If you have kids/been divorced/in court/on probation, PLEASE READ!
- 02-05-2008, 08:01 AM
You gotta control that temper, especially for your child. I know it can be hard to do, but you HAVE to for you son. You sound like a decent guy that made a bad decision and have somewhat of a temper.. your ex knew this. Do what you can for your son, but most importantly, let petty fighting to the wayside...there is no point in it.
- 02-05-2008, 08:09 AM
Well, most people refuse to work at fastfood resturants because America has been way too kind to them thus far. McDonald's also has tuition reimbursement.
Not to be a ****, but I am offering a solution to your problem as it stands. If something else comes along better then that's great, but McDonald's does offer benefits to full-time workers.
Everyday that you do not work, you are losing out on what you could be making in that day. (Opportunity Cost....for all you econ. buffs).
02-05-2008, 08:38 AM
02-05-2008, 10:18 AM
do your attorneys need to talk to each other. Have they done this.
Any job is better than no job.
No matter how angry you are you must stay out of trouble and follow the rules of your probation.
It is great that you are looking to pay child support. Is there a way that you can get visitation rights as well. The sooner you start to have interaction with your son the more your anger may go away and you will start developing a special bond with your son. Do not pick your son up at your ex's alone as you should go with another person to make sure no conflict occurs.
02-05-2008, 10:39 AM
02-05-2008, 11:29 AM
I must say I'm biased on this one.
But most important where you mention telling your son what has happened, I have 3 kids and am divorced. You have no right to burden your child with the sins of the mother. Your relationship failure has nothing to do with how she parents her son. Children deserve the right to love both parents without taking on your issues.
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02-05-2008, 01:21 PM
How does the Clomid manage to do that?
I can't believe that I'm actually finding your idea to be enlightening. To megadose Clomid, get my ex to deepthroat me, then gag her and make her choke on a thick load of my manjuice.
How much are we talking here?
02-05-2008, 01:21 PM
the recording is only an issue over the phone so far as I know. Recording in person interactions is different.
02-05-2008, 01:27 PM
Now, I'm worried about my ex leaving our son with her mother. I do believe my ex is much smarter (we've talked about it several times before) than to leave him with her mother. Her mother has a nasty past with CPS. She used to abuse my ex while she was growing up and still continues to. She abused her ex-husband, too. Oh, and let's not forget about her assaulting me. She also recently tried making accusations towards my mother at work (they both work at the hospital) and my mother almost lost her job. My ex's mother gets a kick out of all this. I already heard a rumor that she supposively said that she wasn't gonna have much to do with her grandson. Most likely because he's partly mine. I wouldn't put it past her, to hurt him just to hurt him, or to even try setting me up and calling the cops on me. I'm worried about him being abused. I'm extremely worried about this. I understand that while he's in my ex's custody, she can parent him how she wants and the same goes for me. But, what if I feel my ex's mother is a threat to him and my ex leaves him with her while she's at school or work? Am I allowed to call Social Services and for a police escort, and go pick up my son? Afterall, I have more rights to my son than his grandmother.
02-05-2008, 01:42 PM
do you know if there ever were any actual calls in to the police on her for the abuse?
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02-05-2008, 08:25 PM
My ex's father has had sole custody over her for years. Her mother has always had issues and still does. Her mother always gives her and her father a hard time. Her mother didn't have the best life growing up, so that could possibly contribute to why she is the way she is. She's just very spiteful, rude, and downright mean. She always knew better than to hit my ex in front of me because I would've gone crazy. I'm against child abuse and I won't even be spanking my child. I don't believe in it.
My ex's mother now tells people that she's 'afraid' of me. Well, hm. I'd be afraid of somebody who I falsely accused and put into jail, too.
02-06-2008, 04:24 AM
Damn man you are a trooper.......all i can say is keep on keeping on.........and i do believe that if you get in front of the judge and make it clear you find her mother a threat to your, your ex's, and your child's continued health, the judge will make it clear the child is not to stay with her. he can require there be others around when she see her grandson, if she chooses to see him. ill talk to my sister a bit more about all this.......she is currently finishing up law school and is very knowledgeable about these kind of cases
02-06-2008, 09:05 AM
You can get your lawyer to go in and file a temporary visitation schedule that will enable you to see your son while the court stuff is going on.
You can pull police reports and get statements from family , people who know the exs mom, etc to write documents for you stating her violence.
02-06-2008, 02:31 PM
I'll talk to my family lawyer about pulling up any possible records about my ex's mother. I doubt I'll be able to get statements from friends or family members of hers. They wouldn't give me statements that would help me get what my ex's mother doesn't want.
All I know is, if my ex and her father go to court and try fighting my attempt to get just joint custody, then they truly are selfish and possessive people. It'll be out in the open. It'll be clear.
I won't be surprised if my ex and/or her mother get charged with perjury. They constantly lie. I've heard that this judge in family court has a nack for people who lie and talk shiit. He'll be able to tell if my ex is lying, kissing his ass, sucking up, etc. That'll be interesting to see. Her and her family need to hear my rights be established, by the judge himself, or else they won't believe what anybody says. They think they know it all, so they go by what they think they know. This will be a wakeup call for their family, especially my ex. I know she'll eventually hold this against me. She's the kind of person who would say something like, "You think you're such a big man by taking me to court?" She'd just throw things in my face, be rude, etc., even if I'm willing to maintain a friendship with her. She doesn't understand, I must do this for our son and myself. I have rights and I want them protected.
02-06-2008, 02:33 PM
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