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  1. Life threw my some lemons


    Okay guys, I'm 22 years old and I'm still a virgin. Is that even normal? I'm a nice guy. But I'm only 5' 6 1/2" I don't think I look too bad. Been working out for about a year, 4 times a week. I go to a community college. Even so, I can't meet anybody. I joined a few clubs but there's no one I like. I connect very well with overweight people though. Moreso than skinnier ones and I'm only 155lbs myself. Some of the big girls have crushes on me but the feelings not mutual. How can I attract the kind of people that I am attracted to?? Or should I roll with the punches and hope that something can come from a chance encounter??


  2. 22 year old virgin isn't something to be ashamed of. You may have to look at your priorities and standards if having sex is something you're after but not getting.
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  3. Its really not that its a problem ( trust me in this ) Having sex with the wrong person will lead to more problems whether its physical,emotional,financial or just spiritual there will be more negatives than the seemingly positives.

    So let me encourage you in the fact that the right one is out there so just be yourself and go with your heart.Others can tell you who they think is right for you but you have to live with the choices you make.

    Ive had enough experience through life and its tragedies to know that a beautiful heart and sweet disposition beat out beauty and shallowness every time.So stay true to yourself and in time ( maybe sooner than you think ) the one true love you were meant to have will find you!!!

    So hang in there youll find the right one until then eat,lift, and sleep and soon youll achieve your goals and as a side note 200lbs on a 5'6" frame looks MASSIVE.I know you can do it!!!!!!


    Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths . Proverbs 3:5-6

  4. I was a virgin until I was 18....I got to college and wanted to get laid ASAP...so I settled and F'd a drunken fat chick just to get it over with....totally regretted it dude!

    It will be worth it when you find someone special.

    I wish I had waited...not just for myself but to avoid the nightmare that ensued!

  5. Ask yourself this one question... Why do the hottest girls you know date a*******?

    The answer is confidence. We see them as pricks, they see them as confident. (Men have better vision than women, but thats another story) Everyone likes to be around confident people.

    I know you're good at something, be it math, science, or even working out. Use that confidence to your advantage. Confidence is the greatest aphrodisiac! Find what it is you're good at and strive to be the best at it.

    Jayhawkk is right. Don't be ashamed. Plenty of girls I know prefer it because they say they are the only ones who remember what foreplay is (I have no clue what they're talking about ).

    So bottom line is relax. "A watched pot never boils." You are at an important part of your life. Use this time to lay the foundation for the person you ultimately want to be. Spend your time using your strengths to bolster your weaknesses and make you the best you can be. Women will come...I promise.
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  6. Quote Originally Posted by TarHeelTrainer
    Ask yourself this one question... Why do the hottest girls you know date a*******?

    The answer is confidence. We see them as pricks, they see them as confident. (Men have better vision than women, but thats another story) Everyone likes to be around confident people.

    I know you're good at something, be it math, science, or even working out. Use that confidence to your advantage. Confidence is the greatest aphrodisiac! Find what it is you're good at and strive to be the best at it.

    Jayhawkk is right. Don't be ashamed. Plenty of girls I know prefer it because they say they are the only ones who remember what foreplay is (I have no clue what they're talking about ).

    So bottom line is relax. "A watched pot never boils." You are at an important part of your life. Use this time to lay the foundation for the person you ultimately want to be. Spend your time using your strengths to bolster your weaknesses and make you the best you can be. Women will come...I promise.
    Listen to the TarHeel. I waited until I was 18 too & my first was with my ex of 2.5 years (it had only been 5 months at the time). Haven't regretted it since (even though I now realize she isn't the one for me). Wait bro, don't settle.

    And believe it or not, CONFIDENCE is key, not cockiness, by confidence. Know what you're worth & never settle for less.
  7. tattoopierced1
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    listen to these guys about the confidence thing. Once you have that, you'll be a magnet. Just be careful not to confuse confidence with arrogance.

  8. Ditto on the confidence, its your key to success.

  9. Here's a trick you can try to boost confidence around hot women: pretend they are fat. The reason the fat girls you know have crushes on you is indirectly because you aren't interested in them. You see, because you aren't interested, you talk to them however you want. You aren't in the least bit afraid. You exude confidence around them. Why? Because you aren't thinking about what your saying; you aren't worried you'll "screw up your chances".

    I know how you're feeling to a degree. While I wasn't a virgin in college, for almost the first half of my college career I couldn't seem to land a relationship. It didn't dawn on me what I was doing wrong until I was at a party one night and I was too nervous to talk to some hot girl I was eyeballing so I just decided to talk to someone I wasn't interested in to fill the time. The next day, that girl's boyfriend (I knew the guy, but didn't know who he was dating) asked me why I was hitting on his girlfriend. I told him I wasn't. Then it dawned on me, that a lot of girls seem to immediately assume you're hitting on them if you just talk to them out of the blue as a stranger at a party.

    So, the next party I was at, I saw a girl I thought looked like a pretty cool person and just struck up a conversation. I just talked ot her like I would one of my friends. That's all it took. Dated her for like a year and a half. Mind you she turned out to be psycho, but that isn't really the point.

  10. DazzlinJack,
    Nillifidian's advice is the best advice you will ever get!

    Think about it...everyone wants what they THINK they cannot have.

    Big girls want you because they think you are out of their league. You want beautiful women but think they are out of your league...but they're not. If you ever listen to an interview with a supermodel they will say they have the hardest time dating because guys are too scared to approach them. Find what you're good at and build up your confidence. It will make every facet of your life stronger. Who cares if a hot girl rejects you? Have you ever attempted a max lift and not made it? I bet it didn't stop you from trying it again!

    If you approach women with sincere confidence and the mindset that you bring something valuable to the table the rest will take care of itself. Your brain controls the outcome, not her. If you feel you will fail, you will. If you feel success is possible (and probable) then the sky is the limit, my friend.


    P.S. always be nice to big girls...they have the hottest friends and will be your best wing-men in the dating scene.

  11. Somebody needs to get JBlaze to respond....

  12. Quote Originally Posted by DazzlinJack
    But I'm only 5' 6 1/2" I don't think I look too bad.
    This is part of your problem(your attitude about your height). You feel that your height causes an issue with women. Consequently, when any interaction starts with a woman you are already discounting yourself due to your negative impression about your height. I am not tall or even average. However, I have dated women that where over 6feet without heels on. (I like long legs )

    Admittedly, some women will immedaitely reject due to height but this is no different for you. As i assume you would immediately reject a woman you are not attracted to. If this is the case, simply move on to others. However, I honestly beleive that a confident man looks much taller than the physically taller confidence lacking man.

    Instead of being concerned about things you cannot change(such as your height) concern yourself with the things you can change. Your top priority should be your confidence.
    Last edited by size; 10-18-2006 at 05:38 PM.
  13. B4n3 0n3
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    Yup I think it is your height that is the problem you are just too short. But maybe you could flip the script like play alot of Too Short's CD's and try to make it cool to be short.

    I am not a virgin but I am having the same problem lately myself I ain't getting no action. Well maybe it would help if I went out to a bar but I prefer to stay at home and shoot steroids and workout. I have thought about joining a gym to meet hot chicks that have my same interest(working out) but isn't it a no no to go to a gym to hit on chicks.

  14. all good advice, good luck and confidence, is key...well a fine line, not to cocky, not to insecure..

    good luck

    tc
    RIP Ryan, :(

  15. Quote Originally Posted by TarHeelTrainer
    If you approach women with sincere confidence and the mindset that you bring something valuable to the table the rest will take care of itself. .

    P.S. always be nice to big girls...they have the hottest friends and will be your best wing-men in the dating scene.
    That is some solid advice.

    Look at the + and - in your life, personality, etc and try to eliminate the -. Try finding a social network of friends that have the same goals as you (getting laid, weightlifting etc...). Join clubs that have some of these people in them and that your interested in.

    Also, if you can find a friend thats a player that can help you tremendously. Look at him when he's talking to girls notice his body language and voice tonality. Mimmick his actions, to a degree, until you can form your own style.
  16. B4n3 0n3
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bigballa

    Also, if you can find a friend thats a player that can help you tremendously. Look at him when he's talking to girls notice his body language and voice tonality. Mimmick his actions, to a degree, until you can form your own style.
    I disagree compleatly. Never duplicate. You have to do you, don't do someone else.

  17. Quote Originally Posted by Nullifidian
    I just talked ot her like I would one of my friends. That's all it took. Dated her for like a year and a half. Mind you she turned out to be psycho, but that isn't really the point.
    BINGO ! Talk the way you normally would because otherwise people will have a false illusion of what type of person you are. The confidence is a big factor. If I were drafting 2 players of pretty equal talent I would take the one who has more confidence any day of the week, that's why women will ALWAYS go with the more confident guy. A lot of women can be easily BS'ed/sold (no pun intended) because they're more emotional then men IMO.

  18. Quote Originally Posted by size
    This is part of your problem(your attitude about your height). You feel that your height causes an issue with women. Consequently, when any interaction starts with a woman you are already discounting yourself due to your negative impression about your height. I am not tall or even average. However, I have dated women that where over 6feet without heels on. (I like long legs )

    Admittedly, some women will immedaitely reject due to height but this is no different for you. As i assume you would immediately reject a woman you are not attracted to. If this is the case, simply move on to others. However, I honestly beleive that a confident man looks much taller than the physically taller confidence lacking man.

    Instead of being concerned about things you cannot change(such as your height) concern yourself with the things you can change. Your top priority should be your confidence.

    Here's a perfect example of height NOT being an issue.

    One of my sister-in-law's friends is extremely hot and has probably the largest natural breasts I've ever seen, along with being really trim (GOOD genetics). She always used to go for the same type of guy; 6'2" underwear model types.

    Well, she just got engaged. Wanna know how tall her fiance is? 5'5"

    If you just don't care how things go, and talk to everyone like you do with your friends, anything can happen.

  19. Wow thanks for all the replies guys! Ahh, I was mulling over these posts yesterday and guess what? Today I went to the gym and this 5' 11" chick was having some trouble undoing the calipers that hold the weight plates down on the barbells. So instead of walking by thinking that she's gonna diss me or something because she's a whole head taller than me, I was like,"I'll help ya out with this one" And I undo the clasp and she says to me,"Thanks. You're a nice guy." And leaves. Huh?!?! Was I supposed to do more like, say, continue talking to her after helping her out? I'll probably never see her again because I don't usually workout at that particular time. And there won't be another moment where I'll help her undo any more clasps!!

  20. Hard for me to say since I wasn't there to see her body language.

    But - seems as if she walked away then probably best just to move on with your workout.

  21. I got shot down when she didn't even give me a chance. That's life, right?

  22. DazzlinJack,
    What you did was perfect! Now you see what we're talking about. You approached her. Not bad for your first time out!

    Meeting women at the gym is a difficult beast to tame so be careful. Many women (especially your age!) feel that people are judging their appearance or technique, staring/over-sexualizing them, or feel their are invading the space "where only men should be" and put up walls to protect themself. So don't worry about this one. If by chance you see her in the gym later and you happen to catch eye contact just smile and get back to your workout. She probably just thought you were insinuating that she couldn't handle it herself. No big deal, it happens all the time. Just keep smiling and she'll figure out you only had good intentions.

    Great job though! Keep up the good work.

  23. Match.com is your friend no joke.

    Also I can feel your pain, I was alone when I lost my virginity lol

    Seriously though match.com is a great place IMO Just be honest what you are looking for and what you can offer. Then don't waste time with people who do not meet what you are looking for or you just hurt yourself and them.


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  24. Talking to women at the start like they are friends/just another person works. All the girls I have dated have always been friends first then without noticing it we are dating. This is except for the few times Iíve been asked out by the person herself Earlier on in my teens I had one person tell me for a friend that she was interested in me. I took this as the person teasing/making fun of me because I liked her as well. Well this girl DID like me and wanted to go out which I found out much later and thatís where the confidence would have helped.

  25. Quote Originally Posted by B4n3 0n3
    I disagree compleatly. Never duplicate. You have to do you, don't do someone else.
    Which is why I included the statement "to a degree". I agree you should never be exactly like someone else. It's more of getting an idea of how to act around women and then tailoring it to your own personality.
  26. B4n3 0n3
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    Well if you don't know anything at all then slight imitation is ok I suppose.

  27. Hey buddy altleat theres no califlower on your junk, and no kids calling you dad. being a virgin doesnt matter. I think to get laid alot you need to say to yourself, and believe it " I am who i am take it or leave it, if you dont like me and you tell me alteast i didnt have to waste either of our time" like the boys said confidence. How can anyone like you for you if you dont like you for you?

  28. Thanks for the encouragement guys! These are good tips I hope I can employ for my future exploits in the dating game uh, if I ever get into the game.

    Crowler- I wanted to try those dating sites but when I put up 5' 6" in the height menu, those girls are gonna X me out quicker than a hungry guy on AI's cookie mix.

    And SWG- I really am glad I don't have any of those STD's but isn't it better to be loved and lost than to have never loved at all?

    I got this weird void here. I don't know why I gotta feel this. Working out kinda solves the problem, puts my mind at ease. But the thoughts of getting someone keep popping in my head like I'm an addict or something. Hey, should I just turn to smoking or what?

  29. no buddy, smoking is an expensive death sentence crap shoot with 50/50 odds of survival. women are a 10 to 1.

  30. Quote Originally Posted by DazzlinJack
    Thanks for the encouragement guys! These are good tips I hope I can employ for my future exploits in the dating game uh, if I ever get into the game.

    Crowler- I wanted to try those dating sites but when I put up 5' 6" in the height menu, those girls are gonna X me out quicker than a hungry guy on AI's cookie mix.

    And SWG- I really am glad I don't have any of those STD's but isn't it better to be loved and lost than to have never loved at all?

    I got this weird void here. I don't know why I gotta feel this. Working out kinda solves the problem, puts my mind at ease. But the thoughts of getting someone keep popping in my head like I'm an addict or something. Hey, should I just turn to smoking or what?

    I had an uncle about your height that women threw themselves at. He carried himself well, was personable and worked out somewhat. There are alot of hot women your height and shorter. Dont be in a hurry just to get laid. Girls up pick up on desperation...then their big girlfriends start kock blocking you so you dont take advantage of their friend!(I gotta change my avatar, Im starting to sound like Saluu)

    I lost my virginity to a girl I did not really care for when I was 18. Her name was Gidget, she poured beer all over herself and me. Funny when I think back about it...but kind of weird and a little to kinky for me being a virgin. My friends found out about it and I was "Budman" for about half a year. Her boyfriend called a little bit later...thats another story. Memorable..but not in a good way.

    Not sure what you meant about the smoking thing. But defenitely a stupid habit to start. I lost my grandfather to lung cancer because he had a hard time quitting. Funny thing is when you go into the hospital to die they dont let you smoke. So in the end he ended up quitting anyway but it was too late.

    As far as STDs they have a thing called a condom that has saved I dont know how many lives.
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