I felt like getting something off my chest so I just decided to write. Perhaps a discussion will come of it.
I had a discussion with a woman recently that asked me, “Where have all the good men gone?” – A rather normal question, especially in today’s world.
Edmund Burke once said, “I thought ten thousand swords must have leaped from their scabbards to avenge even a look that threatened her with insult. But the age of chivalry is gone.”…But is it? Perhaps it’s simply seeking what is worthy of chivalry.
What I’d like to touch on is not so much the original question at hand, but the statements made in reference to it. It seems almost on a daily basis that I hear women saying how all men are “jerks” or “douchebags” by their definition. – Now, I will be the first to tell you that there is no shortage of douchebaggery in the male population, but to make the assessment that ALL men are in fact such is not only asinine and moronic, it is also adolescent in its very nature.
After she had made these allegations generalizing the male population, I began to contemplate, “Why is it she feels this way? What has she experienced? What hasn’t she experienced? What has life done to her? What have men done to her?” But it wasn’t until I asked myself, “Why can’t she see that good men do in fact exist?” that it hit me…
She’s just not worth it.
The good men are there, and they’re not wasting their time with her.
It’s sad, really, that this woman actually believes that she’s worthy of a “good man.” Her morals surpass lacking. Her judgment is cloudy. Her legs are open and her heart is shut. She cares more about The Twilight series and Grey’s Anatomy than the decisions made in the District that will define her life. She’s bitter. She’s cold. She’s turned off from reality. Small talk is her bag, and donuts are her lunch.
While this woman has characteristics that could be molded into something beautiful, she refuses to do so, and simply goes on with the fairytale, BS Hollywood idea that we are who we are, we can’t and/or don’t change, and that we should be accepted for who we are. Yea, good luck with that, lady.
Before accusing an entire population of a harsh generality that is simply not true, first examine your own life, your own actions, your own friends, and your own beliefs. The fact of the matter is that they CAN change, and perhaps they must.