How to tell a GF to workout or get in shape???

[pistonpump]

Ive been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and i like her and all but I would really like to see her get more into shape and lose some weight. She's not that big just a little chubby. She doesnt even eat much from what i can tell and she has a gym membership. Thing is she hasnt been going for a while because her family is down here visiting. She says she's gonna get back into it after but I want to help her lose weight without making her feel insulted. Help.

 

[Skircus7]

Ive been seeing this girl for about 3 months now and i like her and all but I would really like to see her get more into shape and lose some weight. She's not that big just a little chubby. She doesnt even eat much from what i can tell and she has a gym membership. Thing is she hasnt been going for a while because her family is down here visiting. She says she's gonna get back into it after but I want to help her lose weight without making her feel insulted. Help.

Does she look the same as she did when you started dating her 3 months ago?

 

[zbtboy]

I have no idea but i would suggest wearing head-gear when you talk to her.

 

[brittishbulldog]

why not ask her to go to the gym when you train

 

[brywal312]

why not ask her to go to the gym when you train

This actually is not a good idea especially if you are actually going to do work. When you take a girl to the gym go ahead and plan on not getting anything done because you WILL be pestered with questions and complements on how pumped you look. The best day to do this is on a day that would typically be a rest day so just do some high reps on a NO supplement to get all puffed up for her.
I know I turn into a very insensitive ass towards girls after my first set. I have made my mom and my ex cry because they called me while I was at the gym and tried to get me to go do something else. If you are like me go ahead and tell her the effects of elevated test on your mood so that you dont hurt her feelings accidentally.
BUT
If you really want to get her to the gym. Tell her how much a female sweating turns you on

 

[Skircus7]

To be completely honest, either you accept her for who she is, or dont.....but if your relationship is going to work, you need to love her for who she is.

I am not trying to be rude. Just honest man

 

[pistonpump]

Does she look the same as she did when you started dating her 3 months ago?

yeah she does. I knew that one was coming...

This actually is not a good idea especially if you are actually going to do work. When you take a girl to the gym go ahead and plan on not getting anything done because you WILL be pestered with questions and complements on how pumped you look.

Haha the last time i actually went with her i was making her laugh the whole time and she said jokingly she didnt want to come with me anymore.

btw. you resemble andre arlovski in your avy.

why not ask her to go to the gym when you train

we have totally different schedules thats the problem. she likes to go around 10pm and thats when i start work. She pretty much goes out drinking alot with her friends so that makes it hard too.

 

[ReaperX]

I know what you mean on this bro. This happened to my last g.f. Either the girl is open about being fit and fitness or she is not. I mean you can sorta talk about it, but girls tend to just get very very angry about weight. They make it seem like you ate their dog or something.

My lesson learned is just to find a chick who already works out and is into fitness. She'll probably be more open and take it in a positive manner.

When you take a girl who is normally sedentary and does nothing, to try and get her to start working out will just cause problems...trust me I know.

I'm into atleast a girl who cares about her image/fitness since I do as well. I don't think it is an unrealistic expectation, but this is something atleast that I would like out of any girl I date. If she's not like that then oh well...some girls have preferences about guy's like height, or hair color or whatever.

This to me is just a male preference.

 

[pistonpump]

To be completely honest, either you accept her for who she is, or dont.....but if your relationship is going to work, you need to love her for who she is.

I am not trying to be rude. Just honest man

true. its all good but in bed i cant finish :yawn: i think that has something to do with it. i dunno, i got issues i guess. Ive had girls like her before but i think my taste has changed, physically wise. Maybe its just my pisces nature coming out and i feel everything has to be ideal...? I realize not everyone is perfect but it would be nice if she would get the hint and just lose a little weight. Ive hinted about it so many times, dont think she gets it. :shrugs:

 

[pistonpump]

I know what you mean on this bro. This happened to my last g.f. Either the girl is open about being fit and fitness or she is not. I mean you can sorta talk about it, but girls tend to just get very very angry about weight. They make it seem like you ate their dog or something.

My lesson learned is just to find a chick who already works out and is into fitness. She'll probably be more open and take it in a positive manner.

When you take a girl who is normally sedentary and does nothing, to try and get her to start working out will just cause problems...trust me I know.

I'm into atleast a girl who cares about her image/fitness since I do as well. I don't think it is an unrealistic expectation, but this is something atleast that I would like out of any girl I date. If she's not like that then oh well...some girls have preferences about guy's like height, or hair color or whatever.

This to me is just a male preference.

well said bro. I feel the same way. This girl is crazy about me tho and i like to be cared for in that way and all but sometimes i just dont know. This is why she wants me to be her bf but i just brush it off because im not sure i want to be committed to her let alone anyone at all....

so here goes a little more of my personal life right here on AM. Love it lol.

 

[brywal312]

true. its all good but in bed i cant finish :yawn: i think that has something to do with it. i dunno, i got issues i guess. Ive had girls like her before but i think my taste has changed, physically wise. Maybe its just my pisces nature coming out and i feel everything has to be ideal...? I realize not everyone is perfect but it would be nice if she would get the hint and just lose a little weight. Ive hinted about it so many times, dont think she gets it. :shrugs:

dude i know exactly what you mean. Especially when she is on top and you can see her belly...eeew. Best thing to do in that situation in put her on her back put the legs together hod her ankles and FINISH! either that or there is always the donkey punch! :hammer:

 

[dlew308]

backhanded compliments

"I don't mind a woman with a few extra lbs..."

stuff like that should work

 

[Movin_weight]

lol i'm goin through this same issue with my girl and actually am having some success... i finally got her to start dieting a little bit and she's dropping a few pounds but when ever i push her to do more it turns into a fight

you've basically got to convince her to do it for herself and find a way to keep her motivated... once you get her to take the first step then just start blasting her with compliments and encouragement and that will keep her going,the more attention and compliments you give her about how good she's doing ect... the more likely she will stick with it

 

[pistonpump]

lol i'm goin through this same issue with my girl and actually am having some success... i finally got her to start dieting a little bit and she's dropping a few pounds but when ever i push her to do more it turns into a fight

you've basically got to convince her to do it for herself and find a way to keep her motivated... once you get her to take the first step then just start blasting her with compliments and encouragement and that will keep her going,the more attention and compliments you give her about how good she's doing ect... the more likely she will stick with it

good advice. i know she's an endo and i dont think she is out of shape that bad actually. maybe just big boned? lol idk...i swear i hardly ever see her eat. I dont know what the deal is. I guess ill have to wait a few weeks until her sisters leave and then ill be able to see if she really hits the gym often.

 

[Chad]

dont even think about it.

 

[john123131]

definetly ask her to go to the gym with ya....then throw her chubby a*s on the tredmill..haha....ok ok ok...i was kidding, but really get her to go with ya....she'll think its nice you asked her to go

 

[ReaperX]

lol i'm goin through this same issue with my girl and actually am having some success... i finally got her to start dieting a little bit and she's dropping a few pounds but when ever i push her to do more it turns into a fight

you've basically got to convince her to do it for herself and find a way to keep her motivated... once you get her to take the first step then just start blasting her with compliments and encouragement and that will keep her going,the more attention and compliments you give her about how good she's doing ect... the more likely she will stick with it

Same deal here. I got my current girlfriend to eat cleaner now. She didn't used to eat quite so healthy, but she does now and she feels healthier. That's the best you can hope for is clean eating. You can state health reasons, etc...I mean your not lying.

Actually pushing to go to the gym is gonna piss her off.

The thing is you have to want to do something. It has to come from the person. My last g/f wouldnt do anything even after she went to the gym, she just went through the motions. Yeah I'm not dating her anymore. ...not cuz of the fat, but she's messed up too anyway.

 

[jas123]

You could also suggest that you do things together like play racquetball or tennis or something that will burn calories. If she wants you as her bf so bad, I think she'll like these things that involve spending time together.

 

[john123131]

sex burns calories...........

 

[ReaperX]

You could also suggest that you do things together like play racquetball or tennis or something that will burn calories. If she wants you as her bf so bad, I think she'll like these things that involve spending time together.

jas-


Bad idea. Never make a proposition over a subject as this. (weight). Either she does something or you just leave in a very subtle manner. No need to disrespect her.

 

[tattoopierced1]

have her come to the gym with you once, then during your workout, get her playfully to try some of the exercises out...be subtle but drop hints. She just may decide to join in without you saying anything.

 

[Mrs. Gimpy!]

she'll think its nice you asked her to go

definitely, but i know that u had said that you have conflicting schedules

i dont know though, most (not ALL) chubbies stay chubby or roller coaster it with their weight. if weight is an issue than it could be a problem. sex is really important

 

[jas123]

jas-


Bad idea. Never make a proposition over a subject as this. (weight). Either she does something or you just leave in a very subtle manner. No need to disrespect her.

You never mention weight or anything. Just tell her that you wanted to try racquetball and see if she wants to play with you. If this sort of thing is something that you wouldn't normally do together, then say that a friend couldn't make it to play but that you still wanted to try it. If I wanted my gf to lose weight, this would absolutely work.

 

[Wedgylx]

why not ask her to go to the gym when you train

LOL, funny story.

I'm in a similar situation where I'd like to see my girl try to match my efforts to stay in shape. I recently broke my ankle and I cannot drive, so I rely on my girl for a ride.

You would think she would just workout while I workout, but she brings snacks and a magazine and just waits for me in the car LOL.

I mean, that she would be willing to do that for me is great and we've got an amazing relationship - but I guess her going to my gym is actually counter-productive lol

 

[jomi822]

call her fat, works every time

 

[motive]

my friend bought his wife a treadmill for an anniversary present... in return she told him she had sex with his boss... didnt see that coming

 

[Iron Warrior]

Tell her you'll give her $10 for every pound she loses (j/K) I wouldn't bother with it. I couldn't even make my best friend more health and fitness conscious but I could care less about his looks LOL.

It's really up to her in the end. You can try all the trick to get her in the gym but if she doesn't want to change her lifestyle then I doubt you can do anything to change her.

I know I've had a few girls who thought they could get me to stop using steroids if they stuck with me long enough but it didn't work. I know this is a little bit like comparing apples and oranges but I think it makes the point.

 

[ReaperX]

Actually yeah just call 'fat'. If she's like 'Ok, yeah' then there you go. If she gets pissed off say that you were calling her 'phat' and it is not a bad thing.

Boom. Reaper does the impossible again.

 

[crader]

You said you hardly ever see her eat? Is it possible that she is thinking she is trying to control her weight but that she doesnt understand that your body stores more if you eat less? Maybe take her to dinner and mention that to maintain your lean(I hope) body by eating less more often.

Get a fatburner and ask her if she wants to try it with you? And really to cut out alcohol is a big one. Or at least cut back. I agree with the poster on spending time with her but make it activity related...and no we women do workout in the gym..we don't ask ?'s and talk about our pumped guy brywal...date a girl with brains not a gushing little girl. We women are as serious about our supplements and diet and lifting as the guys.

 

[brywal312]

You said you hardly ever see her eat? Is it possible that she is thinking she is trying to control her weight but that she doesnt understand that your body stores more if you eat less? Maybe take her to dinner and mention that to maintain your lean(I hope) body by eating less more often.

Get a fatburner and ask her if she wants to try it with you? And really to cut out alcohol is a big one. Or at least cut back. I agree with the poster on spending time with her but make it activity related...and no we women do workout in the gym..we don't ask ?'s and talk about our pumped guy brywal...date a girl with brains not a gushing little girl. We women are as serious about our supplements and diet and lifting as the guys.

And I would LOVE to meet a girl like you! lol I only speak from experience at my gym. Wow seriously if I met a girl here that was serious about working out I would kiss ass so hardcore lol.:woohoo:

 

[liftitbig85]

donkey punch! :hammer:

http://www.donkeypunchclothing.com/index.asp

 

[Movin_weight]

aright so the other day i got in a fight with my girl over her going to the gym... she basically told me that she hates it when people try to push her about working out blah blah... i said that it is extremely important that a girl who wants to be with me has to be willing to take care of herself health wise and be motivated to stay in shape

she ended up blowing up on me and getting all upset so i apoligized and said i wouldn't push the issue any further

Then 2 days later we were out to eat with her friend and my girl was asking her friend when she goes to the gym and stated that she wanted to start going with her and get into a routine

lol i was just sitting there with a big smile on my face... lets hope she goes through with it

 

[LiftNDestroy]

definetly ask her to go to the gym with ya....then throw her chubby a*s on the tredmill..haha....

:toofunny:

 

[kwyckemynd00]

And I would LOVE to meet a girl like you! lol I only speak from experience at my gym. Wow seriously if I met a girl here that was serious about working out I would kiss ass so hardcore lol.:woohoo:

Dunno if that's gonna work out after you were just bragging about making your ex and your mom cry for interrupting your workout. :lol:

 

[Mrs. Gimpy!]

Dunno if that's gonna work out after you were just bragging about making your ex and your mom cry for interrupting your workout. :lol:

lol ditto that

sounds kinda like me when it comes to me reading or eating.... bad times to interrupt me

 

[pistonpump]

Okay thanks guys and gals lots of good points and POVs. I like the idea about doing active things and im sure she will do it because she likes me like wayyy to much lol. Im thinking she eats like once or twice a day and being an endo as well could be the problem. Not to mention drinking alcohol very often which comes with the "before we go home" snack of jack in the box curly fries. She was taking some sort of fat burner kinda like zantrax or something on those lines. She said she didnt like the jittery feeling, i guess it has alot of caffiene. I could have her take something jitter free and effective...

Ms Gimpy, about the sex comment. She ALWAYS wants it and enjoys it way more than i do. COuld be me but i doubt it, i havent been with anyone else for a while now but for some reason im not that into sex with her. I dont know what it is exactly but its like whatever to me we do ok we dont ok.

Ive brought up how i cant believe how some people will let themselves go so bad once they are committed and have been in a relationship for a while. To me i said, that its somewhat unfair to your partner. I dont want to get involved with her to the point she thinks its comfortable to do that. I have mention about eating more meals etc. I mean sometimes i dont know if she cares or even understands, i think its in the middle of both. But, she says she is going to start to go to the gym alot more when the fam leaves so the end of the month.

 

[brywal312]

Ms Gimpy, about the sex comment. She ALWAYS wants it and enjoys it way more than i do. COuld be me but i doubt it, i havent been with anyone else for a while now but for some reason im not that into sex with her. I dont know what it is exactly but its like whatever to me we do ok we dont ok.

For some reason the pornstar stack (paravol+aspire) comes to mind as a possible solution and/or kegels. if all else fails there is always porn and a paper bag

 

[DreamOfWeight]

thebigger and better i looked the more smaller and toned she wanted to look... when its sexy time...make sure there is a mirror around...and later when she askes if u think shes fat, which she will...tell her u like her no matter how she looks or smells..lol but then nicely smile as u extend ur arms for a hug and call her ur preciouse little teddy bear.. then burry ur face in her shoulder and murmer.. ur so warm..lol

 

[Gtarzan81]

Mature women, FTW!!

 

[pistonpump]

Mature women, FTW!!

and that relates to this thread how?

 

[One and Only]

Best thing todo is to ask her to go to the gym with you and or bring more pro-loseing wehight ides into everyday conversation best way to go. :bow28:

 

[t3stxlr4titud]

You should love her for substance and not vanity. Maybe she needs a new boyfriend. I can help with the latter.

-TF

 

[Dadof2]

Making your girl feel inadequate is going to cause more problems than her just being chubby.

just something to think about.

 

[toughchick401]

bottom line she has to want it, no amount of hinting or comments is going to do it.....She has to make the effort, and do it on her own..............and than and only than can you help....

TC

 

[shaddow]

I was fooling around with this chick for a while several months ago who didn't/wouldn't work out or watch what she ate, and she was kinda pushing me for a relationship but I pretty much told her straight up how I felt. I never called her fat, but I informed her that when I'm in a relationship I am less likely to want to workout and watch what I eat, and therefor I promised myself some time ago that I would not enter a committed relationship with someone who didn't take care of herself in those same ways because I didn't want to fall off the wagon. You don't have to make a girl feel like a lard ass to get your point across.

 

[pistonpump]

yeah guys, im still with her and i feel deeply for her i feel like an a55hole just for making this thread. She is who she is i just think it was a lil selfish of me in the first place. to my girl who will never read this (i hope so lol) im sorry.

 

[pantera101]

You said you hardly ever see her eat? Is it possible that she is thinking she is trying to control her weight but that she doesnt understand that your body stores more if you eat less? Maybe take her to dinner and mention that to maintain your lean(I hope) body by eating less more often.

Get a fatburner and ask her if she wants to try it with you? And really to cut out alcohol is a big one. Or at least cut back. I agree with the poster on spending time with her but make it activity related...and no we women do workout in the gym..we don't ask ?'s and talk about our pumped guy brywal...date a girl with brains not a gushing little girl. We women are as serious about our supplements and diet and lifting as the guys.

Some will hardly eat during the day and then pig out at night.They have slowed metabolism's from not eating during the day,then they get stuffed at night on their slow metabolism's before bed. :think:

Not many women work out in the gym.The majority of the girls at my gym are cardio queens.Theirs one who is toned like crazy.Then theirs one at my apartments who soes alot of running and I've seen her doing lunges while running a few times.These are the only two girls I know of that are serious about staying in shape.Most try to eat less,and do some of the dumbest pansiest stuff.

 

[pantera101]

yeah guys, im still with her and i feel deeply for her i feel like an a55hole just for making this thread. She is who she is i just think it was a lil selfish of me in the first place. to my girl who will never read this (i hope so lol) im sorry.

I was going to say that she's clearly not driven.I wont go out with my family sometimes so I can get my sleep and wake up in the early morning to go to the gym.Maybe Her and I should trade a little......No I take that back!!!

I'm glad to see another guy having trouble finishing.I thought I was straight up weird.I love porn though,so just close your eyes and imagine the best latest scene you have seen.Right now I would love to have a girl that gave me trouble finishing though.I've been very lonely :sad: Just me and my porn.

I believe your standards and how you look at people willl change greatly as you change for the better as well.I know my standards have gone up quite a bit.

 

[crader]

It must just be your gym though. We have a girl who walks with a walker who was in a car wreck. They told her she would never walk again, she does! She also has a muscular upper body.

We have a super big muscled girl, well two of those actually.

We have 6 girls who compete. 3 trainers with good bodies and a myriad of others who lift.

 

[pantera101]

It must just be your gym though. We have a girl who walks with a walker who was in a car wreck. They told her she would never walk again, she does! She also has a muscular upper body.

We have a super big muscled girl, well two of those actually.

We have 6 girls who compete. 3 trainers with good bodies and a myriad of others who lift.

I'm very jealous of your gym.Their are girls who will lift but they don't take it seriously and have no clue what they're doing.Except for the one and she has the body to back it up too.I think the girl at my aprtments just runs/lunges and thats it.Her legs and butt look great but her upper is just a normal female upper body.Then in real life I have only seen one other girl who had a little muscle on her.So maybe it's Tx.Theirs hot girls everywhere here,but it's the skinny born hot type who some actually disgust me now with their noodle arms.I guess noodle armed guys need a woman too. :lol: