:whiner:
So I met my girlfriend about 4 years ago. I really liked her. I was at the point of my life where I had alot of friends, but most of them were bad influences on me. I was drinking, smoking weed, and not working. I was a total loser.
My girl kinda changed that. You know if you like someone enough, you want to change for them. Especially if your doing things that arent good for you to begin with. She put up with my bull**** and I did change gradually. I quit smoking, and partying. But that meant I had to drop my friends too. When I did hang out with them, I would end up falling down again, and giving into temptations. It'd cause us to fight, and since i liked her i didn't want to fight.
Fast forward 4 years. i'm working and i'm clean. i dont drink or smoke. for a while, she was all i needed and vice versa. we got very close. my outlets were lifting and training.
well i'm stilll training, but here's the kicker. my girl goes out with her friends alot. they are a mixed bunch, guys and girls alike. she's invited me out to chill with them, but they're her friends you know. a couple should have their own groups of friends, IE 'guys night', 'girls night'
So she goes out on a friday night and has a blast, and I'm stuck at home. At first I didn't mind it, I'd watch movies and chill out. Train, surf the net.
But it's really starting to get to me. The friends I had, were like my bros. Half of them are addicts, in jail. I'll pray for them. The other half I don't even know how to reach, because it's been so long. Friends aren't like a deck of cards, to put down and pick up at a later time. I think they felt I turned my back on em.
Well here i am whining. But it's gotten to the point where I don't know what to do with myself. I've gotten very depressed. I want friends to confide in, to chill with on a guys night. She goes out with a big group and has fun, and I sit on my ass and feel sorry for myself. She's invited me out but I would feel very awkward, I don't know any of her friends and they aren't really my type of people.
I have one or two people I still keep in touch with, but they have families and careers and little or no time to hang out.
I know it's kind of a stupid topic, there are much more serious things in the world. But i feel really cut off and lonely. I was just wondering if anybody had any ideas or experiences like me.
It hasn't been a problem until lately, she's been hanging out with her friends more, and less of me. Perfectly healthy for a couple to do, but hard for me. i feel disconnected
Any ideas?
So I met my girlfriend about 4 years ago. I really liked her. I was at the point of my life where I had alot of friends, but most of them were bad influences on me. I was drinking, smoking weed, and not working. I was a total loser.
My girl kinda changed that. You know if you like someone enough, you want to change for them. Especially if your doing things that arent good for you to begin with. She put up with my bull**** and I did change gradually. I quit smoking, and partying. But that meant I had to drop my friends too. When I did hang out with them, I would end up falling down again, and giving into temptations. It'd cause us to fight, and since i liked her i didn't want to fight.
Fast forward 4 years. i'm working and i'm clean. i dont drink or smoke. for a while, she was all i needed and vice versa. we got very close. my outlets were lifting and training.
well i'm stilll training, but here's the kicker. my girl goes out with her friends alot. they are a mixed bunch, guys and girls alike. she's invited me out to chill with them, but they're her friends you know. a couple should have their own groups of friends, IE 'guys night', 'girls night'
So she goes out on a friday night and has a blast, and I'm stuck at home. At first I didn't mind it, I'd watch movies and chill out. Train, surf the net.
But it's really starting to get to me. The friends I had, were like my bros. Half of them are addicts, in jail. I'll pray for them. The other half I don't even know how to reach, because it's been so long. Friends aren't like a deck of cards, to put down and pick up at a later time. I think they felt I turned my back on em.
Well here i am whining. But it's gotten to the point where I don't know what to do with myself. I've gotten very depressed. I want friends to confide in, to chill with on a guys night. She goes out with a big group and has fun, and I sit on my ass and feel sorry for myself. She's invited me out but I would feel very awkward, I don't know any of her friends and they aren't really my type of people.
I have one or two people I still keep in touch with, but they have families and careers and little or no time to hang out.
I know it's kind of a stupid topic, there are much more serious things in the world. But i feel really cut off and lonely. I was just wondering if anybody had any ideas or experiences like me.
It hasn't been a problem until lately, she's been hanging out with her friends more, and less of me. Perfectly healthy for a couple to do, but hard for me. i feel disconnected
Any ideas?
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