kranden
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I've always been one to go after women that didn't have a boyfriend and by all means not married. Well until this girl. Not only was she married but also a client. No I'm not a doctor, just an engineer and she's a designer. Well I worked with her on a few projects for over a year and knew she was married and never thought another second about anything more. We always had interesting flirtatious phone conversations, but if you saw the projects we worked on and how we both interacted with everyone this is just my normal personality and hers too. Well, we finally agreed to meet for drinks at a kick ass lounge that we designed together. I brought one of my friends along and told him the whole situation to help prevent anything escalating because I did not want to cross that line. Well he ditched me for a date of his own and left her and I alone. Well after a whole bunch of shots and drinks with her and the lounge's owner, I told her I would walk her to her car. Next thing I know she bites the back of my neck, catches me completely off guard and spins me around and starts kissing me. One thing leads to another and she ends up back at my place and we get it on.
Now is when it gets complicated, she calls wants to see me the next night too, I give in and say yes. That night she explains how the last 8 months she has been living in the guest bedroom and has not had sex with her husband for over a year and she was completely miserable. She comes over the next night too. The following night I wanted a guys night and told her to stay home, well her husband goes through her phone and sees her texts and they get in a huge fight and finally everything comes to a head and she tells him its over and he should have realized that 8 months ago when she started sleeping in the guest bedroom. for the next month and a half she basically lived at my house and we were inseperable. She keeps telling me how much we have in common and I don't even know. Then slowly I see exactly what she means and she finally somehow is the first woman ever to get me to drop my guard down and actually feel something... I have never had a girlfriend or a relationship if that is what you would call this for anything more than 3 weeks (except for friends with benefits). Welleverything was going great, she hasn't worn her ring for the entire time, and even sat down and told her parents about everything except me. They are wayyy indebt and says thats the reason they have not gotten divorced because he is flipping houses and only needs a few more to get them out of it.
Well all of this is fine, except now another monkey wrench gets thrown into things, she starts grad school and goes away for a week back east for this online school that has a week intense orientation. When she gets back she tells me she can't keep living like this and can only see me on the weekends due to her 50-60 hour work weeks and school. She knows she needs to move out and get her own place and stop living in the guest bedroom but she does not have time to pack up all of her stuff. We talk all the time and text all the time, but she hasn't seen me in 3 weeks. On top of everything I get laid off.
Now friends have told me I should just walk away, but I love this girl and she has told me she loves me just that school and work are making her life sooo extremely chaotic right now she is only getting a few hours of sleep a night as it is during the week and the weekends and doesn't have time for anything else...
What do I do, do I give her a couple more weeks for her to finish up 2 of her 4 classes or do I just stop all contact from my end and let her come find me as I should not put my life on hold for when if when she finds time in the future weeks or month to include me in it. After a lot of self discovery I did come to the resolution that while she is still married, I am single this whole time until she moves out and actually makes some sort of move to show she does actually want to be with me...
Any comments would be greatly apprciated...
Now is when it gets complicated, she calls wants to see me the next night too, I give in and say yes. That night she explains how the last 8 months she has been living in the guest bedroom and has not had sex with her husband for over a year and she was completely miserable. She comes over the next night too. The following night I wanted a guys night and told her to stay home, well her husband goes through her phone and sees her texts and they get in a huge fight and finally everything comes to a head and she tells him its over and he should have realized that 8 months ago when she started sleeping in the guest bedroom. for the next month and a half she basically lived at my house and we were inseperable. She keeps telling me how much we have in common and I don't even know. Then slowly I see exactly what she means and she finally somehow is the first woman ever to get me to drop my guard down and actually feel something... I have never had a girlfriend or a relationship if that is what you would call this for anything more than 3 weeks (except for friends with benefits). Welleverything was going great, she hasn't worn her ring for the entire time, and even sat down and told her parents about everything except me. They are wayyy indebt and says thats the reason they have not gotten divorced because he is flipping houses and only needs a few more to get them out of it.
Well all of this is fine, except now another monkey wrench gets thrown into things, she starts grad school and goes away for a week back east for this online school that has a week intense orientation. When she gets back she tells me she can't keep living like this and can only see me on the weekends due to her 50-60 hour work weeks and school. She knows she needs to move out and get her own place and stop living in the guest bedroom but she does not have time to pack up all of her stuff. We talk all the time and text all the time, but she hasn't seen me in 3 weeks. On top of everything I get laid off.
Now friends have told me I should just walk away, but I love this girl and she has told me she loves me just that school and work are making her life sooo extremely chaotic right now she is only getting a few hours of sleep a night as it is during the week and the weekends and doesn't have time for anything else...
What do I do, do I give her a couple more weeks for her to finish up 2 of her 4 classes or do I just stop all contact from my end and let her come find me as I should not put my life on hold for when if when she finds time in the future weeks or month to include me in it. After a lot of self discovery I did come to the resolution that while she is still married, I am single this whole time until she moves out and actually makes some sort of move to show she does actually want to be with me...
Any comments would be greatly apprciated...