Losing Your Pet, Your Best Friend :-(
- 12-07-2018, 03:40 PM
Losing Your Pet, Your Best Friend :-(
I donít usually post personal stuff but I love the AM community, you are family, and there is no other place Iíd rather reach out to than here as Iím not a big Facebook or Instagram guy.
Iíve had the hardest week of my life, nothing comes close to it. My wife and I had to put our best friend Lily down a few days ago and itís been beyond hard to deal with, almost to the point where we both feel pretty empty inside and our house feels eerily quiet. It all happened so sudden as on Monday she was her normal playful self celebrating my birthday and on Tuesday morning we were in the ER with her receiving the horrible news that she had a tumor on her heart and the blood that was draining into her protective sac could not be stopped. We took her home and spent one final day with her feeding her all the stuff we could never feed her and giving her all the love she deserved until the Vet came to our house to put her to sleep in our arms and in our home, everything she loved. I canít explain in words how hard it was (and still is), how surreal it all felt, and how much pain accompanies it. Everywhere I look Iím reminded of her, I almost think I see her still there in her favorite spots, but she isnít. Our other dog (a little Yorkie) isnít the same either, she wonít move from the spot where Lily took her last breath, and it hurts so much to see that too.
Has anyone here had to put their best friend to sleep and if so what helped you cope with the pain that you felt and emptiness you have inside? Thank you
- 12-07-2018, 03:53 PM
12-07-2018, 03:53 PM
I donít have any advice other than to tell you what works for me.
For me, the best healing is sharing the memories of a life that shined brightly in our home, bringing so much joy and entertainment over the years. If you can, please share your fondest memories of Lily with us. I love dogs and enjoy ďdog stories.Ē
We got another puppy about a year after our dogs passed. The new puppy canít replace the lost family member. But having another animal to love and entertain us reminds us of the joy we missed.
Again, so sorry for your loss.
12-07-2018, 04:35 PM
I mean if you really hate your balls, go for it. But, what did they do to you?
12-07-2018, 04:40 PM
Sorry for your loss. Unfortunately nothing really helps except time. Eventually your be able to think of your pet without feeling all the sorrow but it does take time.
12-07-2018, 05:17 PM
One of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Like the others said, time helps. You don't get over it, but you learn how to live with it.
12-07-2018, 08:02 PM
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12-07-2018, 08:24 PM
Still, had to fill that gap in my life.
Slept on the kitchen floor when he cried as a pup.
I fed him by hand when he wouldn't eat.
We were inseperable.
I wrote an article about the best friend I never wanted but took in.
I still cry. Almost needed therapy, but I relented and got a new boy who'll break my heart again.
My throat has a lump in it from just this post but I wanted to share with you, as you're not alone in this because you shared your heart with a special loved one brought into your pack. They are all very special and are unique. This is my boy that passed on, and I know all dogs go to heaven. Holding back tears now.
12-07-2018, 08:48 PM
12-07-2018, 09:09 PM
12-07-2018, 10:30 PM
That's one of the worst things to have to do, I really feel for you. Good on you guys for doing it the way you did, in a place she was most comfortable and with you guys there.
I get severe anxiety and nearly tear up knowing that one day this will come for our dog.
12-08-2018, 01:27 AM
I had a dachshund die of heart failure a few years ago. Absolutely destroyed me. She was the love of my life, my absolute pride and joy. I had another dog at the time, and it took about two days for him to figure out that she was gone. Seeing him in the moment he realized it was the most heart breaking thing ever. Tried to feed him and his legs got wobbly, and he collapsed by his bowl of food. I was already a mess, but this wrecked me. Was the hardest part of the whole thing.
Ultimately, I took solace in knowing I spoiled that little girl rotten and gave her a great life. And, my other dog needed me as his pack leader, so I focused on making sure he felt loved.
Sorry for your loss. It sucks losing a dog. I know it hurts, but it’ll get easier.
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12-08-2018, 12:54 PM
12-08-2018, 08:45 PM
he still has a good appetite and loves to snuggle under my chair when we watch tv, but I have to carry him up and down the back porch stairs to potty. I feel your pain, I will be a total mess when the time comes-it really will be losing a family member.
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12-08-2018, 08:46 PM
12-08-2018, 09:08 PM
Been there. Twice. First was a stray that somebody dumped off and he turned up at our house. Not sure why, but I felt sorry for him and fed him. 16 years later, his hips had given out, back was shot, I had to carry him outside and into the bedroom. And same as you, we had the vet come out to the house. As the vet gave him the 2nd shot, he reached over and licked my hand
That was 12 years ago, and it still hits hard.
All these stories have the same tone. They weren't pets, they were a part of us. They knew our mood, and knew what we needed. And they all left when it was their time, not ours.
Chris, just like the rest of us, you're an animal lover. At some point, you'll get another. Not a replacement, but another member of the family. Another life that will become a part of you.
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12-08-2018, 11:10 PM
They really out the love of our lives, at least for many of us. Never will you ever find anything, or anyone, so loyal, so loving, so giving without wanting anything in return but your approval. Truly amazing!
12-08-2018, 11:16 PM
12-13-2018, 03:58 PM
It's always hard to lose a pet that has become a part of your family. My deepest condolences my friend.
A few years ago I had to have my dog put down. I'd had her for almost 15 years and she still acted like a puppy until she got the internal bleeding. She was my best friend and would sleep on the other side of the bed. When I got married, my wife took her spot in bed and she wasn't happy about it. Lol! Sally would just stand there and stare at my wife as she was laying in bed which kinda creeped her out. Didn't take long for them to become close though. Then when my daughter was born, Sally was right there watching over her. It was terribly rough having to put her down but she was in pain and there wasn't anything that could be done. The next year we adopted another pit bull from the shelter. She was just about a year old and had so much of the same personality as Sally that I had to get her. That's what really helped me deal with losing Sally. Here's one of my favorite pics of my daughter with Sally.
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