Even though her attorney will be appearing on her behalf, I'm hoping that something can be said or done about her not appearing. I filed a petition, she was served and court-ordered. She filed the same petition after me, I was served and court-ordered. I believe court orders override school, work, etc. Unless there was a death in the family, someone's ill, or something of that sort. After the way I've been treated throughout this whole situation, I know I'd have a warrant issued for my arrest and I'd be arrested for not appearing, even though I'm the original petitioner. There are a few different factors as to why she can't file petitions on her own and I believe those same factors will help me to win sole custody later this year. I'm not saying much to anyone about it. I'm just gonna hire one of the best attorneys around my area, file the petition, have her served, and randomly and unexpectedly (to her at least) take her to court and fight for sole custody. I may also end up hiring a P.I. to help strengthen my case. I don't have the time to follow her around, as a P.I. would, but it'd also protect me from getting charged for stalking or something.
What issues do you think the judge may bring up? I'm hoping he'll wanna hear some of what my lawyer and I have to say before adjourning the hearing. My son is almost 5 months old and I have yet to see him. It really pisses me off how everything keeps getting adjourned. I'm the one who's being treated unfairly and I do nothing wrong, but she can do whatever the hell she wants, ends up with no consequences, and everyone could care less. I'd really like the judge to hear about why I filed for a paternity test, etc. He needs to know the real story behind this whole entire situation so that he knows what he's dealing with. My ex, though she's not supposed to contact me, does so anyway and kisses my ass constantly. But I know that she'll act ruthless and evil towards me in that courtroom, only because she wants sole legal and physical custody.
I realize that my ex is gonna put up many fights and fronts, argue with future girl friends/wives, probably try prying into my personal life, and try making me miserable. It's everything she does now. She did the same things 2 years ago when we first met. I'm sure she'll always be this way. I think it pisses her off even more that I no longer respond or give in to her manipulation and control. I tell you what, though. It sure is a great feeling to break the chain and take all of that power away from somebody, the power they once had over you and your entire life. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to be with my son, regardless of how miserable she makes me. My son's worth every ounce of pain that I'm going through and dealing with. I love him more than life itself and know that I will be the best father to the best of my ability. I know he's safest with me and my family, and I'm gonna look out for him. Sure, I want him to have a great relationship with his mother, but that's up to her, not me. He's gonna eventually someday ask about all of this and I'm not gonna lie to him or keep secrets from him. My ex, however, plans on doing so.
I think she is fine if he attorney is appearing on her behalf. The judge will probably go over a couple of issus and set a new court date.
Good luck with everything. Hope it turns out well, mainly for your son. It's going to be a long battle, even when this portion is over. I've been there before and it's not fun.
