The myth that women want deep conversation
- 06-21-2010, 08:52 PM
The myth that women want deep conversation
Why does this falsehood get perpetuated.I was talking to my best friends girl today about this.One of her complaints about him is that he is to sentimental and talks to much about the past.She just wants light conversation and to live for the moment.
She says she has no regrets for anything she has done in the past,right or wrong.Most women I know are the same way.
- 06-21-2010, 09:04 PM
- 06-21-2010, 09:05 PM
I never met a woman yet capable of deep conversation(no offense intended). Most people dont "think" anymore...
EDIT: I take that last bit back, I think there have been 2, but they were much older and mature.
06-21-2010, 09:05 PM
Actually your friend who talks about his feelings and such sounds like a girl himself.
If you ask me, most women are in love with the question "why?"
They ask guys why, and to explain themselves all the time, and usually guys don't want to talk about ****. On the other than girls LOVE listeners and love when guys ask them why.
06-21-2010, 09:21 PM
There's a bit of balance to be had in this area. It's nice to be with someone who has the ability to have a conversation about something other than doing curls or fashion but it's also nice to not have every conversation revolve around physics and the Elliot-wave.
06-22-2010, 01:08 AM
Completely agree about the balance part
The dilemna for me is,I work for her.She has treated me well and I want to stay in good graces with her for my jobs sake.
On the other hand,I am torn by my loyalty to my friend.From what I have learned of her,I just can`t see any future in their relationship,but I am bound by promise not to to reveal anything to him that me and her have discussed.
I think at this point,I will have to let my integrity take a backseat to my job security.
06-22-2010, 03:43 AM
06-22-2010, 06:05 AM
She reached her goal and now its time to move on to another one or when he opened up he REALLY opened up and she wasn't prepared for that...
06-22-2010, 02:31 PM
06-22-2010, 02:41 PM
Most guys who talk about their feelings to women are 1, gay 2, on a friendship level. Of course by the time you have a serious relationship, you have to talk about your feelings to your spouse, but that's a little different, and still not pouring out your emotions or anything like that.
06-22-2010, 03:04 PM
06-22-2010, 06:30 PM
As apposed to the girl I'm dating...
I'm a typical guy and sex is on my mind quite a bit and hey, she's pretty damn hot. But she wants the deep conversation to know I'm just not in it for the sex and that I like her for "her".
That goes without saying... It's not like we're having sex even 25% of the time we hang out. If it was sex 90% of the time and if 9% of the rest was talking her into sex and 1% telling her why I have to leave after. She'd have a point.
In short - women are nuts
06-23-2010, 09:46 AM
06-23-2010, 07:49 PM
06-23-2010, 08:17 PM
For example, women want you to listen, and they want to listen. That's why they ask why, because they just want you to talk to them. Where men aren't generally as good "listeners".
06-23-2010, 10:14 PM
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06-23-2010, 10:25 PM
06-23-2010, 11:25 PM
Perhaps I am the odd female than, I work 60-80 hours a week, school,( 2nd degree) and family/friends... last thing I want to do is talk about things and see what we are.... I tell you single is better I come and go as I please, do what I want and make more money than most couples....LOL
RIP Ryan, :(
06-23-2010, 11:27 PM
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06-26-2010, 08:17 AM
Friend and his girlfriend made up,but now that she knows that she has the upperhand in the relationship,she is playing mind games with him.She told me yesterday she was going to dye her hair blonde for the first time because I am partial to blondes and in her words,"it will make him flip out".
She called me late last night while she was on her way to spend the wekend with my friend.She created a work situation and wants me to go in today to fix it.She told me to call her when I had it resolved.We had a previous agreement that I do not call her on the weekends,especially when she is spending the weekend with my friend.
She also told me that wherever she goes jobwise,she is taking me with her.
I am in a really bad spot here and am either going to lose my friend or my job or both.Not really sure how to handle this situation.
06-26-2010, 08:38 AM
06-26-2010, 09:15 AM
06-26-2010, 11:48 AM
It definitely depends on the people involved in the conversation.
I have no interest in and refuse to date stupid women. I would rather have an average looking intelligent woman than a hot moron any day.
It all depends on what you're looking for from that woman.
06-26-2010, 12:21 PM
06-26-2010, 01:49 PM
There's a BIG difference between deep conversation and dwelling on the past, and I agree, you should have no regrets, everything is a learning experience.
Every woman you're with will want more or less emotional involvement from the their date/partner depending on their past experiences and what they want from the relationship.
In my opinion the only thing you need to ask yourself is 'what do you want from the relationship?' if it's a bosom buddy, then go ahead and rant about your past to them but that's certainly not attractive to most women. Most just want a normal chap who can generate 'interesting' discussion with them and who listen to what they are saying.
06-26-2010, 03:10 PM
06-26-2010, 05:36 PM
Makes my head hurt trying to follow it....I say run...keep the job and thats it, who needs all this senseless drama.....that's my 2 cents..
RIP Ryan, :(
06-26-2010, 08:10 PM
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06-26-2010, 11:15 PM
06-27-2010, 02:43 AM
And like TC said....if it's that big of an issue go up the chain of command so long as you talk to her about it first. I know it sucks....but upper management won't like the fact that you didn't take it up with her before going over her head.
06-27-2010, 02:53 AM
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