Anyone Have this problem?
06-18-2005 04:51 PM
Anyone Have this problem?
Ok well i was pretty out of shape at one point(a bit chubby) and very self concious in public, pool, beach whatever just always felt people were looking at me. Now that i am in shape, and 190(by no means big, but you can tell i workout) i am actually MORE self concious now.. I feel people are looking at me more, and especially at like family functions, etc where i go swimming i feel awkward as ****.. Am i just a ****ing lunitic? I am naturally pretty shy as it is..
Anyone else like this? Even if you were a twig at one pont, i am sure it could work both ways.
06-18-2005 05:12 PM
Probably not a good authority on this, but they probably are looking at you. I mean you won't know one way or the other unless you start questioning, but what if they are thinking "Damn that imprezivr6 used to be chubby but now he is looking pretty good". Try to make it a positive, I am self concious as **** and I swear I get stared at more by guys than girls ( ), but I come from the other boat as in I used to be real skinny so I would never take my shirt off either.
06-18-2005 05:30 PM
Yea probally, but i am just really uncomfortable..LOL I think even if i was a ripped to all hell, i would still feel awkward as ****.. I cant really explain the feeling but it is like, if i was just chubby i am like an average person, but if you work out and have a decent body, or some size on you then you are looked at even more, judged more, hated on more, sterotyped, etc.. I guess since i am a shy person it is just the looks that bother me, and i guess i am thinking if people are looking at me, the are thinking **** like "look at this guy, thinks he is all big" mean while i am not big, nor do i think i am..LOL
Originally Posted by Grassroots082
06-19-2005 02:51 AM
i know what you mean. when i was fat i didnt have a care in the world about how i looked, how i dressed, etc....now that i work out and people tell me i look great, i am so self-conscious about things....it really is crazy and it sometimes pisses off my girlfriend.
06-19-2005 10:10 AM
I used to get alot of similar grief from one of my life long "buddies". I knew the guy all my life and when we were young I was always small and skinny. Since I turned 18 I've been the same height as this guy plus I've been doing martial arts and lifting since then and have put on some muscle - I'm 5'9 and around 190lbs @12%bf - this other f**ker is 5'9, probly 160lbs and he has to be 25% bf. He doesn't do anything except pretend to play on a soccer team once a week and just sits on his ass the rest of his life, living it up cus his dad is loaded. In short he's got a serious problem with my entire lifestyle - always telling me to stop "flexing" all the time and that his arms were just as big as mine. This may sound like a childish rant on my part but I don't consider myself as being built or big (yet) by any stretch of the imagination - nor do I ever flex or even mention arm size. My whole attitude to life has always been to keep to myself but he berated me for "showing myself off" and acting "all tough". The end result being I felt very self conscious simply because this guy had an attitude problem -Needless to say I cut this "friend" out of my life - but that was for a few other reasons.
So the moral of that long winded post is: be happy with yourself (while eternally striving for improvement) and let others think what ever they like.
06-19-2005 10:24 AM
I'm with you imprezivr. I know exactly how you feel.
06-19-2005 11:20 AM
I can relate...when i was in high school and even in college i was HUGE!! not just saying that yes I was....Now that I am thinner, its harder i think......esp when I am out ( thank god I cant go out much now, bum knee).......
In time your mind will adjust to your new body!!!!
06-19-2005 11:48 AM
Funny you should mention that because that is EXACTLY HOW I AM! I am like addicted to looking a certain way and when I drop below a certain weight I freak out and I am like the most self conscious person ever. It really sucks too because there will be people who are truly envious of my body (people who dont have the same genes) and I will be bitching about this or that and they just want to kill me I can tell lol.
06-19-2005 12:16 PM
Well, it could be worse imprez - Lake has an inferiorty complex towards field goals. Esp. ones to the right.
06-20-2005 05:29 PM
I can relate to this. I was a fat ass a couple years ago, lost 45 pounds of fat, and put on 40 pounds of muscle. I have people approach me daily, some I haven't seen in a year, telling me how different I look. I also catch strangers looking at me, and when I make eye contact, they turn away. Also, now even though I have much less fat than I did, I'm very self conscious about what fat I do have. I'll probably never be satisfied until I'm at 6-7% b/f, which I don't know will ever happen.
06-20-2005 08:50 PM
LOL I love the jabs, you guys from the U can't help yourselves. I was the same way when Cal beat USC 2 years ago. I can't wait for football.
Originally Posted by jmh80
06-20-2005 08:59 PM
I'm in the same boat myself. I found that when I was on cycle, and at my highest ever bodyweight and pretty damn swole (for me at least), I was feeling really goddamn fat. Now fast forward 6 weeks later, and I'm a few weeks into a cutting phase, and depleted like a mother****er, and feeling absolutely puny.
06-20-2005 09:25 PM
dead sexy wino
06-20-2005 09:34 PM
Me too^^. Since I've started lifting I don't feel like really takin my shirt off or anything like that at all. I think it may be, because since lifting I see the problems with me, and won't be satisfied until I have the bodybuilder look. Dunno if that made sense but o well.
06-21-2005 12:32 AM
Hmm, we'll have to work on setting up a bodybuilders anonymous support group or some **** of that sort. I can see it now:
"Hi, my name is Bob (Bob is 5'9, 275 pounds and absolutely sliced) and I feel small"
06-21-2005 01:08 AM
I never take my shirt off in public. I dont like the attention.
06-21-2005 07:53 AM
WranglerGirl nailed it. It just takes some time to grow into it. I remember when I started lifting 3 years ago and first saw that I do in fact have abs. People complimented me all the time, even though I was scrawny. I always felt mortified by the attention. Now, I really don't care. People give me compliments, and I say "Thanks, I put a lot of effort into it." No need to be cocky or bashful. Just be honest. Of course, now I have 5-6 people at work asking me to hook them up with programs, so this approach will be keeping me busy giving out free advice.
06-21-2005 07:55 AM
It is funny though how different people respond. I work with a guy who is pretty jacked, though he is quite short. I've actually seen him flexing in the mirror in the middle of a popular after work bar we all go to. At least 20 people saw him and he was just looking at himself and smiling. To err on the side of bashfulness is definitely better IMO.
06-21-2005 01:28 PM
Dude, I've seen your pics over at Avant, and you're dead sexy...LOL. I'll have to give Methyl1 the link. I think being modest is a good thing. It's the arrogant ones that make me shake my head and wonder WTF.
06-21-2005 01:34 PM
I 100% agree.. But i think what is the matter with me is far beyond modesty, i think it is actually a sickness. I am uncomfortable even when my wife gives me compliments, etc..
Originally Posted by Cuffs
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