My bench is totally bull**** too. Bench has always been my worst movement. I have wide shoulders and a small frame judging by my small wrists if that makes sense. And i have the same problem, bringing it to my chest makes it so much harder. it's like once i get it down there my arms are stretched way out and i have no leverage on it. Same boat as you man, don't know what i can do to change it, or if it really matter bringning it down that extra 2-3 inches.. it feels so unnatural when i go that low, maybe we're just built diff lol..