[B5150]

Originally Posted by Beau

Please include me/my daughter/this reconciliation in your prayers' sepcifically that God will give me the strength to focus on my daughter's hurt and feelings; ignoring the inaccuracy of the distorted views provided to her by her mother.

This is a major breakthrough.

Thanks be to God.

You're a good man. Will do.

[nightshift]

As some of you know.the fabric of my family hangs by a thread.Please my friends. pray to whatever God you believe in that I find the strength to hold my family together and ease my vengeful heart.

[Beau]

Originally Posted by nightshift

As some of you know.the fabric of my family hangs by a thread.Please my friends. pray to whatever God you believe in that I find the strength to hold my family together and ease my vengeful heart.

You will be in my prayers tonight. And, for the record, I pray to God, the One who sent Jesus to die for our sins.

[Bum Mahoney]

Prayers for peace are en route.

If you are interested, pm me, I have a great book that deals with this issue and may be of interest.

[Rugger]

Prayer has saved me many times. My father once reminded me of something when our family was inches from collapse, bankruptcy, and essentially being homeless. He said that God will lead us to the edge of the red sea over and over again, only to prove and remind us that through Him all things are possible. He will lead you to the edge of life only to save you again. With him there is no impossible. I am remind myself of this every single day.

My generic nightly prayer usually goes something like this:

Lord thank you for this day and all you have blessed me with. Tonight I pray that you continue to bless me, my family, my friends, those who seek you and those who don't.

[supersize77]

I just want to say that prayer allowed my battalion to make it through a seven month combat tour in Iraq with NO KIA...it is truly miraculous, one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced and primarily due, I believe, to the power of prayer. All praise, honor, and glory to Jesus Christ.

[rusty319]

I don't post here often, but I just came across this thread. My father is going to get one of his heart valves replaced on July 15th. He is 71 and has congestive heart failure and COPD. the doctors are concerned about his coming out of the anesthesia all right. I ask for prayers that the surgery is successful and for full recovery. I further ask for prayer that he come to faith in Christ as he is a non-believer.

Thanks and God's blessings upon you.

[B5150]

Thanks for joining in men. Prayer and praise all around.

[Beau]

I need to ask a favor. It is now almost 100% certain that I will be meeting with my daughter’s counselor and my daughter on Friday, July 11th at 5:00. Except for a very brief meeting on October 5, 2007 and an approximate 90 second discussion on Father’s Day - this will be the first time I will have seen her since September 3, 2007.

OK Kids – this is hard to admit – but I am scared out of my wits. I know, based on conversations I’ve had with my daughter’s counselor, that the first meeting will involve me being told about all of the bad things I’ve ever done; how I am supposedly responsible for my ex-wife’s affairs and decision to leave, and the counselor says most of these things are based on her mother’s self-serving fabrication. Still, I will need to sit there, absorb everything and try to understand my daughter’s feelings regardless of the validity of what she has to say (i.e., separating the truth of her feelings, from her mother’s fiction). That is the only important thing at this point – that my daughter “sees” that I understand. On top of this, the counselor tells me that my daughter will be on the lookout for anything that might suggest to my daughter that she “was right all along” to avoid me – meaning she is predisposed towards coming to the conclusion that it was right for her to stay away from me – this being done to help reduce my daughter’s own guilt over siding with her mother and having chosen to stay away from me for over 10 months. So, I’ll simultaneously have to listen to what a bad guy I’ve supposedly been, while understanding my daughter’s feelings and do these things while looking composed, natural and remorseful.

I honestly don’t think I can do this on my own strength, and am asking that you keep this situation in your prayers – especially between now and then.

This is such a meaningful and pivotal event in my life – I would really appreciate your support.

[crader]

Good luck Beau!!

She should have a chance to have her say, but in fairness your daughter is old enough to hear the truth and your side of it as well. And also to hear that you have missed her and didnt want her in the middle of it and that you can't wait for the day she decides to come back in to your life. And that you will be there for her when she is ready.

[B5150]

Originally Posted by Beau

I need to ask a favor. It is now almost 100% certain that I will be meeting with my daughter’s counselor and my daughter on Friday, July 11th at 5:00. Except for a very brief meeting on October 5, 2007 and an approximate 90 second discussion on Father’s Day - this will be the first time I will have seen her since September 3, 2007.

OK Kids – this is hard to admit – but I am scared out of my wits. I know, based on conversations I’ve had with my daughter’s counselor, that the first meeting will involve me being told about all of the bad things I’ve ever done; how I am supposedly responsible for my ex-wife’s affairs and decision to leave, and the counselor says most of these things are based on her mother’s self-serving fabrication. Still, I will need to sit there, absorb everything and try to understand my daughter’s feelings regardless of the validity of what she has to say (i.e., separating the truth of her feelings, from her mother’s fiction). That is the only important thing at this point – that my daughter “sees” that I understand. On top of this, the counselor tells me that my daughter will be on the lookout for anything that might suggest to my daughter that she “was right all along” to avoid me – meaning she is predisposed towards coming to the conclusion that it was right for her to stay away from me – this being done to help reduce my daughter’s own guilt over siding with her mother and having chosen to stay away from me for over 10 months. So, I’ll simultaneously have to listen to what a bad guy I’ve supposedly been, while understanding my daughter’s feelings and do these things while looking composed, natural and remorseful.

I honestly don’t think I can do this on my own strength, and am asking that you keep this situation in your prayers – especially between now and then.

This is such a meaningful and pivotal event in my life – I would really appreciate your support.

I preface this with the utmost respect - it is all your fault. Meaning if you claim with all of your heart to be the head of your family than own it - all of it. Every bit of it. I am not suggesting guilt. What I am suggesting is redemption for all from all of it. Submit yourself in humility as the sacrifice for those who are worth dieing for. Remember that an innocent man freely accepted death for you. Remember!

Your daughter will learn about the man you are and the God you believe in by the way you respond to accusations, true or false. Be that man.

To be meek - Definitions from Dictionary.com is one thing. I understand by the example of your God that meekness has even greater definition - power under restraint.

BibleGateway.com - Passage Lookup: Matthew 5:3-12;

I think you understand what I mean. I am posting this to be a tool of empowerment. You and I are empowered to be sacrifices as well as witness. Even more a witness is our sacrifice.

You will be in my prayer.

[Beau]

Originally Posted by B5150

I preface this with the utmost respect - it is all your fault. Meaning if you claim with all of your heart to be the head of your family than own it - all of it. Every bit of it. I am not suggesting guilt. What I am suggesting is redemption for all from all of it. Submit yourself in humility as the sacrifice for those who are worth dieing for. Remember that an innocent man freely accepted death for you. Remember!

Your daughter will learn about the man you are and the God you believe in by the way you respond to accusations, true or false. Be that man.

To be meek - Definitions from Dictionary.com is one thing. I understand by the example of your God that meekness has even greater definition - power under restraint.

BibleGateway.com - Passage Lookup: Matthew 5:3-12;

I think you understand what I mean. I am posting this to be a tool of empowerment. You and I are empowered to be sacrifices as well as witness. Even more a witness is our sacrifice.

You will be in my prayer.

Yes, I agree. And I tried to be the head of the family, and yet the family unit failed despite my best efforts and continued attempts to glorify God during awful times. I struggle with that. I realize that I need to be humble and be willing to die for my family, and I am trying on that front as well; although it hurts to receive false allegations. It hurts, emotionally and also financially. I realize that God gave my wife the free will she used to sleep with other men. I realize that I control only what I do, say think and how I behave. She has to own her behaviors.

In all I do, I want to glorify God. The rest of the hurts (meaning my own), I'll take - but I am grieving the hurts experienced by my children. I miss having my family in-tact; and it hurts that it will never again be in-tact.

[manifesto]

First, I just want to say that I think it is great what we have going here. It is such a comfort to know that there are fellow believers on here that experience the same struggles in life.

Right now I am experiencing a major trial in my life. My mom is experiencing what we believe is "Brief Psychotic Disorder." http://www.webmd.com/schizophrenia/g...hotic-disorder

My mom is a woman who cares deeply about her family, she spends every waking moment thinking about the well-being of all of us. It has gotten to the point now that all of these different worries in life have gotten the best of her. I know God will pull us through this, its just very hard to see my mom in this condition. So please please keep her in your prayers and tell fellow believers to also lift her up. Her name is Dorothy.

I thank all of you guys in advance from the bottom of my heart.

God Bless
Daryl

[B5150]

This is not unusual. Please don't be hesitant to have her see a doctor. Seriously. There is no need for her to suffer when there is help for short term or long term management of this very common issue.

Prayer is very powerful. Medical treatment is as well. Do both when necessary.