I got married 1.5 years ago, now its over- recently we had a nice size ceremony since we went to the Justice of the peace the first time. We will be legally seperated, and was wondering how you guys or gals bounced back
im divorced as well bud and it felt a bit bad for a couple of months. she cheated on me that slut. but then i found someone else. the funny thing is bro women are the ones that break your heart but they are also the ones that make you happy as well. The best thing to forget your ex is too fine another one. My first one was really hot and her body was kick ass not all hot girls are sluts but this one was. My new one now has a better face than the older one but body wise is alittle on the fat side but she keeps me happy and that is what matters plus you can always lose weight but a pretty face is hard to come by.
i like the time off a bit being single i was for about a yr or so and focused all my energy in bodybuilding it kept my mind somewhere else and i just waited and bang started chatting with this chick and we just connected and im happy man again.
One thing i learned never argue with a women and expect to win you will always lose. peace their are thousands of people divorced. plenty of fish in the water.
I divorced about 10 years ago. Life went to ****, started drinking heavily, sleeping around and quit working out. I then found a new bride and have been happily married for 8 years. I just recently started working out again (about 2 years ago) and feel great. My advise would be to not let yourself go to **** just because you were not compatible. There will be someone else and when you look back you will realize it is all just emotions and wonder why you were ever so upset.
Divorced after 11 years. Now going through my second after two years of marriage and 8 years together. I started a couple of threads about my second ordeal. Do a search under my name and check for the threads. I received a ton of support from the dudes and chicks on this board. They really helped me to get through it all. That, plus some shrink sessions (or, as I like to say...sessions with my life coach) and some hot, fantastic SEX!
I am not going to stop working out, in fact this is going to make my contest prep alot easier, I am def doing the Illinois State Bodybuilding Championships & Regional Fitness and Figure On may27 in Chicago. This will show her and myself I can do this. Its part of my dream and I am going to do it my way...
I was married for 6 years, and now I'm 1.5 years into my second marriage. My wife and I have been together for 7 years total, and I can honestly say my first divorce was the best thing to happen to me. It never seems like it at the time, but hang in there man.
Gotta keep the training going. Otherwise your mind starts to drift and you become a mess. Keep your mind occupied. Do things that make you happy and go out and experience new things.Originally Posted by Apowerz6
Never married, but been broken hearted plenty of times.... keep busy, focused and all will work out
RIP Ryan, :(
aahhh.....I got a couple under my belt as well.....welcome to the Brotherhood
Now go read Cuffs thread and start your own
i have never been divorced,but have had my heart ripped out of my chest and spit on. nows a good time to focus on yourself. the only advice i can give you is the next one you find, let her know that you arre still going to be you. i feel that is what kills marrige, people get involved with someone and change who they are. then when the honeymoon is over, they become who they really are again and nobody is happy. i'm happily married now for whats going to be 6 years 06-17 of this year. the best thing i did when we got serius was tell her that we still needed friends besides each other. ever since then, she has been my best friend. we both agree that its ok to be individuals that are married. all my friends who are married feel trapped with who they are with because they are told that they have to do everything with their wives. it worked great for me anyway. good luck with your contest. keep your chin up and your name out of the paper.
14 years now
I have a couple under my belt as well. It sucks no way around it. Such a disposable society we live in today. I agree with what seems to be the rising recommendation. Look out for yourself, keep going, show them you can do it. Touch base with who you are, perhaps rekindling your passions for other things Self reinforcement some call it. Stay active and do things that require mental focus. I found it to help seperate me from it all for short spells. Working or playing either one. What I had the most trouble with was expressive things. I am a amatuer musician and it about killed the creativity in me. Or so I thought, for it has returned as well. It is where we have been and what we have endured that makes us what we are. Rise above and live strong and free.
We are men, there fore we CAN!
or as a wise man once said...
"Git R Done"
Been divorced for four years now. Welcome to the club. Keep busy, try not to dwell on it, things get better with time.
got married at 19 divorced by 24. Funny thing is we signed are seperation papers on a our anniversery. lol. Welcome to the club.
Mine should be final around the end of February or the middle of March.
Wife left about a year ago and she absolutely refused any kind of counseling, etc.
I did all I could (and more) to save it.
She finally filed and now this whole ordeal has about run it's course.
I don't really agree with divorce, but I'm glad it's about over.
I guess it's all for the best..I'm pretty sure after looking back she's bi-polar.
All in all though, I feel the best I've felt in a long time. No drama (which is what she fed on...and grew up with) and things are looking up.
That is exactly what happened to me except I was married 1 year longer. What an anniversary gift!Originally Posted by lightweight
your avatar looks like one of the Village People.
Thank you all for your advice, yesterday i went over to get some of my stuff, and she was trying to get me back, and i just could not see myself going back. Its just too much stress, to please someone who is never happy !!! Its amazing that a person says she wants a husband who she knows loves her, but yet she says I dont show her enough and when I do i get rebuffed and told its not sincere. So then I ask in what way dont I show my love, and the way that I do you say it is not good enoogh. Then she says I never say its not good enough, and she always compares me to other men HOW ****IN ANNOYING is that!!! anyway the conversation went nowhere, and I left knowing I could not ever please her. And I def think she has some depression issues, and with my psychology background I thought I could stick around to help, but if you have been in that type of relationship, you have to know its nothing you can do for that person THEY HAVE to WANT to CHANGE, and I cannot be her therapist, and husband too. So eyes on the prize I shall stay...
Lack of communication is one of the biggest problems in a relationship. That goes for verbal and physical. Some people need more than the other, while others need to recognize it. If it's worth salvaging, then I would suggest counselling for the two of you. Not just a few sessions, but over a long period of time with follow-ups.