5'6" 95lbs............... Need help.

[jedirye]

I'll admit, the subject is misleading, however true. My boyfriend's sister is approximately 5'6" and only 95lbs. She realizes this is not a healthy weight. She is a tiny thing to begin with. She has a kid (5 years old or something) and when she was pregnant with him (or shortly after) she weighed approximately 120lbs and felt she was really healthy. However, stress has entered her life because of her boyfriend problems, etc. and she states she has a bad habit of skipping meals, not feeling hungry, etc. What does she need to do? She wanted to go to the gym with me but bailed. I have no idea what I would do with her there? I guess just lift weights or what?? What does she need to be eating to put on weight healthily (ie not Micky D's, etc). Typically, you see the opposite problems hence my complete lack of any idea of how to help her!

Thanks!

-rye

 

[Knowbull]

First I would make sure there is no hidden eating disorder, bulimia, anorexia. She just maybe naturally thin, with a high metabolism.

 

[Rosie Chee]

Definitely check out if there is an eating disorder. Even if she IS naturally thin with a high metabolism, as Knowbull suggested, she should still NOT be anywhere that low in mass. Get her EATING, especially if she's skipping meals. Anything (it's actually VERY hard to eat a LOT if you're eating clean all the time). Get her in the gym, trying to gain mass, perhaps (unless she has an eating problem, because then it's NOT healthy). Stay away from cardio. See a medical professional or suggest that she sees someone about it. A dietician perhaps, who can put together an eating plan for her, and explain the importance of eating, etc.

 

[somewhatgifted]

Get her to eat more fresh fruit and vegetables and show her how to make delicious protein smoothies to get her tasty calories. Stress is bad so any time you make her laugh of feel good does alot for her. All the best.

 

[jedirye]

For the record, she does not have an eating disorder.

I will take any advice, so keep it coming. Appreciate it!

 

[ludacris007]

when i hear something like this i think endocrine problem once a eating disorder is ruled out. maybe she has an overactive thyroid. there are several autoimmune diseases that can cause the thyroid to crank up. bottom line is she needs to be seen my a doc and worked up. and healthy foods vitamins and such are great to but first things first. hope that helps you. peace


LUDA

 

[Delita420]

Eating McDonalds is healthier than skipping a meal.

 

[Chub]

Eating McDonalds is healthier than skipping a meal.

haha yeah. my gf hardly eats at all. now and again i'll take her along to the chinese buffet. I'll sit and eat for 2 hours and do about 10 plates when she does one then sits, she soon gets bored though and has another :trout:

 

[MMAMONSTER19]

well starters she needs to eat like everyone else has said so get her to go mcdonalds and get a double quarter pounder large fry and large pop tell her it all has to be gone!!! haha and do that everyday and shell start to gain some weight than move on to the healthy foods thats what i would do so after she starts to eat than gets used to eating daily start geting her in the gym

 

[Delita420]

well starters she needs to eat like everyone else has said so get her to go mcdonalds and get a double quarter pounder large fry and large pop tell her it all has to be gone!!! haha and do that everyday and shell start to gain some weight than move on to the healthy foods thats what i would do so after she starts to eat than gets used to eating daily start geting her in the gym

Word! :thumbsup:

 

[pmiller383]

I do have to agree that is would be in her best interest to get a doctors opinion. With that being said she may just need help organizing and preparing food. I have known many people that don't eat simply because it inconveniences them at that time. I would suggest she takes one day a week and prepares some meals for the week ahead. Things like chili's, vegitables, Hard boiled etc. Also have her keep easy foods like nuts and jerky, sliced fruit, etc around.

 

[Delita420]

I do have to agree that is would be in her best interest to get a doctors opinion. With that being said she may just need help organizing and preparing food. I have known many people that don't eat simply because it inconveniences them at that time. I would suggest she takes one day a week and prepares some meals for the week ahead. Things like chili's, vegitables, Hard boiled etc. Also have her keep easy foods like nuts and jerky, sliced fruit, etc around.

F*ck the doctor, food will fix this problem... :food:

 

[Sergiu]

I do have to agree that is would be in her best interest to get a doctors opinion. With that being said she may just need help organizing and preparing food. I have known many people that don't eat simply because it inconveniences them at that time. I would suggest she takes one day a week and prepares some meals for the week ahead. Things like chili's, vegitables, Hard boiled etc. Also have her keep easy foods like nuts and jerky, sliced fruit, etc around.

You are right. I used to be like this. If I didn't have something cooked I was just waiting for someone to come home so that they cook. I dislike cooking, but I started to do it and it's a pain in the ass.

 

[IrishRugby34]

Have them double check too for an anxiety disorder, my cousin was right around the same height and weight and she ate and ate and ate and never could put on any weight. Then she went to the doctor and her resting heart rate was 150 because has an anxiety disorder. They got her some medication and she has put on about 10 pounds and is a lot healthier.

 

[TEAR57]

Shakes are a great way to get a ton of calories in if you are having trouble eating.
1/4 cup of oats
tablespoon of peanut butter
half a banana
scoop of protein
2% milk

May be a little more than she can handle you could try just changing the portions. Best of luck let us know how she does.

 

[suncloud]

For the record, she does not have an eating disorder.

I will take any advice, so keep it coming. Appreciate it!

because of my situation, i would think there might be an opiate problem - prescription drugs? my g/f is 5'11" and she got down to 126 with opiates

 

[MMAMONSTER19]

more food McDonalds, burger king, chinese buffet anything food lots of it!!!!! my girl is 5 ft and 105 trains decent amount with me but she does all she can to be healthy her main problem is she doesnt eat that much cuz girls and their figure, and them not knowing how important it is to eat so i made a deal with her to start eating and it worked so you can make a deal with your boyfriend like i wont sleep with you unless you get her to eat lol or something ya kno haha

 

[Rosie Chee]

more food McDonalds, burger king, chinese buffet anything food lots of it!!!!! my girl is 5 ft and 105 trains decent amount with me but she does all she can to be healthy her main problem is she doesnt eat that much cuz girls and their figure, and them not knowing how important it is to eat so i made a deal with her to start eating and it worked so you can make a deal with your boyfriend like i wont sleep with you unless you get her to eat lol or something ya kno haha

Yeah well tell her you CAN eat as long as you're training hard. Females should never be scared of eating because they wrongly think that it will make them fat or affect their figure (hell, I eat MORE than most of you males here and my figure is not that bad). Think of a sprinter; you never see a fat sprinter and they are athletes and eat like athletes (i.e. A LOT).

 

[MikeMagz1013]

A tightness in the stomach can be due to anxiety problems. Even when you try to eat you might just throw it up or feel sick to your stomach. I don't agree with many of the prescription drugs they just throw out in certain situations, but in this situation klonopin or xanax might be very very helpful in the short term. And thats all you need, a months supply to teach your stomach and brain how to calm down. It may be the anxiety in her head that is causing her to not eat, its due to a chemical imbalance that can easily be corrected. Xanax can be addicting over a long period of time, but a month supply can really work wonders. She would be able to eat and sleep with no problems at all.

 

[crazyfool405]

Get her to eat more fresh fruit and vegetables and show her how to make delicious protein smoothies to get her tasty calories. Stress is bad so any time you make her laugh of feel good does alot for her. All the best.

i think yoplait has prepackages fruit and what not that gives 2 servings and you can add some PB and Flavorless whey, tastes AMAZING!

 

[Tone]

get her to blaze some grass.... she will eat

 

[MikeMagz1013]

get her to blaze some grass.... she will eat

thats my way.

 

[MrBigPR]

can pickup an appetite stimulator from nutraplanet

http://store.anabolicminds.com/product/anabolic-innovations/grub-on-60-servings.html

 

[Resolve]

Skipping a meal now and then can be beneficial. In fact, there is research that supports the concept that occasional fasting promotes longevity.

That being said, starving oneself down to an unhealthy weight can hardly be called beneficial, but neither is taking her to McDonalds and stuffing crap down her gullet.

There are PLENTY of calorie dense, healthful foods out there. Coconut, Avocado - any healthy fat is packed with cals. Whole grain and sprouted grain breads too are a very good option for packing in the cals. Or a nice cut of grass-fed beef or bison, untrimmed!

...reccommending McDonalds... It's just trading one health problem for another potentially.

 

[UKStrength]

First I would make sure there is no hidden eating disorder, bulimia, anorexia. She just maybe naturally thin, with a high metabolism.

See a medical professional or suggest that she sees someone about it. A dietician perhaps, who can put together an eating plan for her, and explain the importance of eating, etc.

I do have to agree that is would be in her best interest to get a doctors opinion.

This is the best advice you've had so far. Please take her to see a doctor, 30lbs of weight gain during pregnancy for someone who is already malnourished is not a good sign.

If you're in the UK there are specialist dietitians who can help if there are any underlying eating issues with your friend. I'd play it safe before you start intervening yourself since it may cause more damage in the long term.

 

[Zero V]

my ex was about 5'6 as we;; and weighed between 89-98 lbs...

She has alot of issues though that might add to that. She never really ate, and when she did it was not alot. I made her eat, because she always felt so weak and tired. She eventually got better habits and hit 100. Its really about her needing to understand that she HAS to eat, and to be disciplined enough to eat meals.

I have a bad habit of meal skipping due to stress.... I know its time to eat, but i just cant go make it. And I am not hungry at all. Most the time I eat, I am not hungry. I grew up a gamer, I can go 2 days on Dr. Pepper, with a bag of cheetos for sustanance....well used too, I have muscle now...

Check for a few issues I know my ex had...which includes worms...yeah, lets not go there...

also, is she on any medications or taking anything?

My ex had a messed up menstrual(i think thats spelled wrong) cycle, which I think messed up her hormones, and cause alot of issues alltogether....which I believe led to the light wieght, and not wanting to eat right.

She had a doctor tell her she neeeeeded to eat. But you cant force anyone to do anything...

 

[UKStrength]

My ex had a messed up menstrual(i think thats spelled wrong) cycle, which I think messed up her hormones, and cause alot of issues alltogether....which I believe led to the light wieght, and not wanting to eat right.

She had a doctor tell her she neeeeeded to eat. But you cant force anyone to do anything...

I had an ex with the same problem, the low bodyweight and chronic undereating disrupted her menstrual cycle permanently, it's led to all sorts of bone mineral density issues and consequently she had to give up her martial art through constant fractures.

You did your best though mate, seeking professional help was probably the best thing to do. Providing help via peer/family pressure often makes the situation worse if the disturbed eating habits are chronic.

 

[Rosie Chee]

My ex had a messed up menstrual(i think thats spelled wrong) cycle, which I think messed up her hormones, and cause alot of issues alltogether....which I believe led to the light wieght, and not wanting to eat right.

Having a "messed up" menstrual cycle, although it can affect hormones, does NOT lead to lighter weights or not wanting to eat right; and it certainly does NOT affect ability to gain muscle!!! I should know; this is from a female who has had amenorrhea since age 15 (and it's NOT because my energy intake is way lower than my energy intake (which is usually the cause), but because of the INTENSITY that I train at)!

 

[crader]

I used to weigh 95lbs before I had kids and I had no eating disorders at all.

I used to have to see a DR. for blood work and for weight checks every month as a child because I did not gain much. Other than a low white blood cell count they found nothing.

I was made to eat bagels and milkshakes with my regular meals to try to gain weight. LOL once I had kids that was no longer an issue.

I am now 5'3" and 126lbs of solid muscle and can put on fat just like anyone else now if I'm not careful.

 

[buster0371]

dont eat too much fruit or she'll put on body fat. but tell her to eat frequent meals, every 2 hours, until she gets used to eating a lot and her metabolism gets somewhat normal. Also, her stomach size will grow and she will be more hungry more often.

 

[MrBigPR]

dont eat too much fruit or she'll put on body fat. but tell her to eat frequent meals, every 2 hours, until she gets used to eating a lot and her metabolism gets somewhat normal. Also, her stomach size will grow and she will be more hungry more often.

The too much fruit or no fruit before bed is nonsense. It is all dependant on your body type, metabolism and thyroid functions.

 

[Rosie Chee]

The too much fruit or no fruit before bed is nonsense...

^^^This. Whoever told you that fruit made you gain fat didn't know what they were talking about. The only way one gains fat through diet is if they're eating more energy than they're expending.

 

[UKStrength]

^^^This. Whoever told you that fruit made you gain fat didn't know what they were talking about. The only way one gains fat through diet is if they're eating more energy than they're expending.

Lol, I could do with your support in another thread rosie, I've got a chap who's convinced fructose is evil and we should all be avoiding fruit!

 

[Rosie Chee]

Lol, I could do with your support in another thread rosie, I've got a chap who's convinced fructose is evil and we should all be avoiding fruit!

Well you tell him what's what. Fruit is FINE; there is NOTHING wrong with it. People who have all these ideas about diet and nutrition should really do some research and study on how the body ACTUALLY works and how different things affect it, and NOT just go off the say-so of some quack who creates some random diet based on principles they made up.

 

[UKStrength]

Well you tell him what's what. Fruit is FINE; there is NOTHING wrong with it. People who have all these ideas about diet and nutrition should really do some research and study on how the body ACTUALLY works and how different things affect it, and NOT just go off the say-so of some quack who creates some random diet based on principles they made up.

Cheers Rosie Time to dispel some nutritional nonsense and set some facts straight!

 

[Zero V]

Having a "messed up" menstrual cycle, although it can affect hormones, does NOT lead to lighter weights or not wanting to eat right; and it certainly does NOT affect ability to gain muscle!!! I should know; this is from a female who has had amenorrhea since age 15 (and it's NOT because my energy intake is way lower than my energy intake (which is usually the cause), but because of the INTENSITY that I train at)!

I wasnt sure if it could effect a womans weight. Thought it was worth mentioning. She didnt do anything that required energy. I really think it was just her genes, her entire family suffered from a big range of issues. I dont date anyone from KY no more lol! Lesson learned...difference between country girls, and hillbilly girls...

 

[Rosie Chee]

I wasnt sure if it could effect a womans weight. Thought it was worth mentioning. She didnt do anything that required energy. I really think it was just her genes, her entire family suffered from a big range of issues. I dont date anyone from KY no more lol! Lesson learned...difference between country girls, and hillbilly girls...

She would have done SOMEthing that required energy; even SEDENTARY people require energy to simply LIVE.

Genetics can have contribute to many issues, but not as much of an influence as you might think. Diet, lifestyle, and environment play more important roles.

There's a lot of differences between females everywhere, wherever they are from.

 

[Zero V]

She would have done SOMEthing that required energy; even SEDENTARY people require energy to simply LIVE.

Genetics can have contribute to many issues, but not as much of an influence as you might think. Diet, lifestyle, and environment play more important roles.

There's a lot of differences between females everywhere, wherever they are from.

I know, I just hound on KY for many reasons. Kinda like the family tree that goes in circles joke. lol. Its just uh...attached to negative memories really. Just biasedness