major thing mates are for! you should be there for your mates sexual needs! period! male or female! if you aren't then you are being a ****ty mate!
07-26-2007, 05:10 PM
07-26-2007, 05:49 PM
07-26-2007, 05:54 PM
sex drive is somewhat besides the point, at some point the relevance of libido is replaced by being a good mate/partner, and ONE responsibility which is implicit in such a relationship is being there for your significant other's sexual needs... PERIOD, sex is on a biological level WHY WE LIVE! it's unnatural and unhealthy to only want it one every 1-2 months or whatever the case is... these women are sexually disfunctional, and bad mates! Period!
07-26-2007, 05:57 PM
07-26-2007, 06:02 PM
07-30-2007, 07:59 PM
07-30-2007, 08:34 PM
Your prolly just a freckle faced chubby yourself masturbating over kiddies at your PC monitor. Judge what you like but send unjustifiable linguistic, malcontented teenage claptrap like that my way and i will respond appropriately
07-30-2007, 08:59 PM
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