- 07-23-2007, 10:02 AM
ok, here is the best answer ever. and a bit of human animalism 101
If there is something wrong with their relationship then let it stay wrong and work itself out. And work itself out can mean a divorce. There has never been a time that "spying" ( as it sorta is) or i will say giving recon information back to one part of the couple ever helped anything but cause more drama at home or in the court room. The women is married but being a human it is in our blood to not be "faithful" sexually ( more so for guys because you all produce an Eff Load more reproductive "seeds" than we do). If the woman ( or man) isn't feeling that she is using her seed, she will go run off to other people who maybe can "give it to her lol".. mostly guys cheat because they just want to put their seed into as many people as possible.. they are suppose to.. they are guys.
In this case.. i would almost assume that this is a newly married couple who was very use to being single and being out and happy and fun and free and are having issues with the new found respect and obligation that social morals put on being married. So she is going through a selfish phase because she wants to make a mark in the ground that says THIS IS ME. So, do the bootay dance in the face of men and sneak off to the back for a lil head here and there lol.. it makes us feel wanted and it can be FUN!!! exciting!! something that being married often just ends up dead.
The guy is trying to be the nice married man.. but he shouldn't he should be him, if two people cant be themselves in a relationship and feel that one is changing more to fit the needs of the other, then the relationship is a lie and will fail. The question is.. and its either sex, money or both.. what is splitting this couple apart.. i feel its sex.. and I feel this women LOVES sexual attention. I think they should talk about it openly and honestly and say ( honey, what do you want in the bed room) 99 times out of 98 we will say we want more attention to be given to us to get us going.. lil kisses or nibbles lol.. but there is that type of woman, like me that will say.. I really need to be able to explore my sexuality with people that interest me.
When my BF now fiance first started to date.. i was a mess, just the biggest nerd ever. Alone, in my room and i swear i use to do needle point for fun!! That would be a ave. saturday night for me. But as time went on, and he showed me another side of me.. we broke up, and a couple of years later i figured out that we want/need and know each other because we are open about who we are. Long story short ( too late) we are back together and going strong for 4 years.. and the reason why.. we sat down and said.. WE LOVE SEX and we want to share our sex lives together. If i want to have sex with someone, i will always call and say .. hey Mr. Squeaks i met someone and only a couple of times he would say.. eeeeh no.. as i have told him a few times as well. But the honesty in our relationship is going far beyond a "how was your day dear" type conversation.. its a full honesty that allows me to do anything and everything and share it all without fear of rejection...
Thats why i think the guy in this story needs to sit down with his wife and talk about every taboo topic they can. If they can do that.. the relationship can be saved.. if they keep secrets.. then its over before it began.
- 07-23-2007, 12:45 PM
Thanks for the analysis!
Yeah, it's basically none of my bussiness now. The husband did say before I told him anything; "If you know something do me a favor and tell me." So I did have an obligation.
Anyways back to the dating scene for me.
"Do you wash your pants in windex? "Why?" Because I can see myself in them."
- 07-23-2007, 12:56 PM
07-23-2007, 01:45 PM
07-23-2007, 01:51 PM
07-23-2007, 01:53 PM
07-23-2007, 06:43 PM
07-24-2007, 01:57 AM
With all due respect Emo, you should have never given out your friends addy to your co-worker. I just don't think that's right but that's my opinion. What if your co-worker had a gun and was f'ing pissed to the max ? That's how crazy movies start !
Your boy needs to dump that slut and realize that there's plenty of fish in the sea. He shouldn't let her get away with that crap. I learned as a teacher and coach that people will test you to see what they can get away with. I also realized that they will learn how to get away with whatever you let them have. If your boy's chick knew this and respected him and the relationship then she shouldn't be pulling that crap on him. I think that every man needs to lay down the law at the beginning of a relationship or else most women will see you as a pu$$y that can be walked on, I think this happened to your friend.
When it comes to picking chicks up I prefer settings that I enjoy over bars and clubs. Bars and clubs are okay but I've had more success at Whole Foods, Costco, Vitamin Shoppe, football and baseball games, and one time at the bank. You get to be your true self in settings you enjoy.
More women have guard down outside of the club and they feel like "it's meant to be" because you found them in what seemed like a random meeting place. The best woman I ever found was at Vitamin Shoppe. We both saw the same protein container on clearance and I beat her to it by about 2 seconds. I said "Sorry hun, you're just gonna have to eat more dead animals this week then me unless you're a cannibal" She laughed pretty hard and I said it wasn't that funny, she kept laughing and I wound up leaving with her business card, e-mail, & phone #. Every dog has his day I guess
Those lines are crazy bro LOL. However, communication isn't always what you, it's your body language and tone of voice that do the communication.
If you see a fit chick that attracts you then here's what I'd do. I'll walk up and say "Do you work out or are you almost as genetically gifted as me ?" If she answers and/or smiles then you have the green light, if she tries to act snobby then say "I thought you were more interesting than that !" and move on but she might follow you if you intrigued her and then you can bust her chops by accusing her of stalking you.
My craziest night was when I got in a fight with some guy who played football for Stanford and was talking mad sh!t about Cal football
07-24-2007, 08:22 AM
07-24-2007, 08:25 AM
Well, I never actually go to a bar to club to pick up a girl (unless you want some action) because that is not the type of place to go to pick up a quality girl. I mean think about it, if you take her home that night, there is probably a good chance you weren't the first one and probably won't be the last one either.
At any rate, I think women have a different perception about men outside the bars/club, because they have a tendency to see men at their worst in those places: drunk and horny.
Of course those kinds of things can't be helped, but anyway.
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