when friends become enemies...

superset2

thats my gf...2/14/06..enjoy
i am stuck in a dilemma where my so called friend and roommate has completely let me down and disrespected me over and over again.

I live with 4 guys in a college apt....I take nutrition, lifting, and school very seriously. However my other 3 roommates wouldnt know where the gym is found on campus. Money is very tight for me and I go food shopping and spend almost all my extra money on food and alittle bit on supps. One of my roommates doesnt go food shopping and just eats my food and uses all my ****. He is a heavy smoker addicted to painkillers and spends all his extra cash on drugs. I asked for a whole semester to stop using my **** or just to at least ask me first.
Well 4 months later and he is still up the same old and its really pissing me off. Yesterday I finally told him that if he does the littlest thing like drink my milk without asking me **** is goin to hit the fan. Well this morning i come back from my gf's place after writing a paper all night and he got high and drank like a quarter of my gallon.

I just need some advice. should i get him back or what? im so pissed off based on the principle of respecting other people's stuff.

Thanks-RZO
 
I'd threaten him with bodily harm. It's bad enough you're living with a drug addict, it's another thing to support the piece of ****. What do your other roommates have to say about this? Doesn't he eat/use their stuff too? Seems to me you're mixed in with people you shouldn't be with. Bottom line. You take my ****, you pay.
 
You sound a lot like me now. I'm just praying that the next 6 months go by super quick.. But seriously, my roommates, 2 out of the 4 of us sit and get high most of the day. One used to be a wrestler in high school, messed up his wrist- well long story short, worthless now. He took some juice last year and got all big, and goes to the gym maybe once or twice a week now. Not exactly a model citizen. One plays rugby- but still pretty worthless when it comes to everything else. The third one, well he's just dumb- been arrested a few times, drug addict, no clue as to how manages sometimes. I think I'm the only normal one left.

As far as the food situation, yah, I actually HIDE my food sometimes. They eat **** when they all get high and it pisses me off sooo much. I don't spend my own money for them- hells no.

For me, what works best, is that anything I feel is high security (like milk, etc.) I put in a fridge in my room. It's a mini fridge, so mostly filled w/ milk, meats, etc. I can even lock it :)

Hope things get better for ya- I'm living with a whole new set of roommates in the fall for this one particular reason. G'luck mate!
 
Sounds like, not knowing the full details here, that you will have to set and enforce, in whatever way is necessary, limits on this guy or else he'll keep abusing you.

It's unpleasant and potentially dangerous to you to continue living with someone if you have to go to the level of violence, but some people won't respond properly to reasonable requests.

"Measure twice and cut once" is the saying, think it through carefully and then act decisively.
 
delta314 said:
I'd threaten him with bodily harm. It's bad enough you're living with a drug addict, it's another thing to support the piece of ****. What do your other roommates have to say about this? Doesn't he eat/use their stuff too? Seems to me you're mixed in with people you shouldn't be with. Bottom line. You take my ****, you pay.
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youre my idol.

they(or he if its just one) will keep walking all over you and your **** if you dont stand up and lay down the law.

also i think on most college campuses whatever your roomates are doing it is assumed you are doing it also and equal penalties will apply. (this is concerning the drug part)
 
I'd dump a bottle of Visine in my milk and let em drink it. ;)
 
haha thanks for all the responses - yea its mostly me that gets the shaft cause my other 2 roommates do buy food and arent bums, but their foods are like mirowavable pizzas and frozen burritos etc etc. so they dont care as much

I feel like a dad cause im constantly complaining about **** and gettin pissed off. I even tried to help him out last semester by setting up a workout schedule which he hasnt done once.


I talked to my other 2 roommates who have never caused me any problems and they said they are supportive of me confronting him.

I decided to wait until one night when he is super wasted and high and all comfy in bed and im gonna dump a huge bucked of ice cold water on him because i dont wanna physically hurt him (well not yet) and this will def. piss him off.

Its hard when u live with an addict who is ur so called friend and u cant reach out to him. I tried to help and now because he wont let me I have to punish him for his actions. I am gonna enjoy this one though - if u guys are lucky my digital camera has a video and ill try to post it or take a good picture


*next year im living with my lifting buddy - no more worries!!! :woohoo:
 
Your roomie is miserable and his life is clearly out of control. Even though you're pissed, I'd suggest you approach him as a friend (or former friend) and tell him you are concerned for him, but also not gonna tolerate this behavior. Absolutely lay down the law (again) regarding your stuff---make sure he understands the consequences. Further, let him know that it is time for him to find new residence probably, and get your other roomies involved---they are probably dealing with this sh!t too.

Either that, or the 3 of you just go Code Red on his a$$...
 
I've lost a few friends by living with them. Confront the guy, buy a fridge for your room, and put a padlock on your door. Seriously, the fridge and padlock are musts for college roommates.
 
Give them an inch and they'll take a mile. Binge and millwood gave some good advice. If you go the route to taint food that he will eat, just be very careful he does'nt get hurt. You could be charged with a crime if this happens. He may not want to press charges, but if he winds up dead, the state will.

Bottom line is this dude is disrespecting you by going against what you told him. This is not a friend by any means. I know it's propbably hard, but you may want to reconsider your living arrangements.
 
sometimes all it takes is a little ass whooping. honestly. some fucks just won't learn until they have a few lumps on their head. you've gave him a verbal warning and he basically said '**** off'. time to take it up a notch. JMO
 
Beelzebub said:
sometimes all it takes is a little ass whooping. honestly. some fucks just won't learn until they have a few lumps on their head. you've gave him a verbal warning and he basically said '**** off'. time to take it up a notch. JMO
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I agree, I would dump visine in my milk which will make him sick as a dog for a few days. Or I'd wait until he sleeps then toss a few rolls of quarters in a long sock and go to town on him.
 
jminis said:
I agree, I would dump visine in my milk which will make him sick as a dog for a few days. Or I'd wait until he sleeps then toss a few rolls of quarters in a long sock and go to town on him.
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damn, you're mean, lol.
 
i dont know...to me you sound like a really nice...kinda passive soft spoken guy. be tough, be serious when u tell him not to touch your ****....

heck, im the wicked witch of the WORLD when i have an empty stomach, let alone, if i bought food and someone else ate it....grrr....
 
Beat him with a rolled up newspaper like he's a dog that just **** on your carpet. Make sure it's in front of his friends.
 
jarhead said:
Beat him with a rolled up newspaper like he's a dog that just **** on your carpet. Make sure it's in front of his friends.
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tsk tsk jarhead....u know how i get when i hear that people beat their dogs....(hint: crazy...)...
 
Mrs. Gimpy! said:
tsk tsk jarhead....u know how i get when i hear that people beat their dogs....(hint: crazy...)...
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Just a figure of speech...don't call peta on me! :stick:
 
jminis said:
I'd wait until he sleeps then toss a few rolls of quarters in a long sock and go to town on him.
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can u spell lawsuit????? :rofl: :trout: :rofl:



once again thanks - like 30 mins ago he came into my room asking if i had any laundry detergent cause i hid all mine on him. im goin to SEARS hardware and padlocking my door, but i just cant afford a mini fridge now. and yes mrs.gimpy im just too nice to him cause i hate seeing him **** up his life like this. He once was a friend, but living with him made me hate his guts

we all talked to him and he said he'll try to stop his ways but i know when he gets messed up he wont remember. i do have a plethora of mean things i will start doing to him - im actually kind of excited to fck with him :twisted:

...but no socks full of change beating until next month*
 
i'm not a proponent of physical violence ....

so take a dump on his bed and pillow

and then hide an open can of tuna somewhere in his room .. he'll be going nuts for AT BARE minimum a few days .. possibly weeks before he figures it out
 
and then hide an open can of tuna somewhere in his room .. he'll be going nuts for AT BARE minimum a few days .. possibly weeks before he figures it out
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Ha! That's a good one:)

Dont be beating his ass man...in this day and age that judge isnt going to give a **** that he drank your milk. The money he gets from suing you will just buy him more drugs, and cost you many dear boneless chicken breasts.

I'd just get a mini fridge and put a lock on it. Keep all your **** in your room and keep the door locked. If you dont have the money for the fridge, take some **** of his when he's too fucked up to remember anything (equal to the estimated value of all the food he's eaten on you), and pawn it off. Put the proceeds towards the fridge fund.

BV
 
BigVrunga said:
Dont be beating his ass man...in this day and age that judge isnt going to give a **** that he drank your milk.
BV
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what, noone falls down some stairs anymore???:trout:
 
Maybe when he's trashed you could throw him down the stairs, but he wont remember so what's the point?:D
 
My roomate in highschool was a tool to my other roomate. So he opened a bottle of his water and put it up to his ass and ripped a huge fart in it. He sealed it up tight and put it back in the fridge. Well 2 days later we heard the loudest WTF....it was pretty funny.

This dude would also put out a bowl of M&M's on the coffee table. He would take a few of them and put it up his ass, then take them out and put them back in the bowl. We would just sit and watch our other roomate eat them up without a clue.

Once I had a roomate drink my tequilla all the time, so once the bottle was empty I poured olive oil in it. I bet that was a surprise...
 
This dude would also put out a bowl of M&M's on the coffee table. He would take a few of them and put it up his ass, then take them out and put them back in the bowl. We would just sit and watch our other roomate eat them up without a clue.
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That's messed up - lawsuit or now the dude would get a severe beating from me if I found that out.
 
I would suggest not berating yourself to his level. Some people dont care about themselves, treated badly as a child or chronic depression, DRUG ADDICTION. Hes living his life in a cloud and i think you are a victim of circumstance. No matter what you do being in this guys company will bring you down in some way or form. You are pissed off cause of him drinking milk, I totally agree, but really he has worn your patience to a thread and it has to be affecting other relatinships around you. My roomate was the same way eating MY food wearing MY clothes, bringing his friends to do laundry at our house with MY machine and MY soap, Paying rent late then shorting me, like im supposed to pay it when i was already giving him a discount. GET RID OF HIM, hurting him physically may be the next way he affects you negatively, plus youll be the bad guy.
Officer he drank my milk so i shat in the milk and beat him whilst he slept.lol The farther you are from him the better.
 
BigVrunga said:
That's messed up - lawsuit or now the dude would get a severe beating from me if I found that out.
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I can only imagine what your roomate has done to you that you dont know about, truly disgusting man.:jaw:

RE: the m&m thing
 
refrieddreams said:
My roomate in highschool was a tool to my other roomate. So he opened a bottle of his water and put it up to his ass and ripped a huge fart in it. He sealed it up tight and put it back in the fridge. Well 2 days later we heard the loudest WTF....it was pretty funny.

This dude would also put out a bowl of M&M's on the coffee table. He would take a few of them and put it up his ass, then take them out and put them back in the bowl. We would just sit and watch our other roomate eat them up without a clue.

Once I had a roomate drink my tequilla all the time, so once the bottle was empty I poured olive oil in it. I bet that was a surprise...
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Dear God! I can't stop laughing at this. It's so wrong, but so fucking funny. Can I use this in a book someday? Seriously, the visual of a dude shitting out M&M's is hysterical.
 
glenihan said:
i'm not a proponent of physical violence ....

so take a dump on his bed and pillow

and then hide an open can of tuna somewhere in his room .. he'll be going nuts for AT BARE minimum a few days .. possibly weeks before he figures it out
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:rofl:
 
Make sure the tuna is in oil... you can pour the oil all over his carpet...

Better yet in his car under the drivers seat.
 
Dude, I know exactly where you are coming from. When getting out of the marines, my wife came home about 9 months early so I moved in with some money sucking bastards. The guy who owned the place was great, clean, had his own food, tv, whatever. The other dude was a complete ass hole. He would use my GF griller, never clean it. I would catch him making protien shakes with my powder. Eating my begals. Complete asshole. The problem was, he was a monster and a would have smacked me down had I really tried to do something. I have seen him beat the hell out of some pretty tough dudes. Well long story short. Any food that was not perishable would go right up stairs with me. Milk and the sort had to go into the fridge but i marked it and put a note on the fridge that said if you didnt buy it, then its not your to take. Well, he ripped the note down and all that so I figured what the hell and started to eat whatever he would bring in. He was a trainer who would prepare all meals. I would see one in there, gone, downt the hatch. He confronted me and I said, " Oh I thought it was cool". Never touched anything else. It sucks but you enjoy your moving day 10,000 times more now that you have lived with a complete ass hole.
 
revodrew said:
Complete asshole. The problem was, he was a monster and a would have smacked me down had I really tried to do something. I have seen him beat the hell out of some pretty tough dudes. Well long story short. Any food that was not perishable would go right up stairs with me. Milk and the sort had to go into the fridge but i marked it and put a note on the fridge that said if you didnt buy it, then its not your to take. Well, he ripped the note down and all that so I figured what the hell and started to eat whatever he would bring in.
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that was you???? :rofl:
 
i would but a laxitive or some colon clense in your milk or some **** and hopefully he takes it before a test. then after the first couple times i would tell him what u did and that if he keeps eating your **** hes gonna get fuckin poisioned. if he dosent learn to not take your **** then, then i would beat the **** out of him and take a dump on his face.
my friend here in guam thought it would be funny to piss in my trash can. About a week goes by and he leaves his pillow in my room. i decide to go rub one out all over his pillow, then i video taped me smearing the load into his pillow case and then i give the pillow back to him when he was on qauters all messed up on vicodins cause he got some teeth pulled. so he had no clue what was going on. a few days later i showed him the tape and to never **** with my **** again. he never did but he thought that **** was hilarious and told just about everyone he works with. now everyone thinks im a sick bastard. oh well
 
i just dont see why a simple "hey i dont like it when u eat/take my crap, if you do it again, i will beat you <smirk at him>....seriously, beat you. do you understand that?"
 
superset2 said:
...im just too nice to him cause i hate seeing him **** up his life like this...
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He's worthless, dont waste your time on him. Let him know he's worthless, too. It helps sometimes. :twisted: I'm not kidding either. If someone you know is beign a dumbass, the nicest thing you can do for them is be HONEST.

Also, there is no reason to waste your time trying to wake him up from a state only he can remove himself from. If he had a clue, or any ability to reason, he wouldn't be where he is today, would he?

There is one thing all men understand and respect...fear ;) If he fears you, he'll respect you and your property...well, maybe not respect...he'll just restrain himself. So, I'm with everyone who said slap him around. :nutkick:
 
next time he's been in your milk, pour the rest of the gallon on him while he's passed out on his bed; leave the cap & jug with him; ride him without mercy for the stench, the low-level thievery, and bug him 5-6 times a day for the $2.50; steal his dope - offer to return it once he's replaced ALL the food he's taken... THEN put a hasp & a lock on the main fridge...and don't give him the combination...and flush his dope.

either he'll take a swing at you & you can respond, or he'll decide he's in hell & move out.

or skip the whole drama: at the end of the month, take his key & dump his **** on the lawn - next to a sign: "DECENT roommate wanted"....
 
I meant what I said and I said what I meant. Glenihan faithfull one hundred percent.
 
get some drugs to knock him out, or knock him out, bring him to the subway and leave him on it naked, he'll be out of your hair for a while.
plus he might get lucky, or arrested who cares.
 
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