Going to see a psychologist this thursday...
- 11-04-2008, 01:04 AM
Going to see a psychologist this thursday...
I've suffered from social anxiety for years. I started taking Zoloft about 3 months ago to help, and it did, for about 2 months. Now, I'm completely unmotivated aside from working out and eating well.. Literally, those are the ONLY 2 things that I can get excited about on a regular basis, those are the only 2 things that bring me joy lately. Not sure how this Thursday is going to go, but I cannot wait to get in there and get things figured out. I feel worthless, I'm pretty certain I'm falling into a depression.. It's been a rough few weeks w/ no sign of improvement. Really hoping my appointment will bring some type of relief in all this. I'm literally sabotaging and self-destructing my progress in school, and my relationships. Not good.
- 11-04-2008, 01:10 AM
Well i know that acts of kindness raise your seratonin levels and immune system function. Volunteer for a worthy cause, you will feel great about yourself. I think when you get "down"
you have to ask yourself what am i doing to ensure i feel amazing? Live amazingly and you will feel better, help people, watch inspirational movies, hug people, volunteer, spend time with your family doing fun things...
I dont think drugs can "fix" you, experts give you advice but its up to you to make the changes, you can do it buddy, heres some karma!!
11-04-2008, 01:12 AM
11-04-2008, 01:31 AM
I went to a psychologist a couple years back. I was depressed. MASSIVELY depressed. This was before I found religion, and all such things.
I still remember is name, his office, his advice. Matt was his name.
He worked with me alot. At first it was a weekly visits on Wednesdays for an hour. After about 4 months of that, I improved enough to do every 2 weeks. Then once a month. And finally came the day I walked into his office, we talked and we shook hands for the last time, and I was a new being. He did all he could do, I wasnt perfect, but I now had the tools to work on myself with. I walked out of that office for the last time, and closed one chapter of my book, and opened another.
Sadly after that I went through the hell with my girlfriend (she was jumping back and forth during the time I was going to him. He was one of the reasons I didnt lose it) then she chose me. For awhile life was perfect. Then hell, then super hell. I was depressed again.
But once you learn to deal with it, those tools never go away. you might have to learn to re apply them to new situations.
He will most likely at one point show you and explain the wheel system of balancing your life.
I too have a habit of sabotaging my school, putting myself in debt, and ignoring friends. Unless they need my help, which is when I actually feel good.
Being needed, and being helpful to other people helps ALOT. The gym is where I get out my frustration and pain. Church was the best medicine. Besides a source of never ending love. I am a youth leader, and I drive a church van with all these little kids who call me Mr. Paul and get excited when they see me, and hug me when they go by. I have friends who call or talk to me when they need help.
Be a beacon of light for others, and the light you shine shall consume the darkness within.
Life isnt perfect, and my mind often finds ways to try and drag me down. Which is why I will get into games or just sleep, or lay there and daydream all day.
It is a process you must go through. The war in your mind is just as real to you as it is to an american soldier in Iraq. Psychologists understand this, they know that ones mind can make ANYTHING real to oneself. And it is not just a simple matter of "shut up and suck it up" it holds real dangers, and can hurt really bad bro...
Do you think it could have anything to do with your 2 weekers your doing?
Also man, you can PM me anytime you need. And if you ever wanted I could pass you my #. My job in life, as a person going to be a teacher, youth pastor, and personal trainer, is to help others. I cannot exist without serving.
You have probably seen me on here lately going through things. I go through 1 or 2 weekers sperts, but I know I will get out of it. I lost my job, dealing with my ex again(cant avoid the person situations suck), but I find help in a couple people on here, and by helping others.
SWG is right, serving others, makes you worth something, in a world full of selfless people, you make a difference, when you extend your arms, in a world of apparently limbless torso's....
11-04-2008, 01:59 AM
Don't worry zarka, we're all pullin' for ya. You'll come out on top sooner or later. I've been in this situation and can honestly say that things will get better. [img]http://*************.net/happy-smiley-794.gif[/img]
11-04-2008, 02:08 AM
Thanks a bunch guys and gals. The encouragement is very nice .
Zero, I really appreciate you sharing that with me, I know exactly what you're talking about when it comes to God and the never-ending love that He provides.. It's just that at the moment, that seems sooo far away. I'd be more apt to think that my 2 weekers were the cause of this if it only affected me on "off" weeks, but this is just non-stop.
11-04-2008, 02:16 AM
Yeah there are plenty of times some of us feel like God is just too far away. hang in it bro. Like I said these psychologist are really good at what they do. Well some are. If you arent feeling the psychologist, drop em and move on to another. You have to find one that clicks, I got lucky and had one my first try.
11-04-2008, 02:29 AM
Nothing wrong with not wanting to socialize with people or do things that are boring when you have other things that interest you.
Been to a Psychiatrist before just to f**k with her head, there's a "model" or right way everyone should act, they believe to be "normal".
So what if you don't want to socialize with people? I can't stand direct eye contact and cuss people out if they keep starring, I hate being to parties because I stand most "men", don't like being around people I don't know and I get agitated and want to hit everyone that moves or makes noise.
You're not coming from a burger facility, where everyone looks the same, people are different.
If you have no interest in something, that's because it's boring, if you get social anxiety, it's because that situation is lame and you can't bring yourself to the level of the people around you, either retarded, socially stupid or all the above, neurotypicals can be the worst people to deal with.
11-04-2008, 03:05 AM
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11-04-2008, 03:11 AM
11-04-2008, 03:16 AM
11-04-2008, 03:25 AM
11-04-2008, 03:37 AM
I had it rough in elementary school myself. But I had to get over that.
Nowadays I have really bad teeth, even though I spend a lot of time taking care of them, genetics screwed me. I don't like to smile, girls seem to still be attracted to me though because I am usually the only dedicated, nice, give all to someone in need guy they ever met. But I still always hate my teeth, and compare. I always say if it wasn't for my teeth, I would be in amazing shape for anything.
I got over it. I had to, no one has said a thing to me about my teeth in years. Unless its when I complain about them, and they try to be a good friend and tell me it's not that bad.
You have to carve your own rules out for yourself bro. Limit yourself not you the people around you. See yourself 2 years from now. Think of how far you have come from before. And realize that people probably think a lot more of you than you think they do. We are our own worst critics.
Also the coming up with stuff to talk about part is something that just takes practice, and letting yourself not care. It took me a few years of trial and error before I was able to have witty comments, or to be able to influence a discussion into a goal I desired.
11-04-2008, 11:38 AM
Since you're going to see a professional, I'll refrain from offering my amateurish advice....I did want to offer my support though...Its things like this (and Rodjas thread) that make me still enjoy posting on message boards...seeing guys be supportive of people they dont even know is very encouraging to say the least...good luck!
11-04-2008, 11:39 AM
11-04-2008, 02:09 PM
Oz, have you looked into nootropics (they're OTC)? If not, I suggest you look into them. You can buy them in bulk powders if you like so you can cap them as you see fit.
Hope all is well,
11-04-2008, 02:14 PM
11-04-2008, 02:24 PM
I do corporate presenting and it's good to have something to mellow me out if I get a little too excited Also, I'm looking for a good memory enhancer. Keep me posted on how Pic and PEA work for you.
11-04-2008, 02:27 PM
11-04-2008, 02:30 PM
hey ozarka. i know how you feel, though we are different as of now. i used to think i was afraid of people. but now i realize that i was just afraid of myself as well, of everything. i realized that when i looked at people, i was seeing my own uncertainty in their eyes. in short, each set of eyes i looked into was my own uncertainty staring back at me. because i guess on the subconscious level i did wonder and still wonder why existence is. yeah, some existential bullshet.
but now i've come to enjoy looking in others' eyes. now that i see that. not living life is not going to benefit you or me. find your way just as i am trying to. it's good you're taking steps. keep taking them.
p.s.- i find that i am really enjoying GABA (it's in the White Flood I am taking for a log) and I am taking some Relora on the side with my vitamin post-workout. These things seem to make me "chill." I sleep like a champ as well (with vivid dreams).
Get better, champ.
11-04-2008, 02:32 PM
Thanks a lot for the encouragement, means a lot. That goes for all you lovely AMers!
11-04-2008, 02:37 PM
11-04-2008, 03:24 PM
11-04-2008, 03:24 PM
Good luck man! Hopefully this kinda feeling can end for you sooner or later as you work things out..
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