Can you Love more than one?
03-25-2005 07:41 PM
Can you Love more than one?
Ok Bros and Bras....
Do you think it is possible to love more than one person at the same time? I am not talking about family, I am talking about a meaningful exchange of caring and affection that is both intimate and sincere? And if so, how does a person confront monogamy and exclusivity with a lover in the midst of this kind of life multiplisity?
03-25-2005 07:51 PM
no, I see no way that would work.
03-25-2005 08:05 PM
I am not necisarily saying that you have to have a full blown relationship with 3 women at the same time (although, it has been done), but with one and perhaps still love others in a meaningful way...
03-25-2005 08:17 PM
You can love a lot of women, but only be in love with one.
03-25-2005 08:18 PM
Depends on your definition of eros love, I suppose. This guy once wrote: " There is Love and there is Love, one is a serpent and one is a dove, choose ye well !"
03-25-2005 08:34 PM
I really believe you can love more than one woman. There is no book or rules that say you can't.
Now going out with two or more women at the same time, that's another topic.
03-25-2005 09:50 PM
I think you'd have to love both equally, which is imo impossible. We always like someone better for whatever reasons
03-26-2005 12:03 AM
I agree. I think there are degrees of how in love you are with someone.
Originally Posted by cobra1414
03-26-2005 12:19 AM
I believe it's possible to love more than one at a time.
In reality though, keeping them both happy would be a full time job. I don't think you could have true love with 2 people at the same time without major conflicts of interest.
At one point, I tried to "date" as many women as I could at a time. During any given week, I would have been seeing up to 5 women. Sometimes two in one day. NOBODY stuck around for more than about 2 weeks. I got good at meeting them and shuttling them into the bedroom, but keeping them happy is a whole nother story.
Dating that many people was very stressful for me. I couldn't do it. I kept meeting women who I really liked, and wanted to spend more time with them, only to find out they weren't willing to wait in line behind all my other dates.
I have a friend who does just this, and has, for about 9 years straight now. I think he is deficient in the right neurotransmitters or something because he doesn't care about anybody. He lusts for women and once he's got them, he moves on. He's got a few women who put up with what he does and "love" him, but most are thrown away like garbage.
Monogamy, to me, is something you do for comfort and security. Some people require it to be happy, others prefer it, and others don't care for it. My taste for it comes and goes. I currently am seeing someone I love enough to provide her with the comfort and security she desires. I would never cheat on her, but I desire a lot more than one person can offer.
I think any women who would be willing to "share" me with another women would be too much of a hippy for my tastes.
03-26-2005 01:29 AM
Being in love with someone and loving someone are two completely different things. If you don't know, then it is damn near impossible to explain.
I loved my ex-gf but on reflection, I never was "in love" with her.
03-26-2005 02:30 AM
I guess I am asking if you can really be in love with more than one woman. I think you can.
03-26-2005 07:21 AM
I'd say no. You can love a lot of women to varying degrees, but only truly be in love with one. Putting two people at the top of your list like that, so to speak, puts them and you in inevitable conflict. My girlfriends have to deal with the fact that most of my friends are women. They're just more fun to spend time with. While I love all of them, and to be honest was at one time trying to sleep with all of them, cheating on my gf or being in love with another woman on the same level is impossible because I know how much it would hurt her, and that would kill me.
03-26-2005 09:52 AM
Well in retrospect then... anybody ever truly been IN love and know how it feels, im going through a "break up" of sorts right now and im trying to find out if it's real love or not
Too confusing if you ask me, but i can't seem to get her off my mind and wondering if anyone can throw me a bone here, cause im lost ha
03-26-2005 11:15 AM
Well, I will throw my voice in - as a woman......I think that is very possible to love two woman - to want them both - and to be torn. Ultimately, you just have to decide, but the feelings for both would remain. I think that it requires a really mature kind of love, one that doesn't mean just getting in our pants, but feeling that this ONE OR TWO people are the most important to you......... Remember, careful what you wish for though, for you will surely get it.
To truly, truly, hopelessy love - you must pick one, or you are shortchanging yourself and the one that you are meant to be with.
THERE IS A LID FOR EVERY POT - this is what I say when I see a really ugly couple that look so happy in the mall.
See - woman are as shallow as you - deep as a dime, boys, deep as a dime.
03-26-2005 11:40 AM
I have known this for years. More shallow if you ask me.
Originally Posted by wheystation
03-26-2005 11:45 AM
03-26-2005 11:46 AM
Originally Posted by ryansm
I disagree with that, men are some of the most shallow creatures out there, agreed SOME women are as well but men.......you take the cake......
03-26-2005 12:00 PM
There will always be arguments about this. I suppose I'm the type that always meets the shallow women.
03-26-2005 12:07 PM
And i seem ( for the most part) to meet the shallow men who comment on things they know nothing about .........ie,.... red face...
03-26-2005 12:36 PM
Cake? Did someone say Cake? - Seriously, lets all privately agree that we, and only us, are better than the rest and we just can't meet anyone that could possibly understand our greatness............. personally, I love men, I just don't try to understand them anymore and that has been my big breakthrough. Now, I accept them-warts and all.
Originally Posted by wranglergirl
NOW if you keep ordering from my company All The Whey - I promise to find us ALL the perfect mate.
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