There's an unbearable amount of stress and emotion in a situation like this for Bean. There are a thousand things he could do but in reality, most are pointless and/or ruinous. You need to hope for the best but plan for the worst.
1. If you haven't already, you need to get a good attorney and heed his advice (planning for the worst) in terms of how you conduct yourself, documenting the affair, emails, communications, etc. and whatever else he/she has for guidance.
2. Decisions of the heart are each of ours to make. At some point you'll have to decide if you want to try to work things out or seperate. When 1 spouse cheats, they're unhappy about something and communication has either broken down or been ignored. I'm not saying anything is your fault, but as a couple, if you're going to reconcile, you'll need to get some external counseling. In either event, don't neglect #1 above.
I'm sorry to hear about your dilemma, your life no doubt is upside down right now. I'm confident that I speak for everyone here when I say God bless and best of luck with everything.