Cuffs' Road To Recovery...Let The Healing Begin!
08-12-2005 02:13 PM
nicely done houseman.
Originally Posted by houseman
08-12-2005 02:14 PM
me either man. me ****in either.
Mess with the bull you get the horns!
08-12-2005 02:56 PM
One day you'll be married to the one meant for you. You will be permanently attached. You will look back at this moment and say...
1. DAMN that was GREAT
- or -
2. DAMN why didn't I DO IT????????
I vote for option #1. But remember, if you put your meat into the communal fridge, wrap it carefully or it will spoil.
08-12-2005 03:04 PM
Carpe Diem brother...and houseman, "I'm lovin' it" ...I would rub the **** all up in my ex's face too...
08-12-2005 05:24 PM
Well, if I do start seeing other people, or going to booty calls, I'm not going to rub it in her face. I'm just not that way. I'm not looking to be vindictive or hurtful. What's done is done and there is no changing it. I still want to remain cordial with her. Hell, we spent almost 8 years together and I will always love her. She is the first person I can honestly say that I truely love. Also, what good would it do me by rubbing it in her face? All she would have to do is say she has been having 3-somes with two dudes, then who feels hurt?
My wife has called me a few times today, out of the blue. She was even at the house and found a box of condoms in my night stand. She asked me about them and I told her I bought them for us, which I did.
I ran into the chick who I sent that pic to just a short time ago. She works at an office I visit during my workday. Anyways, she pulled me to the side and said "very impressive", and how she liked the pic. Made me feel good in a way. She then told me if I was ever home alone and needed to just get off, I could call her and the least she would do is talk dirty to me on the phone so I could enjoy. Hmmmm...this is getting interesting.
I left her office and began to think if I'm doing the right thing. Then I remembered what B5150 posted about, and I know he is right. I think I'm basically looking for someone to give me some form of comfort at this time. Someone to help the pain go away. That can be dangerous. I started thinking, if this chick is all over me this quickly, then she will be there in the near future as well. Especially if I play the hard to get, or not so interested roll. She seems to be the type who likes to conquer her prey, and hates to be told she can't have. I'm still going to keep my options open. If the 3-way thing happens, then I hope it happens a few times, as long as it is good. And yes...I will brag about it. But, I will post it in the Adult Section with a thread attachment for this one, as I don't wish to offend any members here.
08-12-2005 06:07 PM
don't do it, Cuffs -
I really *DO* understand the temptation, but you've been seriously jerked around, and this woman isn't going to help you over that...and as generous as her 'offers' no doubt feel, there are regrets down that road that you may not want - and you don't need - to bear.
You have poured yourself out in the name of love; to heal, you need to fill yourself back up again - you need to remember how to be happy being yourself. Give yourself a year, I'd say, before you start letting females pull at you. Your strength and your heart need it, and need you to be a warrior in your own cause. Be a friend, be a brother, be a father - but be yourself, in your own way and at your own speed. Strong and clear boundaries can be your best friends now. You will be kinder and more nurturing to yourself now than she or her friends, and you need what they would take from you
When you're where you need to be in heart and mind, you'll have no trouble finding a better, truer her.
I wanted so much to get in on the other thread...but it was too personal: our lives are very parallel right now, and we seem to be similar in how we're holding it all, too. I got the final word from my wife this week, too; and I have had the freakazoid hottie 15 years younger make offers I could hardly believe, too (not this week); and already had some of that play out and paid some on the cost; and I am doing my best to stay centered, stay focused, and stay strong for myself and my daughter. not trying to climb on board here, just saying that we're not so far apart.
anyway, I have total confidence that you can do this - just keep an eye on the long view, forgive yourself for all the might-have-beens, and keep breathing...let yourself grieve. Brian is SO right - there's so much wisdom in every word he posted. let it happen, stay with it!
be well, my brother.
08-12-2005 06:59 PM
Wow Brian, you're a pretty wise man "Buddies tell you what you want to hear, friends tell you what you don't" BUT maybe Cuffs just needs to satisfy his needs. I know I do from time to time and it makes me feel great. Do what's best for you Cuffs. That 3 some sounds very juicy.
08-12-2005 08:41 PM
This is where the age gap comes in. You hear the older gentleman saying don't be hasty and take your time while us younger guys would go out and hit this chick off along with her freaky ass friends. In the end it comes down to you and where your priorities lie. Obviously you shouldn't expect any sort of a long term relationship with this woman. And who knows what kind of diseases she might possibly have. Then again when are you going to have the chance to participate in a threesome. A dilemma indeed. Sounds corny, but follow your heart. I'm sure you'll do the right thing.
08-12-2005 09:59 PM
The age gap plays a large role in this. If I was younger, I wouldn't have thought twice and already made the arrangements to hit it. ****, the chick tells me there may even be a 4-some, that 3 of her girls may be interested. Also, she has an attorney who is interested in going out with me. As far as I know she is clean, but who can say for sure. She stressed the fact that she gets physicals every 6 months, and has always had a clean bill of health, always uses condoms. Oh yeah, and she said she swallows.
I'm leaning towards backing off a bit, and maybe just keeping he flirting going on a tad longer. My wife is confusing th **** out of me. She leaves me a note saying she misses me, but it may be because she is out of her comfort zone. She tells me she loves me, calls me and text messages me all the time. She also says we don' know what the future holds and we may get back together, but she doesn't want to give me false hopes. ****, just when I thought I was moving on, I'm crying once again. That's why I need to hold off on things a bit. The sex, or orgy if you may, would be only a temporary fix for my problem. Basically a bandaid on a broken leg. Thanks for the advice Brian (B5150). We'll see were this all takes me. I don't know if I will have the will power to say no to the orgy though. I do have some viagra laying around too.
08-12-2005 10:08 PM
Stay away from the crazy wife....she's nuts. Forget her ****in' notes. I believe many of us (or at least me) said she'd be doing weird **** like this. NEXT it gets ugly. I'm sorry, but it will, and that's regardless of how nice you are to her. She is no longer the puppeteer and she is gonna get pissed. Look at my age, disregard my info for that fact, but I'm pretty damn positive in this.
Screw the viagra...get some cialis and make a weekend out of the orgy on one dose
08-12-2005 10:46 PM
If you were the vindicative type you could have some real fun with the ex right now...Just a thought
Originally Posted by kwyckemynd00
08-13-2005 12:06 AM
I say you go for it brother. Whats the worst thing that can happen? Like you said, as long as you both understand that its not going to turn into anything serious, than theres no pressure. Have some fun man. You deserve it!
Either way, best of luck to ya!
08-13-2005 12:29 AM
I agree...you're officially 20 something again for a few months Live it up!
Originally Posted by DieTrying
08-13-2005 05:15 AM
have fun, start having fun again!!!
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08-13-2005 06:02 AM
Perfect analogy. B5150's advice is sound. As far as the orgy, you just need to to decide if you want to live a life that revolves around external pleasures and fleeting happiness or are you looking for something a little more permanent and fulfilling. It's tough to deny the flesh, but that's character building for ya. I still stand by my advice in your last thread. Do that first and you will find that decisions like these become no-brainers. I am not saying you wouldn't chose the orgy; just different motives behind the decision. Need or " for free & for fun". It currently sounds more like the need @ this moment, but that's IMHO.
Originally Posted by Cuffs
Try some reading, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz is a good place to start. I figure you already have the book I was talking about in your other thread.
08-13-2005 09:15 AM
for your own sanity....i would not accept phone calls from your wife, move on..she is mentally messing with you........Not ok......
Originally Posted by Cuffs
it's like "dont want the toy in the sandbox until another kid is playing with it"......sadly your the toy.....
((((HUGZ))))) time to move on.......for your own sanity
08-13-2005 09:54 AM
Originally Posted by Cuffs
Look Cuffs you need to drop your ex. She's just ****ing with your head at this point. And why would you want to be with someone that makes you miserable? If you keep the 24yr old around.. She's a booty call nothing more. Make sure you keep that distiction. She's a little to "free" with her goods to make a long term, meaningful realtionship with her.
08-13-2005 10:18 AM
I hope your ex doesn't have a PI filming your reverse gangbang.
08-13-2005 10:57 AM
Originally Posted by LCSULLA
08-13-2005 12:06 PM
I want to make a point clear. I'm not saying that banging 3-4 chicks ain't going to be a freak show and a blast. But what will it accomplish in you reaching or achieving what you want to be as a person. You make statements like the ones I quoted, but yet your thinking gets distracted by the other carnal issues. You are struggling with double mindedness that will really mess you up if you are not careful. If you truely desire to become the person you profess to want to become then you need to walk a path that will lead you to the tools and growth opportunities that will elevate you to becoming that person. Hanging and banging with loose and promiscuous people are not the opportunities that will afford you this growth.
Originally Posted by B5150
Again, don't get me wrong, I am not, in this case, judging being a man-whore by any means. If that is what you desire to be than the associations that you have been keeping will surely aide in your success.
But if you desire to recover, become a man of greater character and integrity, greater self respect and pride, you may need to reconsider your playmates.
Pursue the people places and things that will support and encourage you to become who you want to become. Avoid those things that will be unproductive or destructive to you achieving your goals.
You cannot walk two paths. Choose the path that you want to follow, get on it, and stay on it. Don't look back. It would be better to be sitting still, stuck and stalled, on the right path, than to be making good time on the wrong path.
You plan cycles, you plan diets, you plan your training. You acquire the (insert AAS or not), you acquire the food and you acquire or utilize the equipment. Without the correct choices and application of the above you will not succede at achieving your goal. Your life is not different. Without the correct choices and applications and tools you will not succede at achieving your goals.
It's your life. Plan your work and work your plan.
If we stay in the middle of the road too long the odds increase that sooner or later we will get hit by a bus.
My prayer for you my friend is that the Holy Spirit will knock you so hard, off to the right side of the fence you are sitting on, that you will be unable to find your way back to straddle it again.
There are many different views and opinions that people can and will share. Mine is not necessarily the right or best one...just mine. I have some life experience, but that experince is worthless if I have not gained some wisdom, and useless if I did not share it. So I share it with you, humbly and grateful for your consideration.
Last edited by David Dunn; 08-13-2005 at 01:57 PM.
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