These developements are just nuts. Getting some on the side can get you up to life in prison.
link:Michigan: if you stray, you may be locked away at Pandagon
link:Michigan: if you stray, you may be locked away at Pandagon
IMO if you are breaking a promise and not telling your spouse, then you are keeping your spouse via fraud. You are stealing time from someone who SHOULD have all information in order to either decide to put up with it, or regain their freedom through divorce.
You might also be putting that person's health at risk.
While it is a question of details (sentencing, honesty of the cheating ****ball, etc), I am ok with it being a criminal offense.
/yes, I have been cheated on several times
//yes, cheating enrages me
//it is not up to YOU to figure out what is important, then choose to tell or not tell. Can't keep the promise? Then don't MAKE the promise.
I understand what you went thru but making laws like that is just ridiculous. Life in prison or a felony? People make mistakes. Con men gain something tangible from their crimes, usually money. There is a difference. You can't put somebody in prison because they emotionally hurt someone. This should be a civil court matter.For the same reason we imprison Con Men, and do not simply leave it to Civil Court....it is called Fraud.
The relationship, for the most part, continues based on certain agreements of Fidelity. I, personally, would NEVER have married my ex-wife if I knew she would not stay faithful. I wasted 5 years of my life being with someone I consider an enemy..I want my 5 years back.
This person knowingly STOLE my time from me, and I consider it theft by fraud...period. Felony? maybe not. Crime? Most certainly.
For the same reason we imprison Con Men, and do not simply leave it to Civil Court....it is called Fraud.
The relationship, for the most part, continues based on certain agreements of Fidelity. I, personally, would NEVER have married my ex-wife if I knew she would not stay faithful. I wasted 5 years of my life being with someone I consider an enemy..I want my 5 years back.
This person knowingly STOLE my time from me, and I consider it theft by fraud...period. Felony? maybe not. Crime? Most certainly.
As should all fraud. Restitution and/or reparations should be the remedy for nonviolent fraud of all kinds, not imprisonment. What you do with your time is your own business in all cases. If you don't live up to your end of a contract you should be brought before a court to work out the remedy the person defrauded wants, not imprisoned. In DSADE's case he understandably wants his wasted time back, and he should have gotten a reasonable price for that wasted time.I understand what you went thru but making laws like that is just ridiculous. Life in prison or a felony? People make mistakes. Con men gain something tangible from their crimes, usually money. There is a difference. You can't put somebody in prison because they emotionally hurt someone. This should be a civil court matter.
Exactly. What does he get out of sending her to prison? He gets to foot the bill for her room and board along with every other tax payer. That's ridiculous. The focus of punishment should be on restitution/reparations.But at the end of the day, its not worth footing the bill, the crime doesn't fit the punishment.
One question I don't see coming up, is there actually any real evidence humans are by nature monogamous? Some primates are, some aren't. Marriage itself, or monogamous relationships sans kids, or even with, might not be the biological norm for humans.We are all big boys (and girls), take the high road and be faithful – or don’t get married.
You might think I have some definite opinions on this, huh?
Adultery is truly a chicken-“stuff” thing to do. Period. When you say “I do” it means something. It is a vow; a three party agreement with God. It is about things such as integrity and character.
We ARE ALL responsible for the situations we put ourselves in or allow ourselves to fall into. BTW - the last time I checked, adultery wasn’t a “mistake” as many tout; unless someone tripped and their penis accidentally fell into the vagina of someone else. It isn’t like tripping on something you didn’t see; I think we all know what leads to sex and I would think few have mot been aware that their actions were heading in that direction.
Regardless of criminal sanctions; adultery should – 100% of the time – result in forfeiture by the unfaithful spouse of any and all assets attained during the marriage. Even if the couple decides to reconcile, the faithful spouse has to deal with emotional baggage for year to come. If someone steals from you, say $50,000, do they just have to say “I’m sorry” or is there some form of recompense that needs to occur? What kind of recompense can the infidel provide to the faithful spouse? What can they do to compensate them for choosing to destroy the trust and fidelity that existed? I could go on and on.
We are all big boys (and girls), take the high road and be faithful – or don’t get married.
You might think I have some definite opinions on this, huh?
Left solely to our own desires, I would say not. Let’s face it, most guys would hump anything reasonably attractive provided only that she slows down long enough to make that physically possible. Name? We don’t need to know her name to nail her, many would say. Call me? OK, but only the next time I need a booty call.One question I don't see coming up, is there actually any real evidence humans are by nature monogamous? Some primates are, some aren't. Marriage itself, or monogamous relationships sans kids, or even with, might not be the biological norm for humans.
Left solely to our own desires, I would say not. Let’s face it, most guys would hump anything reasonably attractive provided only that she slows down long enough to make that physically possible. Name? We don’t need to know her name to nail her, many would say. Call me? OK, but only the next time I need a booty call.
Being even more candid – we are not inherently terrific beings unless we live by some set of agreed upon rules and norms. We can be plenty of crappy things should we fail not to control our impulses. For example, most of us (by nature) desire food, and we need to eat - but that need (except in extreme cases) doesn't justify any one of us walking into a grocery store and stealing food. Maybe not the best analogy - but we really are responsible for what we do.
By nature we all need to excrete waste – but we don’t do that in the front yard; although our dogs might. Does that mean the nature of our need to go to the bathroom differs between one of us and Fido? No. It means we can rationalize and make decisions on when, where and how, and Fido usually can’t.
By making a marriage vow we make the choice of monogamy; even if it is against everything our groin might wish. Once we’ve done so – I think we are obligated to live up to the commitment we made.
OTOH – If a man or woman wants to live their life as an ongoing trim hunt – I am OK with that. It isn’t what I would advocate – but that would be their decision, not mine. So what is the difference? In the case of adultery you are being dishonest; intentionally misleading the very person you vowed to forsake all other for – all for your own selfish pursuit. In the case of the ongoing trim hunt (or open relationship) everything is above board for all to know.
If some people were not excellent liars lacking integrity, perhaps it would not be necessary. Fact is that people get fooled.
I think there needs to be legal consequences for lying, and to say it is just a matter of "hurting someone's feelings" is to minimize it.
The damage is often permanent, leading to complete mistrust and perhaps crippling the ability of the other person to ever trust intimacy again.
I would be foolish to assume we could take a one size fits all approach to something as complex as this; we just can’t. Many parts are black and white; others are shades of gray. That being said I’ll throw out more thoughts.I agree, but it should be limited since situations differ so much, who's going to decide? Also anyone who gets into a relationship is just as responsible and knows the risk of marriage. Therefore should suck it up, besides thats why we have civil courts/divorce courts, so if your wife decides to blow some guy you can in turn take the house. Usually under those circumstances the judge will side with the faithful party. Not to say i wouldn't be in favor of a file being placed after the marriage about the circumstances so future prospective partners of the unfaithful party would be able to do a quick reference and see what she/he did before hand.
Take this example for instance, guy losses his sex drive. No longer attracted to the wife(Rather jerk off then PIITB) the wife does what she can to try to sub-duce him and all messures fail. She tries to get a divorce but he won't sign the papers. Finally she sleeps with another guy. Now who's truly at fault here, was it the guy for not having the sex drive or the women. Tough to decide, and honestly has no place within a criminal court of justice.
What i don't understand is why people think they can bill people for there time (LOST?) . Last time i checked this is a free country, if you want you can spend your time with someone or go run a train on someone. Its a unfortunate reality, the law makes no sense, and runs closer to a Nazism government. So say they impose laws like this, where does it stop? You can't sign away your rights, that in it self is unconstitutional.
Also marriage is what you make of it, has anyone ever heard the separation of church and state. Marriage is a two part deal, part of it is a nice BIG TAX BREAK and Sharing property/finances.(GOVERNMENT) The rest of the moral promises which are just that, and have more to do with (CHURCH). These promises are not in the constitution, its your right to do what you want with whoever, you'd like as long as its consensual. (This is within your legal rights) on the flip side, its within your legal rights to divorce someone if you find there actions to become unbecoming and deceitful which is when the GOVERNMENT end of the deal is now nulled, now you divide what property,etc between the parties due to the circumstances. While you can use evidence of someone cheating, to help boost your case. You can't prosecute them for it because its within there legal rights.
If that makes any sense......
No, I am aware of this; I just look at marriage in a very traditional context. It isn't that I fail to realize other contexts exist.What i think you fail to realize, that there are many types of marriages and the commitment part is not within the state or federal governments legal jurisdiction nor should it be.
I hear what you are saying; I just don’t happen to accept that as fact. There are/can be tremendous repercussions of families splitting apart. Sadly, I believe many people feel a sense of entitlement to pursue their own happiness - even if it is at the grave expense of others. That just seems to lack a sense of responsibility and, candidly, honor. I think we all have an obligation to be true to our word. If not, we are merely reduced to a bunch of glad-handing liars....commitment to each other and while it maybe indeed wrong for a person to mislead another adult or conduct sexual behaviors behind there backs. It does not breach any laws, nor should it.
Agreed. We can all hurt someone's feelings without legal implication (thankfully). In fact, I am sure I do that every day by being an insensitive jerk. But the question becomes - is adultery equal only to hurting someone's feelings, or does it exceed that by a huge margin? I believe adultery is the most significant betrayals one can encounter (perhaps 2nd to murder and rape). It can destroy the family unit. It can have long lasting and financially devastating implications. It separates children from parents. It creates “Disneyland Dads” and a huge sense of abandonment by children (and, I am told, children assume responsibility for the break up). Adultery is, in fact, a form of breach of contract; one likely to have a very serious impact. The vows and marriage license are legally binding. This breach of contract exceeds more than emotional boundaries as well; being that the family unit is also an economic unit.Hurting someone's feelings isn't against law and considering 2/3's of all marriages fail we're talking allot of legal ramification's.
If I haven't already ostracized myself from the readers of this thread, well - this may do it. The only reason we would need a law to address this is because we, as a nation, seem to have completely lost the concept of there being a fundamental sense of right and wrong. I think we are more concerned with moral relativism. To clarify, I do not advocate criminal sanctions; I'm not even sure I think civil sanctions make sense - I just hate to see the faithful spouse literally financially destroyed by the selfish acts of the infidel. I will say this – if I know that a business associate or counterpart is cheating; I assume they would slit my throat. Why? If they can bold-faced lie to and sabotage someone they purport to love, what would they do to me - given our relatively meaningless association? Trust is something that I fear we are losing – in mankind.Besides if your getting married why would you need a law that says if your partner cheats there going to jail for adultery. If you need a law like that, you don't need marriage period because its about trust.
I don't think so; in fact, I believe it is more essential now than it has ever been.This law begs the question Is marriage truly pointless now, have we come down to this?
Ditto, i also enjoy a good debate that isn't reduced to name calling or huffing and puffing. I respect your views and look foreword to future debates.No, I am aware of this; I just look at marriage in a very traditional context. It isn't that I fail to realize other contexts exist.
I hear what you are saying; I just don’t happen to accept that as fact. There are/can be tremendous repercussions of families splitting apart. Sadly, I believe many people feel a sense of entitlement to pursue their own happiness - even if it is at the grave expense of others. That just seems to lack a sense of responsibility and, candidly, honor. I think we all have an obligation to be true to our word. If not, we are merely reduced to a bunch of glad-handing liars.
The rate of infidelity continues to rise; I believe a sign of unbridled selfishness. Adultery is one manifestation of that. Go with me for a moment: Let's assume for the time being that there is a cost to society of divorce. Let’s also assume there is a cost to society of reckless driving, speeding, etc. There are sanctions against reckless vehicular behavior - and I believe these in some (perhaps small) part help reduce the amount of reckless driving, speeding, etc. Adultery used to be sufficient cause for divorce (and it is the only recognized cause in the many religions). It also used to be illegal. I wouldn't care if it was still illegal today. Why? I have every intention of maintaining my vow, and if it was illegal and that kept one family in-tact. I think it is worth it. That is how much value I place on the family.
Agreed. We can all hurt someone's feelings without legal implication (thankfully). In fact, I am sure I do that every day by being an insensitive jerk. But the question becomes - is adultery equal only to hurting someone's feelings, or does it exceed that by a huge margin? I believe adultery is the most significant betrayals one can encounter (perhaps 2nd to murder and rape). It can destroy the family unit. It can have long lasting and financially devastating implications. It separates children from parents. It creates “Disneyland Dads” and a huge sense of abandonment by children (and, I am told, children assume responsibility for the break up). Adultery is, in fact, a form of breach of contract; one likely to have a very serious impact. The vows and marriage license are legally binding. This breach of contract exceeds more than emotional boundaries as well; being that the family unit is also an economic unit.
While I'm at it, I think it is essential that we provide one heck of a lot more training on what male/female communications are all about. Lets train people in how to be succesful in families, rather than accept the Hollywwod-BS on what marriage really is. It is no shock to me that so many fail; what have we done to foster the chances of success. I MADE my sons read "Venus and Mars", and they all (1) were amazed, and (2) thanked me. Yah, I know - I sound like a puss.
If I haven't already ostracized myself from the readers of this thread, well - this may do it. The only reason we would need a law to address this is because we, as a nation, seem to have completely lost the concept of there being a fundamental sense of right and wrong. I think we are more concerned with moral relativism. To clarify, I do not advocate criminal sanctions; I'm not even sure I think civil sanctions make sense - I just hate to see the faithful spouse literally financially destroyed by the selfish acts of the infidel. I will say this – if I know that a business associate or counterpart is cheating; I assume they would slit my throat. Why? If they can bold-faced lie to and sabotage someone they purport to love, what would they do to me - given our relatively meaningless association? Trust is something that I fear we are losing – in mankind.
I don't think so; in fact, I believe it is more essential now than it has ever been.
DR. Liftalot - I appreciate having had the opportunity to "discuss” this with you in a gentlemanly way. I fully appreciate the perspective you embrace - I think I’m just a bit more hard core when it comes to the sanctity of marriage. Many times these discussions reduce to name calling and the like. I assume those that chose to voice an opinion feel passionately, and we each hold things like this dear.
Regards
Left solely to our own desires, I would say not. Let’s face it, most guys would hump anything reasonably attractive provided only that she slows down long enough to make that physically possible. Name? We don’t need to know her name to nail her, many would say. Call me? OK, but only the next time I need a booty call.
Being even more candid – we are not inherently terrific beings unless we live by some set of agreed upon rules and norms. We can be plenty of crappy things should we fail not to control our impulses. For example, most of us (by nature) desire food, and we need to eat - but that need (except in extreme cases) doesn't justify any one of us walking into a grocery store and stealing food. Maybe not the best analogy - but we really are responsible for what we do.
By nature we all need to excrete waste – but we don’t do that in the front yard; although our dogs might. Does that mean the nature of our need to go to the bathroom differs between one of us and Fido? No. It means we can rationalize and make decisions on when, where and how, and Fido usually can’t.
By making a marriage vow we make the choice of monogamy; even if it is against everything our groin might wish. Once we’ve done so – I think we are obligated to live up to the commitment we made.
OTOH – If a man or woman wants to live their life as an ongoing trim hunt – I am OK with that. It isn’t what I would advocate – but that would be their decision, not mine. So what is the difference? In the case of adultery you are being dishonest; intentionally misleading the very person you vowed to forsake all other for – all for your own selfish pursuit. In the case of the ongoing trim hunt (or open relationship) everything is above board for all to know.
So? I've been cheated on before. It hurts like hell but hurt feelings, no matter how deep, are not a matter of criminal law.If some people were not excellent liars lacking integrity, perhaps it would not be necessary. Fact is that people get fooled.
I think there needs to be legal consequences for lying, and to say it is just a matter of "hurting someone's feelings" is to minimize it.
The damage is often permanent, leading to complete mistrust and perhaps crippling the ability of the other person to ever trust intimacy again.
Probably not realistic for a lot of people and those people should not make the vow to begin with. I would be willing to bet that people who are going to cheat go into marriage knowing this.I don't think people should be allowed to break vows without having to make restitution or reparations myself. What I am questioning though is the realism of people sticking to those vows to begin with.
No but it should give you a get out of jail free, can O whoop ass to put on him.Does that give me the right to throw his ass in jail?
Yeah, he needs it.No but it should give you a get out of jail free, can O whoop ass to put on him.
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