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    I brush him off when he wants sex, so now he's watching porn and hiding it from me, w


    Ok, so I found this question on line, and thought I might see how guys /ladies might respond to this issue. I would really like to see some ladies respond to this to get a different perspective.
    Here is the original situation as posted by someone on another forum:
    "I caught my fiance masturbating in the basement while watching porn over the internet. I pretended I didn't see him as he scrambled to cover his tracks. He minimized everything in his desktop and covered his thing section with his arm. He then acted like nothing was going on.
    We haven't done it in a while. I the times that he tried, I just didn't feel like it so I reject him.
    I am starting to blame myself for this but I am also outraged that he was brushing it off. What should I do?"

    Now I want to see some responses to her situation. Also, what would you do if your sig other kept denying you some nookie?
    I always tell my lady, and any before her: "Don't ever think that what you have between your legs, you can use a method to hold me hostage, as some sort of bargaining chip. As long as my hands work, I am ok " They are low maintenance, and I don't have to take them to dinner before they give me some loving,.....hahaha. I will never cheat on her, but I won't walk around frustrated either.

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    WTF else is the guy to do? Cheat on her? stop his human need to mate? Id say she should leave him instead of waiting for him to leave her and her getting half his shiet.
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    I actually find this topic really interesting because it really goes to the basic difference between women and men and how our sexual urges differ from theirs. I'm not saying they don't have them, some more then others, but it doesn't seem to interfere in their daily lives the way ours does if we are not getting some. Some women think that it is ok if they dont want to have sex and then expect that the guys should not jerk off or end up cheating. I'm not saying cheating is excusable but when the options are no sex or jerking off vs cheating, it is not hard ot see how after a while a guy could give in to temption. I really find it hard to believe women that think that men should not jerk off or look at porn, but they don't want to have sex either? Really what do they expect a guy to do????

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    Lol, she's mad because the guy was jacking off? HAHAHA.. If my girl didn't give me poon and expected me not to masterbate, i'd have to leave her.. That might be harsh but i aint no *****.. and i don't have to worry about that because my girlfriend is just as horny as I am, probably more than me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr.50 View Post
    I actually find this topic really interesting because it really goes to the basic difference between women and men and how our sexual urges differ from theirs. I'm not saying they don't have them, some more then others, but it doesn't seem to interfere in their daily lives the way ours does if we are not getting some. Some women think that it is ok if they dont want to have sex and then expect that the guys should not jerk off or end up cheating. I'm not saying cheating is excusable but when the options are no sex or jerking off vs cheating, it is not hard ot see how after a while a guy could give in to temption. I really find it hard to believe women that think that men should not jerk off or look at porn, but they don't want to have sex either? Really what do they expect a guy to do????

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    This actually happened to me in my marriage,... I jo'd so much I couldn't keep my hands off myself!!!
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    Honestly I don't mind if once in a while my girl says she is not in the mood, because she is tired or not well. But if she just plain tells me no because she can, then Houston, we have a problem. I see a three some about to happen (left and right hand) So I look at my right hand and I say:
    "Pamela, call your sister, we having a three some tonight!"
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    Chicks are funny in that, when they first meet a guy they're as horny as the male for the beginning of the relationship. The guy's sex drive never tapers, but the woman's will slow down as the relationship becomes more serious and emotionally involved.

    I wont stand for that **** - biological or not. I can constantly remind myself to remember birthdays and anniversaries, not eat over the sink, and do all that other crap that makes them happy.

    They least she can do is give it up a few times a day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigVrunga View Post
    They least she can do is give it up a few times a day.
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    There's so much wrong with her statement, but what sticks out the most is the fact that she blames herself for him j'ing off. As if it was somehow morally wrong or harmful. The only thing that might be harmed is her ego if she constucts it in her own mind as a way of him "cheating" on her with the pr0n sluts.
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    Well from my opinion, if I was sick or tired and did not want sex for a few days, I would be fine with the above issue. Maybe they should talk and find a way to solve the issue.

    Find out why she has not wanted it, look to fix it or compromise. The whole act is not a must to satisfy his needs. She could compromise there.

    That said cheating is never an option.
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    Why people still commit to relationships is beyond my comprehension.

    Why would someone even put up with that.......she doesn't wanna have sex....he can't have sex with anyone else because they're "together" so basically, the guy pays bills supports a female so he can jack off which he also has to hide from her....

    Wow, humans can be f**king retarded sometimes...
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    What should she do? She should ask herself why she rejects him. She should ask herself why she feels she "caught him" AND she's outraged at him acting caught. She should ask herself what exactly her job is in regard to the situation.

    She should ask herself how she would feel if the roles were reversed & her SO had "caught" her & had the same reaction after he had been refusing her sex.

    She should ask herself what the he!! is wrong with her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BodyWizard View Post
    What should she do? She should ask herself why she rejects him. She should ask herself why she feels she "caught him" AND she's outraged at him acting caught. She should ask herself what exactly her job is in regard to the situation.

    She should ask herself how she would feel if the roles were reversed & her SO had "caught" her & had the same reaction after he had been refusing her sex.

    She should ask herself what the he!! is wrong with her.
    Lol, i like this response.

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    Ha my ex wanted me to masturbate so I wouldn't be constantly bothering her. This girl sounds like she already knows what the problem is.

    Like Rugger said, Put up or shut up!
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    Damn princess mentality has been ruining men for decades. There should be a document signed upon transferral of the diamond.
    You want this then initial here, here, here, sign here, initial here and sign here.

    "Your honor my client has procured a legal binding document that reads;
    the defendant must clean, lose weight and administer atleast 7 times a week, either oral or k-9 style gratification for the plaintiff, or as other wise agreed upon by the parties.
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    Quote Originally Posted by crader View Post
    Well from my opinion, if I was sick or tired and did not want sex for a few days, I would be fine with the above issue. Maybe they should talk and find a way to solve the issue.

    Find out why she has not wanted it, look to fix it or compromise. The whole act is not a must to satisfy his needs. She could compromise there.

    That said cheating is never an option.
    As said before, ANY violation of the marriage vow of fidelity, regardless of the perceived situation (future intent to divorce, etc.) should be punishable by jail time.
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    I retrospect, maybe her not wanting to have sex with him, may not necessarily be her fault, but may be his. He may suck at the whole sex thing, and rather than be honest with him, she chose to not have sex. In her mind she may be thinking that she is compromising. She loves him, he has other great qualities, so she figures the pros out weigh the cons. The cons in this case, might be his sexual skills or lack thereof. In reality, she is only hurting herself in the long run, because how long can she over look his short comings. On the flip side, she may not be good in bed, which in turn causes him not to perform well. So they are both to blame if that is the case. This all boils down to one word.....COMMUNICATION. Did I end up in left field here..... please forgive me.
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    That is why I loved the military, you get caught having an affair with another person's spouse, you experienced UCMJ (Uniformed Code of Military Justice). Of course that only applied to soldiers. If a soldier's spouse was cheating on a him/her, and they were on a sponsored tour (military paid for her/him to be there), the army would ship him/her back to where they came from. If the soldier wanted her/him to stay, it would be at the soldier's expense. Now if both spouses were soldiers, then that cheating spouse suffered UCMJ. Oh yeah , this in response to dsade's comment about jail time. I remember a soldier of mine (he was married) kept messing with this other soldier, he was punished, kept messing with her. Eventually the army put him out with a dishonorable discharge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ABNRanger View Post
    That is why I loved the military, you get caught having an affair with another person's spouse, you experienced UCMJ (Uniformed Code of Military Justice). Of course that only applied to soldiers. If a soldier's spouse was cheating on a him/her, and they were on a sponsored tour (military paid for her/him to be there), the army would ship him/her back to where they came from. If the soldier wanted her/him to stay, it would be at the soldier's expense. Now if both spouses were soldiers, then that cheating spouse suffered UCMJ. Oh yeah , this in response to dsade's comment about jail time. I remember a soldier of mine (he was married) kept messing with this other soldier, he was punished, kept messing with her. Eventually the army put him out with a dishonorable discharge.
    but who seriously has the moral's in the military these days. I logged onto craigslist few days ago and saw about 6 ads from females whos husbands are deployed and they're looking for boytoys...

    yep I was lookin for poontang on craigs list.. but im in iraq now so its not that bad... but anyways

    military + cheating= everyday life
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    Well she's depriving sex from the dude for whatever reason. What's he meant to do?
    1. stimulate himself through some Aid like porn.
    2. have real sex with another woman

    If anything she should be happy that he's not choosing option 2, considering that they're not having sex because SHE doesn't feel like it (as oppose to him not being attracted to her or something of that sort).
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    Well she's depriving sex from the dude for whatever reason. What's he meant to do?
    1. stimulate himself through some Aid like porn.
    2. have real sex with another woman

    If anything she should be happy that he's not choosing option 2, considering that they're not having sex because SHE doesn't feel like it (as oppose to him not being attracted to her or something of that sort).
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    I blame the guy, it's his fault totally.

    He should NOT have stopped
    He should NOT have covered up the screen
    He should NOT have acted like he wasn't doing it.

    He should HAVE continued
    He should HAVE turned to her and gave her the "I wanna screw you like the dirty whore you are" look
    He should HAVE C.O.H.F cum on her face.
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    I will be honest and say that the last relationship I was in, we had the best communication I ever experienced. We were very open with each other, and she sat me down and let me know where I was lacking in my skills to please her and I did the same with her. We both listened and applied what the other wanted, and we had some of the best love making (yeah I said love making) I ever experienced in the relationship. She actually embraced my porn side, we used to drive around at night going to porn shops and stuff. So I never had to sneak around and stuff. Yeaaaaah, those were the days.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dsade View Post
    As said before, ANY violation of the marriage vow of fidelity, regardless of the perceived situation (future intent to divorce, etc.) should be punishable by jail time.
    Open that up to "general performance in the partnership" - and I'm on board.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BodyWizard View Post
    Open that up to "general performance in the partnership" - and I'm on board.
    That would seem a bit ambiguous, whereas fidelity is and should be clearly spelled out PRIOR to most marriages.

    I am fine supporting that with anything else clearly spelled out beforehand.
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    God, this sounds familiar.

    My wife thinks I when I rub one off I'm doing it as a personal affront to her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RobInKuwait View Post
    God, this sounds familiar.

    My wife thinks I when I rub one off I'm doing it as a personal affront to her.
    If you start shooting it in her hair while she's asleep she'll stop complaining when it goes elsewhere pretty quick.
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    lol wow what a story, but neway the wife shouldnt make it such a big deal its her fault hes rubbing one out to porn because she wont satisfy his needs, also his fault for not takin the time to communicate and let her know that he like thnks shes gorgeous and is dying to fu ck her right now!!! thats what i would do let her now that i am a man who needs to **** either your gunna help me out or i may go cheat on you cuz you dont sh it to help me out woman!
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    Quote Originally Posted by dpfisher View Post
    If you start shooting it in her hair while she's asleep she'll stop complaining when it goes elsewhere pretty quick.
    I think if I was to shoot it in her hair when she was sleeping I wouldn't have to worry about it anymore.......she'd castrate me in my sleep
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    Quote Originally Posted by RobInKuwait View Post
    I think if I was to shoot it in her hair when she was sleeping I wouldn't have to worry about it anymore.......she'd castrate me in my sleep
    Tell her it's your new Virile Mane, and will make her hair thicker and softer.
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    Who cares, we all have done it at one time or another ..
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    Quote Originally Posted by dsade View Post
    Tell her it's your new Virile Mane, and will make her hair thicker and softer.
    I don't think she'll buy it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RobInKuwait View Post
    I don't think she'll buy it.
    Good call!
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    Quote Originally Posted by RobInKuwait View Post
    I don't think she'll buy it.
    She doesn't have to buy it...tell her it's a free sample.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RobInKuwait View Post
    I think if I was to shoot it in her hair when she was sleeping I wouldn't have to worry about it anymore.......she'd castrate me in my sleep
    That's scary, I can never sleep comfortably if I'm not alone in a locked room with my gun within arms reach...........a pissed off female after hearing about the Bobbit b*tch, no thanks........

    Quote Originally Posted by Dsade
    She doesn't have to buy it...tell her it's a free sample.
    Good point....that solves it......

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    Quote Originally Posted by dsade View Post
    She doesn't have to buy it...tell her it's a free sample.
    Reminds me of high school, when I got my first BJ. Beforehand she told me to warn her so it didn't get in her mouth. So she got started and I waited until the last possible moment, then let her know. Right as she's pulling away, WHAP!, right in the eye! I couldn't help from cracking up! I should have took a picture.
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