Drug Test

[rook]

At some point in the coming months I am going to be in a child custody battle. The mother of my oldest son does a lot of rec drugs..pills, meth (I have a feeling), marij, etc..That and the fact my kid misses a lot of school is most of my case.

I am curious if any of you have ever been drug tested for child custody. What do they test for? I would be the one to request the test so I am just trying to figure out if it would be a good idea. I will have TestE..Dbol and/or post cycle items in my system depending on when this takes place. Would I be in the clear?

 

[DR.D]

At some point in the coming months I am going to be in a child custody battle. The mother of my oldest son does a lot of rec drugs..pills, meth (I have a feeling), marij, etc..That and the fact my kid misses a lot of school is most of my case.

I am curious if any of you have ever been drug tested for child custody. What do they test for? I would be the one to request the test so I am just trying to figure out if it would be a good idea. I will have TestE..Dbol and/or post cycle items in my system depending on when this takes place. Would I be in the clear?

I'm sure they'll only look for recs, probably just the top 5, not even all 10. Your safe and the strategy sounds good. She doesn't know about the dbol, right? If so, clear out about a week (or month if it comes down to a hair test).

 

[pistonpump]

I would venture to say the same as the DR. D. They will most likely go for heroin, cocaine, meth, marijuana, not roids unless she knows something about you and she requests it.

 

[800mrunner]

first off im sorry to hear the situation. hope things work out well, and bump what was said earlier.

 

[rook]

Thanks guys! No, she doesnt know anything about the dbol.

 

[pistonpump]

well jsut keep your AAS usage on the down low and dont gain too much mass to fast lol. You should be fine, well from one father to another Good Luck with the whole situation.

 

[DR.D]

Thanks guys! No, she doesnt know anything about the dbol.

Cover your butt my man. If you don't have a prescription, find a doctor who will help and get one. As far as the dbol, it's not recognized for any legitimate medical use in the US so keep that super quiet if you use it. The important thing is to do what's best for your kids. You may be divorcing their mom, but that doesn't mean you stop being a father. You are in my prayers bro.

 

[zarraza]

i was told by a buddy that used to play for UNLV that there are only like 10 labs in the country that can test for that - is this true?
and he said that the test procedure is VERY expensive - true?
and as far as i have heard, a conventional test doesn't test for anything that would be used on this board.
i could be wrong, and would like more clarification myself if my impressions are incorrect - as i plan on relocating soon, and am pretty sure that a test will be a condition of employment.

 

[FitnFirm]

At some point in the coming months I am going to be in a child custody battle. The mother of my oldest son does a lot of rec drugs..pills, meth (I have a feeling), marij, etc..That and the fact my kid misses a lot of school is most of my case.

I am curious if any of you have ever been drug tested for child custody. What do they test for? I would be the one to request the test so I am just trying to figure out if it would be a good idea. I will have TestE..Dbol and/or post cycle items in my system depending on when this takes place. Would I be in the clear?

Having been through this in the past I am going to tell you right now that your plan to have her drug tested is only going to make you look twice a bad, as you are forgetting what the subject at hand is " its ALL about the children" The judge doesnt give a fawk about what either of you have done because YOU are not on trial. The WORST thing you can do if you care about your kids is BAD MOUTH your soon to be ex and bring up these supposed bad habits, it shows you are trying to publically demeen her and this would look like nothing more than a domestic dispute and guess who suffers? THE CHILDREN !!!!!!!

Hey, Your not happy? fine , get a divorce and share custody. I hope you have **** loads of money to fight it as well, and money to lose, cause your chances of winning custody are about 10% . I have alot of experience in this field and am not telling you this to piss you off but to help you.

If you two cannot come to an amicable agreement, the court will force you to both see a mediator, which will dig and dig deep. This drags out everything for a very long time as well. The only things they want to know is if either have been arrested or charged and what for, and they dont need you to find that out either.

By the way, during all this investigation by the mediator, you will be paying child support.

Do yourself a favor and more importantly your children, just go through it like a man without pointing fingers, get passed it and be there for your children. Children are more effected by divorce than you know, it can be very painful for them, cause depression, cause them to quit working in school etc.

 

[FitnFirm]

Hey, check out this website, We know the President personally, there is lots of helpful info on it for you.

National Congress for Fathers & Children

NCFC - NATIONAL CONGRESS FOR FATHERS AND CHILDREN - NETWORK NEWSLETTER


and this:


FATHERS.COM ~ Legal & Custody Issues

 

[pistonpump]

I kind of disagree there FitnFirm, as far as it being all about the children....if the mother is raising them and doing meth and other drugs well, that is not a good enviroment. (this is ofcourse if this is true). Divorce does effect kids, It effected me alot, and my sister not as bad but i was the cause for a counseling class started by my elementary school for students with parents going thru and presently divorced.

 

[800mrunner]

i agree it looks bad to bad mouth someone, but sometimes you have to do it. if you lose your kids to some meth head becuase you didnt speak up then odds are you are s h i t outa luck, until next trial.

 

[SHADOW2492]

Having been through this in the past I am going to tell you right now that your plan to have her drug tested is only going to make you look twice a bad, as you are forgetting what the subject at hand is " its ALL about the children" The judge doesnt give a fawk about what either of you have done because YOU are not on trial. The WORST thing you can do if you care about your kids is BAD MOUTH your soon to be ex and bring up these supposed bad habits, it shows you are trying to publically demeen her and this would look like nothing more than a domestic dispute and guess who suffers? THE CHILDREN !!!!!!!

Hey, Your not happy? fine , get a divorce and share custody. I hope you have **** loads of money to fight it as well, and money to lose, cause your chances of winning custody are about 10% . I have alot of experience in this field and am not telling you this to piss you off but to help you.

If you two cannot come to an amicable agreement, the court will force you to both see a mediator, which will dig and dig deep. This drags out everything for a very long time as well. The only things they want to know is if either have been arrested or charged and what for, and they dont need you to find that out either.

By the way, during all this investigation by the mediator, you will be paying child support.

Do yourself a favor and more importantly your children, just go through it like a man without pointing fingers, get passed it and be there for your children. Children are more effected by divorce than you know, it can be very painful for them, cause depression, cause them to quit working in school etc.

I disagree completely here. This has little to do with demeaning the wife and all to do with getting his kids out of a drug environment. His kids don't ahve to be there when he is telling about the drug use. And sharing custody with a meth head.

If you are saying it is all about the children wouldnt the most wise course of action be take them out of a drug environment where the mother doesnt care about sending them to school?

 

[DR.D]

I disagree completely here. This has little to do with demeaning the wife and all to do with getting his kids out of a drug environment. His kids don't ahve to be there when he is telling about the drug use. And sharing custody with a meth head.

If you are saying it is all about the children wouldnt the most wise course of action be take them out of a drug environment where the mother doesnt care about sending them to school?

I think her point is that the dad has very poor odds of getting the kids anyway. Even if he is crystal clean and the mother is a dope head. Father's usually get screwed in the deal.

 

[rook]

I should have been more clear. I have been divorced from this woman for 8 years. My son is 9. We have a friendly relationship. We share custody. I am a full time dad..I coach Little league baseball and football. My ex however is getting worse as time goes by. My kid has missed 12 days of school this year and has been tardy 9 times. I live 45 minutes from her and often I have to go all the way to her house and take him to school...he lives 1 mile from his school! She does pain pills, meth, and methadone. She has tried to buy from my step father who is a recovering drug addict. People tell me I need to get my son away from her and it really troubles me. If something happens to him I will never forgive myself for not trying to get him out of there. I pay child support and I pay above and beyond what the state says I have to. I pay for Christmas both places...same with birthdays, schooling and everything else...she does not work. I think she will end up giving him to me or I may at least scare her into straightening up. I am happily re-married. Hope this clears a few things up! By the way, we are both from broken homes and we know what divorce does..the cycle continued..Thanks for the replies.

 

[pistonpump]

you deserve to take care of that kid and have him in your custody imo. He is getting older and seeing that and living in that enviroment will do something to him mentally trust me. You would be doing him a service by trying to get custody imo. Sounds like he would enjoy it more where you are at. GL!

 

[FitnFirm]

I disagree completely here. This has little to do with demeaning the wife and all to do with getting his kids out of a drug environment. His kids don't ahve to be there when he is telling about the drug use. And sharing custody with a meth head.

If you are saying it is all about the children wouldnt the most wise course of action be take them out of a drug environment where the mother doesnt care about sending them to school?

Do you ever listen or read the news???? Children getting beaten and tortured still remain with their parents day after fawken day in this country, WHY?????????????? Because the legal system SUCKS ASS!!!!!!! I never said it was fair. I have read hundreds of unpublished and published stories about parents who have attemted murder on their own children, beaten them with sharp objects, burned them with irons, locked them in cages and they continue to get away with it because the courts think children are better off with their parents, and of course the parents always enroll in some save my ass class, I want to be a good parent etc.

You have NO idea how HARD it is to PROVE a person is a METH head or drug head or molester or just plain child beater. Blame the legal system.

All these same ridiculous events happen with divorcing couples. People treat the children like they are pawns. There is no cut and dry situation in child custody unless both parties agree 100% on every part of the arrangement, and even then, sometimes the judge does not approve it.


I speak from knowledge, factual events, my own history, friends history. There is nothing simple in this world when it involves a court. They are just happy to take your money and lots of it.

 

[800mrunner]

[Because the legal system SUCKS ASS!!!!!!!]

i have heard that many times, and to my conclusion:

"our legal sytem is the best of the worst."

i'd say america is much better off than many other countries. here child porn is VERY MUCH SO a bad thing where other places its accepted. which is a freaking good thing becuase its disgusting if you look at that, and the people who go places to F* young kids should be shot and killed like the animals they are acting like.(just a radom exapmle that came to mind.)

we can say we hate the legal system to death, but in reality its the best we can get, and not everyone is going to be happy with it.

in america it comes down to:

who you know.
what color skin you have.
and
how much money you have.

if you think differently than i'd love to listen to your opinion.