Are Humans (Men) Meant to be Monogamous?
03-21-2007 08:11 PM
Are Humans (Men) Meant to be Monogamous?
I was always a believer in love. I never had a truly loving relationship until recently, I've been with my girl for 2 years now. I can say for certain that I do love her.
It's been long distant for a few months now. I see her every couple of months, and it has been going suprisingly well.
Problem is that I wanna date (nail) about 60% of the girls I see or talk to. I'm not even on cycle yet. I'm good looking, have a nice car, money in my pockets, etc. I get looks and talk to really hot girls all the time, but I can't (don't) act on it.
Maybe I'm too young to be in such a commited relationship... Maybe I'm really not with the right girl... Maybe I'm just fickle... Maybe I'm just a MAN
What are your guys' thoughts?
03-21-2007 09:24 PM
i believe in love too but i dont believe love is forever. i think two people can have amazingly strong feeling for each other on day and then want to be with someone else the next. i also think its the way people see love while they are growing up. if mom and dad dont have a good relationship then baby boy/girl will grow up thinking thats how love works. but to hit right at the heart of your question- men have something inside them that wants to be the ALPHA male and have all the pretty girls want him and have the fastest car and deadlift the most, ect, ect................or man you`re JUST a man.
03-21-2007 09:50 PM
Let's not confuse being "Male" with being a "Man."
Led by instincts (lust, anger)
Concerned about self.
Flees responsibility-denial is a way of life
Constantly proves himself macho
Primarily a talker
Inconsistent in morals and ethics...
Concerned about others
Secure enough to be gentle
Leads fairly and justly
Man of Action
Holds to a standard of conviction.
You're a "Male" by birth... you have to choose to be a "Man"
03-21-2007 10:05 PM
Biologically speaking..no, I don't think humans were really meant for monogamy at all. Various social systems have evolved faster than our biological systems to limit humans to fewer partners.
This creates a conflict in which one has a choice to either ignore the social system (ie monogamy) or the biological system (the overwhelming desire to breed).
Alternative relationship arrangments such as swinging or polyamory are ways in which couples can circumvent strict monogamy in an open and consensual manner. This takes enormous dedication to honesty, sensitivity and open lines of communication and therefore most people cannot handle it.
03-21-2007 11:07 PM
What was it that Frank Barone said on everybody loves Raymond.
Men are like farmers that sow the fields
Women are supposed to limit themselves to one farmer.
03-22-2007 01:22 AM
I do get the urge but I don't really cheat on women out of respect. OTOH. I gotta admit I'm always looking for a better deal at all times and this is probably why my farts last longer then my relationships LOL.
03-22-2007 06:22 AM
Running with the Big Boys
1 EGG - 1 BILLION SPERM next question!
Seriously, monogamy is a personal choice often influenced by society . I think its like not eating meat, what may be best for one person could be a health risk for another!
Just don't hate yourself either way!!!
03-22-2007 06:29 AM
I like Toads answer. We have a lot of built in urges but as a society we have learned to control them. Most men are jealous as well so I can see how screwing anything and everything and then beating any other male up in the area would be a nice reality TV show but otherwise I don't see anything good from it.
Perhaps when population and life expectancy was low and surviving child rates were also few and far between; nailing everything in your sight was beneficial and a built in genetic trait.
03-22-2007 09:59 AM
How old are you? I always wonder how people handle a LD relationship esp if you're young and active
I think that's why most LD relationships fail, someone ends up cheating.
S*x is very important part of a relationship esp for men
Originally Posted by Roidberg
03-22-2007 07:12 PM
Originally Posted by TINYTOAD
Decide for yourself what you want. Are males also "meant" to lie, cheat, steal, murder? Meant by whom? Drives are drives that can either be harnessed are redirected rationally towards goals..or you can be a slave to them, pushed this way and that way not having a clue why you find yourself left with NOTHING of value in the long run.
Do you want a companion to love you, a family, a great career...the ability to look other people in the eyes and look yourSELF in the mirror? Do you think you can screw around and have that?
Once you take the burden off of simply giving in to biological urges and choose to become a MAN, then it is quite easy to see the proper way to act to achieve your goals and retain your morality/integrity.
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03-22-2007 08:53 PM
Originally Posted by Iron Warrior
03-27-2007 01:47 PM
I'm 24 and in college. I see and talk to a ton of hot girls every day. Like any guy I assume (know) that they all want a piece. Like I said, I do love my gf. But I have different thoughts all the time about my life situation...
I love her, but could I love some other girl more? When I think about that, the answer is probably yes. It is sad but true to think that a huge part of me staying in this is to not completely break her heart. Not to say that I would not hurt too, and always wonder if I made a big mistake, but not to nearly the same degree.
I'm young. There are many people my age or even younger that are married, with or without kids, but do I want that right now? Because that is surely where it is headed and it scares me sh1tless.
Do you guys know how hard it is to go to college and not get lots and lots (and lots) of p****? And I'm talking solid 8+'s frequently, easy if I put half a thought into it.:chick:
03-27-2007 10:46 PM
ROIDBERG: If you're scared sh!tless of getting in a serious relationship then don't. The women I've had serious relationships think I owed them something because they thought they were investing their emotions and love on me but I wasn't investing my love and emotions at the rate they wanted, I just faked I did, kinda like how they periodically faked orgams.
Just because other young people are getting married and having kids doesn't mean you should bro, so don't stress about it. Not having kids isn't the worst thing in the world either, JMO.
It's okay to think with the little head when you're in college IMO
03-28-2007 02:08 AM
So this guy joined JUST to tell us how much poon he could get?
03-28-2007 04:35 AM
Monagomous...in the literal sense, yes. People inherently form strong bonds just as many other animals do.
But, I'd also argue that it is unnatural in the common sense where one sexual partner is the only partner they have for the rest of their lives. That's a cultural / religious thing.
I'd actually argue that many culturally "taboo" things wouldn't be offensive or damaging in the least were some of these cultural taboos not taught.
So, here is how you get around it. Find a good bi-chick who knows you're not leaving her for the poon-tang you two just slammed
03-28-2007 07:03 AM
Running with the Big Boys
Ahh college life!!! My favorite pick up line in college was something like," Hey, aren't you in my psych-class, I thought so, you wanna F**k?"
Originally Posted by Roidberg
or " How about another Jell-o shot?"
03-28-2007 02:14 PM
Man...you pimps. All I ever hear from the ladies is "quit killing the curve motherfwcker!".
03-31-2007 12:23 AM
yeah what a tool!! i see no other posts by him. take your as$ to e harmony. com hoe!!!
Originally Posted by Mega NRG Man
05-01-2007 09:48 PM
Okay bros, I actually registered for another username because my real handle may have been compromised by my gf. My real handle has close to 2,000 posts. Most of you know me...
I broke up with my girlfriend just recently. After thinking about everything over and over, and over again, I've decided that it had to be done. I really do love her, there are just things that we can't (or won't) change about ourselves. Basically it's like this...
We're long distant, largely because I left. I have a real good situation where I am now. I don't wanna disclose too many details because I'm kinda paranoid... but anyway. She wants me to go back and live where she is, and I don't want to. I can either stay here and live a fairly easy life in a nicer area, go to school, etc.; or go there and bust my ass just to get by.
I love her to death. It breaks my heart to hurt her so much, and as much as it hurts me I know that she is hurting 10 times as much. I could honestly see myself marrying her and having a family with her, and being happy to some degree. But I am not at a point in my life where I'm ready for all that.
I worry that I will realize that I made the wrong decision... That nobody will ever love me like she does... That maybe her life will take a turn for the worse because of me...
I've never had to break somebody's heart before.
Have any of you ever had to make a decision like this? Does the pain go away? Do you ever stop wondering if you made the right choice?
05-01-2007 10:00 PM
Being ready shouldn't be your main priority.
Some things you never get a second shot at, and sometimes those things are too good to pass up.
I wasn't planning on getting involved in a serious relationship at my age. Hell, I didn't want to be in one. But, I found myself with someone I knew I'd be an idiot to let go of and would hate myself for it later.
Imagine how life will be growing old with a woman you wish was someone else. It would suck. That's what you're risking. A few more years of fun for the rest of your life wishing you were with someone else who you let go of.
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