Run - Don't Walk; Characteristics that are Red Flags
This thread is not intended to bash women in general. I want to get that out of the way.
This thread is about the character attributes and background issues that I believe are a red flag for someone looking for a serious relationship with a woman. This thread is the result of personal experience, and discussions with other men; it is the outgrowth of a discussion I had recently regarding what red flags I would suggest a man look for when dating a woman.
Here is my list:
Narcissist– a woman who has an inflated sense of self-importance, egotism, vanity, conceit; in short, a woman who selfishly seeks only what is best for her.
Adopted w/ Attachment Disorder – This needs to be conditioned because I am sure there are many well-adjusted adopted men and women. More specifically, I am referring to an adopted woman who has Attachment Disorder. Those having Attachment Disorder develop feelings of detachment, fail to form long and lasting relationships with anyone and find trusting even their close ones difficult. Those having Attachment Disorder, may display impulsive behavior, a strong desire to control their surroundings and manipulate people, and are willing to lie and cheat to do so. These people frequently have a lack of ability to connect, empathize or sympathize with anyone, and fail to develop trusting relationships with others.
Poor Relationship w/ Parents (Especially Father) – A woman who generally holds her parents, especially father, in low regards and evidence a failure to bond and form long and lasting relationships.
Superficiality– A woman who can appear charming and who can often easily engage one in long and interesting conversations, when in reality the woman in question is merely doing so disingenuously and only to “look good”. Think “two-faced”.
Lack of Responsibility: A woman who refuses to take any responsibility for their negative actions and are unable to handle conflict with others. For this person, someone else is “always to blame.
Small Breasts – As with adoption, this one needs to be conditioned. I am sure there are many well-adjusted women with small breasts. More specifically, I am referring to a woman who has small breasts and who is very self conscious of her small breasts and who is jealous of women with larger breasts.
Sexually Selfish – This does not suggest that a woman must be the perfect sexual partner and willing to do whatever is asked. Instead this refers to a woman who uses sex to control her man and who withholds sex as a means to control him.
Integrity and Truthfulness – Any issues of a deficiency in these areas are a “must run”
Adultery/Cheating – Any woman with a known history of having committed adultery and/or cheated on a man during a committed relationship.
Except for the last three, I am not sure anything on this list is, by itself, a deal-breaker; although the more that exist, the greater the risk.
What are you opinions? Are there other red flags?
PLEASE NOTE - I AM SURE THERE CAN BE A PARALLEL LIST DRAFTED FOR MEN. MOST OF THE ABOVE ATTRIBUTES CAN APPLY EQUALLY, REGARDLESS ON GENDER. IN THAT CASE, READ THE ABOVE LIST BY REPLACING "WOMAN" (OR ITS GRAMMATICAL EQUIVALENT) WITH "MAN" (OR ITS GRAMMATICAL EQUIVALENT).
This thread is not intended to bash women in general. I want to get that out of the way.
This thread is about the character attributes and background issues that I believe are a red flag for someone looking for a serious relationship with a woman. This thread is the result of personal experience, and discussions with other men; it is the outgrowth of a discussion I had recently regarding what red flags I would suggest a man look for when dating a woman.
Here is my list:
Narcissist– a woman who has an inflated sense of self-importance, egotism, vanity, conceit; in short, a woman who selfishly seeks only what is best for her.
Adopted w/ Attachment Disorder – This needs to be conditioned because I am sure there are many well-adjusted adopted men and women. More specifically, I am referring to an adopted woman who has Attachment Disorder. Those having Attachment Disorder develop feelings of detachment, fail to form long and lasting relationships with anyone and find trusting even their close ones difficult. Those having Attachment Disorder, may display impulsive behavior, a strong desire to control their surroundings and manipulate people, and are willing to lie and cheat to do so. These people frequently have a lack of ability to connect, empathize or sympathize with anyone, and fail to develop trusting relationships with others.
Poor Relationship w/ Parents (Especially Father) – A woman who generally holds her parents, especially father, in low regards and evidence a failure to bond and form long and lasting relationships.
Superficiality– A woman who can appear charming and who can often easily engage one in long and interesting conversations, when in reality the woman in question is merely doing so disingenuously and only to “look good”. Think “two-faced”.
Lack of Responsibility: A woman who refuses to take any responsibility for their negative actions and are unable to handle conflict with others. For this person, someone else is “always to blame.
Small Breasts – As with adoption, this one needs to be conditioned. I am sure there are many well-adjusted women with small breasts. More specifically, I am referring to a woman who has small breasts and who is very self conscious of her small breasts and who is jealous of women with larger breasts.
Sexually Selfish – This does not suggest that a woman must be the perfect sexual partner and willing to do whatever is asked. Instead this refers to a woman who uses sex to control her man and who withholds sex as a means to control him.
Integrity and Truthfulness – Any issues of a deficiency in these areas are a “must run”
Adultery/Cheating – Any woman with a known history of having committed adultery and/or cheated on a man during a committed relationship.
Except for the last three, I am not sure anything on this list is, by itself, a deal-breaker; although the more that exist, the greater the risk.
What are you opinions? Are there other red flags?
PLEASE NOTE - I AM SURE THERE CAN BE A PARALLEL LIST DRAFTED FOR MEN. MOST OF THE ABOVE ATTRIBUTES CAN APPLY EQUALLY, REGARDLESS ON GENDER. IN THAT CASE, READ THE ABOVE LIST BY REPLACING "WOMAN" (OR ITS GRAMMATICAL EQUIVALENT) WITH "MAN" (OR ITS GRAMMATICAL EQUIVALENT).