Alright guys I need your help. My gf is constantly tired, and libido is down!

[300Fan]

Im in the need of help guys! I just dont know what to think of this. My gf isnt the type of girl that wants to **** all the time; but, she does do it when i get her in the mood.

Anyways, one problem is she is ALWAYS TIRED. I just think shes bull****ting half the time but, shes always so sleepy and its getting depressing staying with her. Now, dont get me wrong I love her so, we talked about it and she tells me she doesnt get enough sleep.

What can I do to help her get a good night rest? Im thinking her sex drive is down because of lack of sleep? But, i thats not the case, is there anything she can take to raise her libido? I dont know of male "supplements" would work on woman? (as dumb as that sounds).

btw, shes 5'4", 110, 21yrs old

 

[yeahright]

Melatonin - MayoClinic.com

 

[Beau]

This isn't what you want to hear, but she really has the responsibility to get herself in the mood - for you, as well. At 21, if that part of your relationship is really that bad, I would not expect huge improvements based on supplements.

Sorry - I'm not trying to be a jerk, I've just been around long enough to have a lot of hindsight.

 

[Werewolf]

Im in the need of help guys! I just dont know what to think of this. My gf isnt the type of girl that wants to **** all the time; but, she does do it when i get her in the mood.

Anyways, one problem is she is ALWAYS TIRED. I just think shes bull****ting half the time but, shes always so sleepy and its getting depressing staying with her. Now, dont get me wrong I love her so, we talked about it and she tells me she doesnt get enough sleep.

What can I do to help her get a good night rest? Im thinking her sex drive is down because of lack of sleep? But, i thats not the case, is there anything she can take to raise her libido? I dont know of male "supplements" would work on woman? (as dumb as that sounds).

btw, shes 5'4", 110, 21yrs old

Two Valerian root pills and 0.5 mgs Melatonin will help with sleep.

10 mgs Dhea up to 4 times a day can boost libido. Definitely want to spread it and not at once. Start low. Too much Dhea at once can cause too high of testosterone pulse.

Probably want want to log her diet up on fitday.com.

Women a lot of times think they eat so healthy and when they actually log it, they eat very poorly with very little protien.

I got a girl college student I know to start her day with 50% whey and 50% casein protien shake and a banana for breakfast. She shocked how much better she felt and how much more energy she had. Women have been feed a pile of lies about what eating good is.

 

[bioman]

In my experience..the birth control pill causes some of these same symptoms. Studies have shown it elevates SHGB thus lowering libido. It also messes up other hormonal systems.

 

[john123131]

i find alot of 20 something girls are like that, i hear it alot and get asked about it alot from friends.
Some of the guys are right, girls actually do not eat properly..not saying all, but alot. In all seriousness adding a protein shake to her diet and a muli may help with her energy (being tired). Ummmm...poseidon gets me goin in the am...could help.
And speaking from experience girls on birth control sucks..haha..jk...but it does lower libido for sure. My girl has had the same issue in the past, just gotta get her going i guess. Ever since my gf has started eating better i noticed shes more in the mood and has alot more energy.
good luck bro....
john

 

[prld2gr8ns]

Defenitly look into her diet and overall eating regimen. Have to try to get into some good habits, ala eating healthy, going to sleep at a certain time to ensure you get 8hrs of rest. Poseidon would defentily help with the fatigue and lack of energy, and give a good boost in mood. Does she drink a lot of caffiene or energy drinks? Could have some possible adrenal burnout. Find out if she does, make the proper habit changes, and look into some adrenal support supps like reset AD.

 

[300Fan]

Yea, she is on BC and anti-depressants = no sex drive

she does eat crappy food and its starting to show. I feel bad and I tell her but, she dis-agrees. Ill tell you what, i wont be listening to her when summer comes and im at the beach having fun while she complains that shes fat and bloated

 

[john123131]

Paxil by any chance?...couple female friends of mine were on that, hated it bc of the libido loss, said it came back when coming off...

Yea, she is on BC and anti-depressants = no sex drive

she does eat crappy food and its starting to show. I feel bad and I tell her but, she dis-agrees. Ill tell you what, i wont be listening to her when summer comes and im at the beach having fun while she complains that shes fat and bloated

 

[T-Bone]

I have read Muira Puama can help with female libido...

 

[Werewolf]

Yea, she is on BC and anti-depressants = no sex drive

she does eat crappy food and its starting to show. I feel bad and I tell her but, she dis-agrees. Ill tell you what, i wont be listening to her when summer comes and im at the beach having fun while she complains that shes fat and bloated

That is what fitday.com is so good for. You don't have to be the bad guy.

 

[Werewolf]

Here is Power Point on DHEA. Toward the back you will find slides on improvement of depression with DHEA.

View attachment DHEA.zip

 

[cubbyiguana]

what anti depressants is she on and how long has she been on them? This could very well b your problem

 

[FishingAddict]

Hey bro,

SSRIs (selective seritonin reuptake inhibitors) are a type of antidepressent that can cause weight gain, lethargy and loss of libido over time. Some of them include Paxil, prozac, celexa, zoloft, lexapro and many are sold with their generic names now (which will end in "pram" or "tine"...they are the most numerous of anti depressents and probably the worst by themsleves in my opinion.

There is a NDRI (norepeinefrine dopimine reuptake inhibitor) antidepressent called Wellbutrin that actually can INCREASE sex drive and can cause wieght loss. (ill spare you all the science). Some people have a little problem tolerating it for the first week or so because it can make them jittery and have a clenched jaw. But I actually take this one in the winter for my SAD (seasonal affective disorder- I get really low energy and kinda depressed during winter/less daylight hours)

Some docs will presribe wellbutrin and zoloft together for the best of both words and curbs sides of both meds...la combo lovingly called welloff by some.


Also, WITHOUT a doubt birth control WILL cause loss of sex drive. Sex drive for women is, in a nut shell, caused by hormones when a woman ovulates. hormonal BC (ie, the pill) prevents ovulatoin and thus effectivly dimishes sex drive.

Birth control ALSO causes wieght gain over time.

My wife forgot to go to the pharmacy to pick up her BC so she skipped a month...and her sex drive came back with a VENGENCE! SWEET

I immediatly got some balls and had them clipped by the urologist....so she never had to take that crap again. LOL. (we are done having kids)...(the balls are not cut off, just the tube that carries sperm)

Also, if your girl needs to remain on the pill for some other medical reason, the doc can RX a LOW dose testosterone gel for women and that will increase her sex drive. Very expensive, however($200 a month)

Good luck, be a real man and help her thru this...she is not herself right now becaue of the meds!

If these suggestoins don't work go to the doc and get some blood work done. She may have hypothyroidism or somthing else causing the problem.

OH, and just incase she reads this post: eating healthy with no sugars or refined carbs will make you feel so damn good you may never need another antidepressent. Try it for 3 weeks and see what happens. Best thing I ever did for my self, except marry my wife! It will make you live longer with more quality years as well.

I don't check this board al lthis often, but please feel free to PM me if you have questions- I am here to help ;-)

 

[300Fan]

SSRIs (selective seritonin reuptake inhibitors) are a type of antidepressent that can cause weight gain, lethargy and loss of libido over time. Some of them include Paxil, prozac, celexa, and a host of others...they are the most numerous of anti depressents and probably the worst by themsleves in my opinion.

She is on prozac... I dont know the name of the BC she is on though. Tonight was just another example of why i cant stand it! She comes over and just sleeps! GRRRRRR, I sent her home just now and told her to get a good night rest.

Please dont think im an *******; im far from it. Its just really hard to explain everything in text. I told her she should get off the meds but, she doesnt want to. Im just getting tired of the lame excuses, im 21 and i want to go out and have fun, not stay at home cause she has no energy.

This is one of the main reasons im afraid of starting my havoc cycle. If my libido shoots up, im going to be screwed and if i have energy im gonna have to leave her or something :run:

 

[FishingAddict]

Have her go to the doc and at least try WELLBUTRIN and get her off the prozac. Prozac is the worst of all SSRIs in causing sleepyness, weight gain and loss of libido.

If you both get on wellbutrin you will never leave the house LOL. It really does increase sex drive!

She does not need to be off BC at her age...just changing the anti depressents will help!

 

[RisingAgainst]

A small delve into my personal pool of my memories...

I dated this one girl for oh say 6 months, she ended up pregnant from the very first time we ever did anything. I was at the time pushing 75-80 hour weeks at my job and studying all night long, and had very little time to work things out with her about our situation. She disappeared for a day and a half and came back babyless. She told me about it, and also showed me her belly, where she had a birth control batch on her lower abdomen... I said ok?.... So aside from not being able to have sex for 2 weeks, I was outraged by the whole ordeal, and even when we could by word of the doctor, she never had the 'mood' like she did when we first met.. Now, by recommendation of a close friend, I went to GNC and picked up some crap they had called 'steel libido' and gave it to her, it worked fairly well, not quite what I had expected but enough to make our relationship last for another month. Could prove to be a band-aid for now until you can convince her to drop the medications. Some girls don't deserve sex if you ask me... you should leave her for somebody that ACTS THEIR AGE... Love is such a fallacy sometimes bro.

 

[anabolicrhino]

Serotonin , in general effects libido, so any enhancement of the serotonin cycle is a likely candidate for libido suppression.

Dopamine enhancement increases libido via a limbric region stimulation, however I find dopamine enhancers cause tiredness and a very foggy outlook!

Women's hormone levels are just beginning to stabilize in their early 20's, so its always a rocky road!

My opinion; get her off all the meds,with the help of a doctor and start a new protocol, as this one does not work!

...as a none medical approach I would suggest - liquor, porn , weed and lots of "touching" in the her special places!

...oh and sometimes nothing works, then "you" really have to re-evaluate your partner as a life mate!

good luck!

 

[00126645]

If you truly love someone, you'll be happy just being with her. Just thinking about her makes you happy.

If you love someone, you'll want her to be happy too.

If you find that being her doesn't make you happy, or she doesn't want try to make you happy.....

People can change. And will change. But maybe not at the speed we would want them to change. Or even the way they change.

I guess you can try a while to make things work. If they don't, get out.

I got married instead. Mistake. I'm a dumbass.

5htp makes me happier and gives me less problems than my wife does. haha! My life is so sad, its funny.

 

[cubbyiguana]

Dude its the prozac, have her see her doc

 

[Mach .78]

Hey 300, Just another little tip off topic. Does she smoke? If so she is at risk for blood clots, not a good thing. She probably knows that already though.

As far as her libido. She's got some strongs meds working there. I would have her see a doc as well.

If she wasn't on any of that stuff, I would recommend Maca Root Powder, not the extract. Good stuff.

 

[CarterMalone]

Get her to do yoga and meditation at night, and tell her to take Ashwaghanda (sp?) in the morning. That will work for sure.

 

[wikiphenomena]

I agree with just about everyone and every point made. The power H2O is known to work wonders as well. If she's not drinking lots of water, you may want to start there. Considering the endless advantages to staying hydrated, I imagine it would much easier to persuade to drink lots of water than it would be to kick the Prozac.