I will not charge for this... but here is the secret.
You must burn more calories than you take in... this equals a calorie deficit in which your body will end up burning fat to make up the difference.
Find your BMR -- Do a google search for a calulator. multiply by 1.2 and then subtract 500 cals.
I find that reading your post, your have a lot of "refusal" already built up. Almost as if your defeated already. You seem very frustrated and well, all of this adds up to you not losing weight. Quit looking at a scale and start looking at your body. Quit making excuses because doing this is hard. Once you do it for a while, it will become a staple and a life style.
do a quick search for some of Rosie's post. She has it all down for you and thankfully for her, she doesn't charge you!!
Good Luck in your endeavors. Free your mind, body, soul and renew your life!!!!