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Hey guys, some of you may know this, msot probably don't but I broke up with a pretty serious girlfriend recently. She was that one that you thought was going to be "the one." Turns out that wasn't the case.

Now she was a girl that I could be open with about my designer steroid use and everything. But she definately wasn't a good ifnluence on me, especially when it comes to eating and alcohol. That's not the reason it ended, but let's not get into that.

Recently I started seeing someone else. This girl is cute and extremely fitness and health minded. She could definately compete in figure/fitness but I don't think she has an aspirations to. But she is very "goody goody," for lack of a better term, and someone who I do not think would like the fact that I have used in the past and am in the midst of planning my first injectable cycle. And I am planning on doing a few competitions later on in the year and she will probably play a big part in my preperations. I want to be good enough to qualify for some national level competitions next year to get some major exposure in the fitness world...

Now this is the prediciment...she knows about my previous drug use to an extent. I've known her since she wa a Senior in HS and I was a freshman in college and those probably were my worst years. But she is so sheltered that I definately always kept things from her to keep her around as a friend and a FWB...This girl seems to worship the ground I walk on, honestly, but I don't want to push her away.

So what would you do in my situation? Be open and honest about everything?...which I think is a horrible idea personally.

I mean I'm in awe of how to handle this one. I'm usually great with relationships, but this has me in a bit of a bind mentally....
 
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No need to be open and honest until things start to get serious a few months down the road. Let her get to know you, maybe love you for who you are. Don't let one small piece of who you are scare her away in the beginning. It's easy for girls to get blinded by small details about a guy and not see the whole picture.
 

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Thats the thing, it's not really the beginning...she's known me for 6-7 years...
 
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Well if she can't accept you for you, then she's not the right one. Seriously, you can't have a real relationship if it's not 100% open and honest. In the end, it's up to you, and remember you're most important to yourself. Don't ever let anyone prevent you from your goals (unless it's evil ;)). You'll still young, you should enjoy the variety of fish in the sea and not worry about settling down for a long time. You'll see what I mean when you hit my old age ;)
 

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Yea, I'm a relationship junkie. I have a wondering eye but am not the most outgoing person alive. I am definately at my happiest when I'm connected...

As for the not accepting me part...steroids is a hot topic issue for a lot of people due to it's legality. I don't think getting rid of someone becuase of their views of certain laws is valid.
 
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I think you have to be honest with her, for two reasons. First, you're denying her the option to choose from the very beginning, which I think is necessary in a healthy relationship; two, if she finds out 6-12 months down the road, holy sweet baby jeebus I don't need to tell you how much of a fight that would be. Just tell her mang, dress it up a little.
 
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PI this is what you do. Sit her down and make her watch the Real Sports doc on Steroids. See her reaction if she is nay say nothing if she is cool let her in on the PH use, not your cycle use... Trust me on this, you can not trust people with Legal Issues down the road.
 

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Apowerz...how do you jsut sit a girl down and say watch this youtube clip about steroids...?
 
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Say "sit down, and watch this YouTube clip on steroids" :p

That's what I did.
 

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If you honestly did that...how did she react? BTW, you're girls cute, want to loan her to me?

Or you can just send her down here to talk to this one for me...I promise I won't make a move or anything...
 
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If you IM each other, send a link, tell her it's a rad video ;)
 
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Haha.

Yeah, that's what I seriously did just with some more finesse. I just asked her what she thought about A.A.S., and then said what would you think if I could show you a video with very legitimate doctors basically saying it's BS.

It took some finaggling but I eventually got her to the point where she was tolerant of it.
 

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I think using the word "rad" would be worse than talking about illicit steroid usage...
 

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This is going to be an interesting conversation...
 
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Im with most of the guys as well, honesty is the only way a relationship can truly work, otherwise you might project your dishonesty on her and start wondering if you are keeping things hidden, what might she be avoiding? Definitely dont want that sort of paranoia coming between you. Then again, there are things I have to keep from my wife, so im not the best example
 
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This is going to be an interesting conversation...
It's definitely weird. As she first watches the movie she is going to be piss and vinegar most likely, but that video is rather convincing. After, show her that Arman guys articles against steroids, and there are PLENTY. I think it strengthens the case when a diehard anti-A.A.S. guy claims straight up he doesn't see as much of a health risk as is claimed.
 

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What's his full name?



On a side note, Mullet, I'm gonna shoot you an e-mail later on tonight...I'm trying to figure a few things out, mostly schedule related stuff with gear and shows...keep an eye out for it.
 
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What's his full name?



On a side note, Mullet, I'm gonna shoot you an e-mail later on tonight...I'm trying to figure a few things out, mostly schedule related stuff with gear and shows...keep an eye out for it.
Kay, which e-mail?

Oh ****, I can't remember. It mentions it on the video, he's the main reporter.
 

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I'll figure it out then, I didn't know he was on the clip...

The only e-mail I know it mulletsoldier @ cyber-rights . net
 
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hey, if what you say is true..

Just tell her the truth. BUT- it's all in the delivery.
If oyu say it like oyur asking for her approval, then she might get upset.
If you tell her like you "own it", and thats just how it is, and your not afraid that she'll leave you.. she WILL just except it.
The same way a woman will except anything else becasue "thats just how he is"
 
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danny bonaduce talked about this roids use on the radio not long ago. He was trying to dispell the angry on roids talk and mentioned how he talked to his wife. He told her if he became angry etc because of the roids, then he'd stop the cycle, he wanted to show her that it had nothing to do with taking them. I hope I wrote that right :) My radness is catching up with me.
 

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Haha, didn't bonaduce claim roids where part of his agressive problems in the past, on breaking bondauce?
 
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I say be honest...I went from a raver chick to a "goody-goody", and I turned out ok...in fact, I'm waaaay happier than I've ever been in my life! She knows about my use, and we made a "deal" so to speak. I won't use injectables...ever. period. end of story. Transdermals are totally fine with me, along with responsible oral use. If she turns out to not be cool with it at all, you'll have to make a decision...what is more important? If my girl asked me to, I'd walk away from gear completely. There are a wealth of Non-Hormonal alternatives, and I'd probably try them all :). Hell, I may even be forced to have a 100% dialed in diet and training regimen....imagine that lol!
 
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Haha, didn't bonaduce claim roids where part of his agressive problems in the past, on breaking bondauce?
He's the new guy on Adam Carolla's radio show. He brought up breaking bonaduce but said it wasn't the roids that caused the probs, it was his drinking and probably hamming it up for to make his show as crazy as possible.
 

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