Aproaching hotties at gym
- 01-05-2012, 04:05 AM
- 01-05-2012, 06:44 AM
Can you post a picture of her? We can't really advise you without seeing what kind of material is spoken of.“I believe most people are essentially good. I know that I am. It's you I'm not entirely sure of.”
― Stephen King.
01-05-2012, 07:26 AM
01-05-2012, 10:26 AM
I find the best way to meet girls at the gym is in the classes. It's a group fitness environment and they are much more open there then say the weightroom or on cardio equipment.
You can also just be friendly and say hi occasionally if you see her every day. She might start to warm up to you and you can eventually be like 'hi. what's going on. how's your day going. blah blah blah'
01-05-2012, 10:36 AM
I tend to advise against trying to meet someone in the weightroom or on the cardio machines as well, the classes are the best for the above mentioned reasons (that or become staff there and hope she asks you a question someday that can lead to conversation, LOL)
01-05-2012, 10:39 AM
^ what he said. And if she doesn't warm up to you and start the conversation after a while just ask simple questions. How was your weekend, and start to get a little conversation going. Then one time ask if she has any plans and if she wants to go out for a drink or some food.
01-05-2012, 10:49 AM
start by saing hi when you happen to walk by her. If shes hot she gets hit on all the time. Thats what happens to hot girls.
see if she says hi back work with it. if not, your done here. If she wont even acknowledge you theres no where to go from here aside finding a new target.
If she does say hi back continue on like this for a few wks. I know you ll just wana approach her for dinner, movie, whatever you do but resist. let the small BS talk work its way up to something else. once you stand around for a min when you say hi to one another and once you know her NAME than you can ask her out.
jumping the gun will only ruin things for you. IDK about you but anytime i walk up to or somehow meet/talk to a new chick i can tell if ill ever get a chance of hitting the sheets within 10 min. Not sure what it is about women but i think in the 1st 10-20min they meet a guy they decide if they will ever let him touch their fun parts. so if you can accomplish this with the small talk, saying hi 5 days a wk you already know your answer.
or it could take more.....
01-05-2012, 11:10 AM
01-05-2012, 11:34 AM
There was actually a post on this on one of the company's blogs from a sponsored athlete a few weeks ago. It was Beast, if I recall. But what she said is fairly similar to this and what's already been said.
I don't hit on girls in the gym for a number of reasons. Gym and church are two places I consider sanctuaries (in their own ways) and I don't want to do anything to jeopardize my place of tranquility and/or passion. Couple that with the fact that when I lift, I wear a skull cap and my headphones, I just don't look like an approachable guy (add to this my awesome beard, and you've really got a combination lol) -- this is done strategically. I don't want to be bothered. I go to lift and not get caught up in anything until I'm done. I don't mind talking a bit between sets, but if I'm doing high intensity work, I don't have more than 50 seconds to do that.
If I do talk to someone, it's usually around the cubbie holes near the door. I unwind for a few minutes while I ditch the gloves and everything else, and that's where I'll catch up with a few people and if I were to say hi to anyone, it would typically be there. The other time I'll talk to women in my gym is if there's a unique reason to. For example, if she has on a St. Louis Cardinals t-shirt (not at all likely down here lol), I might mention that or say nice shirt or something along those lines. I try to do those things as genuine as possible and I try to make comments that I would also be able to make to another guy. It's just general conversation that opens the door for future communication if either party desires it.
I'll also give some advice, but ONLY if I'm asked for it. Even if someone is doing something blatantly wrong (unless it's certain there will be impending injury), I do not correct people. I do, however, on occasion have women ask me "what's good for ___?" or something along those lines. That's when you get a chance to show some good work outs and let's face it, guys love it when girls actually lift and not just do cardio, so it's nice to share that information.
Every situation is unique, so just feel it out. If you don't have good observational skills or good communication skills, you're screwed, anyway. Darwinism at its best .
01-05-2012, 11:40 AM
"Hey pretty lady I've been watching you and I gotta say you're much hotter than my last girlfriend, that I met on prisonpenpals.com, what do you say we skip the lat machine, and hop into my date machine?" <---game changer.
01-05-2012, 11:42 AM
01-05-2012, 11:51 AM
01-05-2012, 11:51 AM
01-06-2012, 02:29 AM
Thanks for all the help I guess I got to try with some small talk. I never do classes so that's out the water. My idea was to ask to work in on the machine she is using and try to start some small talk
01-06-2012, 09:39 AM
Chances are, she'd probably just say something like, "Oh, you can have it" and then leave before she was even finished. Not to mention some people are weird about wiping machines down in between sets if you're working in and that just becomes strange.
01-06-2012, 11:58 AM
Or mayb she won't mind me workin I. And it gives a chance to strike up a conversation. There only one way to find out
01-06-2012, 02:42 PM
01-06-2012, 02:46 PM
01-06-2012, 02:54 PM
I wouldn't approach her at all ... well ...
My advice is this ...
"You are the Man" ... I actually dated a 38 year old Hawaiian woman (name was KeeKi) when I was 22 - yeah, for about six months. She told me I was too young for her and that it would end when she progressed to the next "phase" of her life. Anyway - while we dated, she felt the need to teach me some things and, I'm kind of glad she did because she knew what she was talking about.
First off - let her know you notice her by making eye contact. A lot of gyms have mirrors all over the place so make a point of glancing at her ass when she walks by - she'll notice you did because she can see you in the mirror. She's not going to be offended - women in the gym are there to make themselves more attractive to men - so a bit of positive feedback that it's working is something she craves. Just don't go pervo with it.
And - act like she's just another "target" on your radar, nothing that you HAVE to have but something that could be a possibility. See how she reacts. If she's physically attracted to you this may be enough for her to start broadcasting unmistakable "vibes" for you to approach her.
But women aren't wired like us - so it will often take more than a physical attraction to get her transmitter firing.
Next stage is the "bump and go" ... when you pass her in the gym, pull one earplug out of your ears and just say ... "Hi" ... and keep moving, like you're on a mission. Watch her reaction - you haven't risked rejection yet because you haven't done anything but say "Hi" - that happens all the time. It's a good way to establish familiarity.
Eventually you're going to get an opportunity to talk to her - some completely normal situation will arise and it'll just be logical to have a conversation. In my gym - *******s will leave the 100 pound plates on the leg press - and when the girls want to use it, they'll come up and ask if I can remove those heavy plates - which I'm happy to do. I talk to them then.
A lot of times - the girl will light off the first spark - but it'll be subtle dude, nothing overt. Basically she'll throw you a softball and expect you to hit it out of the park - if you don't even swing at the pitch, then she writes you off as a loser.
Women like confident, strong men - they don't like indecisive, weak, vacillating men. Keeki taught me this - and a few other things! :P
01-06-2012, 04:03 PM
01-06-2012, 06:51 PM
01-11-2012, 10:25 AM
I like to look a woman straight in the eye (her good eye) and say..."hey sugarpants let me ask you this...you walking home alone tonight?"
01-11-2012, 12:49 PM
I clicked into this thread because you mentioned her good eye lolOriginally Posted by southpaw23
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01-11-2012, 01:23 PM
01-11-2012, 06:13 PM
I met my wife on the back porch of my apartment complex and proposed a year later. I sure as heck showed her.
01-11-2012, 06:26 PM
01-11-2012, 07:46 PM
01-11-2012, 11:14 PM
Awwwhhhh yes the gym, where women look the hottest but are the more unapproachable than if they were with their parents. It's a crazy world we live in
01-12-2012, 01:36 AM
And I'm having the same problem as Tboz, except there's a good chance this girl is A LOT older than me haha
01-12-2012, 01:50 AM
Wait until she is about to sit on a machine and slip in right under her.........oops. LOL.
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