unmotivated fat loser

kw1k · 03-10-2008, 03:08 AM

sums up my brother in a nutshell.

This kid is 17 years old, smokes cigarettes, smokes pot, doesn't exercise for ****, and was diagnosed with diabetes when he was 13 years old.

If he continues this **** he's not going to live past 40 years old. How the **** can i motivate this guy? How can i get him to start taking care of his health. I've talked to him about it and his responses is "i don't care". Well ***** you better starting caring unless you want to have heart problems in the future

He has a bad back due to poor posture, and doing dead lifts incorrectly for about 4 months than he stopped his whole "gym" phase.

**methodice** · 03-10-2008, 03:17 AM

non judgement, tolerance, time.

kw1k · 03-10-2008, 03:21 AM

Thats my problem man, and i cant get over it. I always judge him and i can tell it annoys him but I get so frustrated when i see him this way. In the past 2 months he has gained about 10 lbs.

**methodice** · 03-10-2008, 03:29 AM

Try and relax about it all. Be a good role model and let him notice in his own good time.

**methodice** · 03-10-2008, 03:31 AM

oh and don't refer to him as an unmotivated fat loser

datBtrue · 03-10-2008, 05:48 AM

Get him interested in girls.

**SilentBob187** · 03-10-2008, 07:07 AM

Tell him that chicks dig three things, abs (shenanigans), biceps (shenanigans), and mullets (hell yeah!).

In all seriousness though, the only person that can motivate him to get in to the gym is going to be himself.

If you wanna be really mean, turn him in for posession. He's still considered a juvenile so he wouldn't be in for long, it could possibly put his life in perspective. Of course he wouldn't want to speak to you after this.

Or you could go Clockwork Orange on him and tape his eyelids open and make him watch Pumping Iron on loop.

It's early and I'm full of ideas.

Palo Alto Labs · 03-11-2008, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by datBtrue

Get him interested in girls.

best motivator in the world

unfortunately there is little that you can do or say to get his head in the game.. ... some people just really dont care.. it sounds like he could be depressed or have a negative attitute towards life (some people who are diagnosed with diseases at a young age have this because they feel that life is entirely negative)

neoborn · 03-11-2008, 09:45 AM

Sadly there is nothing you can do to 'make' him do anything. You can however express your concerns in a loving way and explain that you truly believe that you have a way to fix some of these problems over the course of time. Find something he would really like to fix and work on that with him.....baby steps!

KSMA · 03-11-2008, 10:09 AM

I used to be 300+lbs when I was 19 and I am 6'3". For me it took a friend I had not seen in a while telling me bluntly that "I got fat" and "I looked terrible" to change. 100 pounds later i am a much healthier person thanks to him.

As for your brother, be honest with him, make sure he fully understands what is happening to his body and the danger involved. Express your concern as his older brother for his health and well being. You and your parents can help change his lifestyle by changing what foods are kept around the house, and attempting to limit the amount of junk he can eat.

Sometimes all it takes is seeing a positive result to desire further results. Offer help and support and hope he takes it. It wont happen overnight, you will have to struggle with him over this, bad habits are hard to break.

Also, I do agree, girls are great motivation.

wastedwhiteboy2 · 03-11-2008, 12:43 PM

at age 17 its too late to change a person. You could always kick his azz.

teribleturtle · 03-14-2008, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by wastedwhiteboy2

at age 17 its too late to change a person. You could always kick his azz.

Disagree, at 17 I was what can be considered a loser ( gangs, drugs, doing dirt) went to Jr. College got my act together, went to university and now its deciding between; Berkeley, U of Maryland, NYU, and M.I.T. for my Masters in Urban Planning. All I saying is that all hope is not lost at 17, I am with the previous person suggesting "Girls" they sure are an EXCELLENT MOTIVATOR!!

datBtrue · 03-14-2008, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by teribleturtle

Disagree, at 17 I was what can be considered a loser ( gangs, drugs, doing dirt) went to Jr. College got my act together, went to university and now its deciding between; Berkeley, U of Maryland, NYU, and M.I.T. for my Masters in Urban Planning. All I saying is that all hope is not lost at 17, I am with the previous person suggesting "Girls" they sure are an EXCELLENT MOTIVATOR!!

Awesome bro! I don't even know you but I'm proud of you.

I see you are a Terrapin...fingers crossed they make it to the dance on Sunday.

**ValorOfOne** · 03-15-2008, 03:13 PM

One word....

Military. Get his ass to sign up, even if he can't make it through Bootcamp, his ass will have a new found perspective on life.

If he is far to obese for that road.. I suggest taking his laptop,weed,books,tv,xbox360 and throw them in the trash, then set the trash can on fire.

What will that accomplish? He will have nothing to do, and will be forced to look for other options. Or, you could just lock the fridge.

**Highlanda01602** · 03-17-2008, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ValorOfOne

One word....

Military. Get his ass to sign up, even if he can't make it through Bootcamp, his ass will have a new found perspective on life.

If he is far to obese for that road.. I suggest taking his laptop,weed,books,tv,xbox360 and throw them in the trash, then set the trash can on fire.

What will that accomplish? He will have nothing to do, and will be forced to look for other options. Or, you could just lock the fridge.

I speak very highly of our military, but that may be too much of a jump...
Try to spark his interest in sports. Monotonous cardio or the beginner weight lifting routines aren't the most alluring ideas to many. But if there is a goal in mind, say to become faster/stronger/BETTER, a new mindset forms. In either case however, you have to accept an individual for who they are.

**MashedPotato** · 03-17-2008, 03:50 AM

Actually wont the military turn him away and tell in no uncertain manner to "come back when you've lost 100lbs".

In all reality though, i think the girl thing really is a good idea. Just the idea of having more "ladies" checking me out, helps me go that extra mile in the gym.

...now if only i could use the ladies motivator to get my coursework done....

(im stuck in DC trying to get my coursework done, whilst watching american gangsta....ha)