Is there some rule that once people get married the majority lose interest in the gym

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  1. Is there some rule that once people get married the majority lose interest in the gym


    WTF? As I get older I witness this time and time again. Two people once who loved the gym just absolutely stop going once they are married. Its like a complete 180. Is there some rule they live by that once they get married the gym does not exist anymore? Its just weird to me. Do most people just lose motivation of going to the gym once they tie the knot? Gain interest in other things that are involved when married?

    I don't know how a person can go from going to the gym every day to just not giving a **** about it cause they are now married.


  2. That’s a very good question: once getting married (twice now) after my first go around i stopped going around 7 months into it because we were expecting our first child so things just kind of slowed down. Then i realized 2 years in that I needed the gym to regulate my mind and of course body. I think what happens is the timing w the new spouse ties to getting your mind righ w them and ultimately going back to your regular routine. That gym time is crucial in my opinion to keeping your powder dry !
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  3. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    WTF? As I get older I witness this time and time again. Two people once who loved the gym just absolutely stop going once they are married. Its like a complete 180. Is there some rule they live by that once they get married the gym does not exist anymore? Its just weird to me. Do most people just lose motivation of going to the gym once they tie the knot? Gain interest in other things that are involved when married?

    I don't know how a person can go from going to the gym every day to just not giving a **** about it cause they are now married.
    Exactly the opposite is what I did. Didn’t want to become a slob. So, started training and got my wife motivated to start as well.

  4. Same here jtmass. I got fat my junior year of college. Got engaged and started running and lifting and haven't stopped since, in fact I probably work out harder after getting married than I did before.

  5. It’s not that people lose interest but sometimes other things take priority.

    Babies and young children take time, work can often become more important as it’s no longer just yourself that you need to provide for. Lots of reasons why people struggle to maintain the same gym regime as before.

    Let’s not forget that for most of us we also want to actually spend time with our partners and vica versa.......

    Once people settle into married life normally it’s easy enough to find a solution that works, even if not at the same frequency as before.
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  6. In that first year it is setting up life with wifey and working on making babies. Unless she was a gym goer. The second year there were some gym outings. More third year. Nothing like prior to being married because your life is no longer your own and that means free time as well.

    Divorced now and GF is a dedicated gym goer. So it is like prior to being married. Actually worse, as I have to go to the gym when she goes. Never let your woman go to the gym alone. You know what I refer to.

  7. No. But your threads make me lose interest in living. Seriously. One minute living my entire life and next minute not living at all.

  8. To be completely honest with you I just will never understand why the **** people change so much once they get married. Due to the fact that my interests are still the same now as they were before I got married. I don't give a **** who Im married to, no one is going to take my independence away. The gym is very important to me as I go there and it allows me to focus on myself. If I felt marriage was going to prevent me from doing that or making other things a priority then I wouldn't have gotten married. I look at having children as something where if it happens it happens. Once that does happen then I will worry about it then but until that happens my routine stays the same. I spend plenty of time with my wife but my health is my number one priority. I've already explained this to her and she is content with it and supportive. I find it really wrong that men once they get married have a new set of rules they have to live by. It doesn't surprise me that the divorce rate in this country is sky high. I'll be glad to get a divorce if I started feeling I had to stop going to the gym. That is inhumane to do to someone.

    I honestly think that lots of individuals motivation comes from being single. Once they get married they accomplished what they wanted to do so the motivation to stay in shape and find a soul mate has now disappeared. They are with the person they plan on being with for the rest of their life so they feel "What do I need to go to the gym for anymore?"

  9. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    To be completely honest with you I just will never understand why the **** people change so much once they get married. Due to the fact that my interests are still the same now as they were before I got married. I don't give a **** who Im married to, no one is going to take my independence away. The gym is very important to me as I go there and it allows me to focus on myself. If I felt marriage was going to prevent me from doing that or making other things a priority then I wouldn't have gotten married. I look at having children as something where if it happens it happens. Once that does happen then I will worry about it then but until that happens my routine stays the same. I spend plenty of time with my wife but my health is my number one priority. I've already explained this to her and she is content with it and supportive. I find it really wrong that men once they get married have a new set of rules they have to live by. It doesn't surprise me that the divorce rate in this country is sky high. I'll be glad to get a divorce if I started feeling I had to stop going to the gym. That is inhumane to do to someone.

    I honestly think that lots of individuals motivation comes from being single. Once they get married they accomplished what they wanted to do so the motivation to stay in shape and find a soul mate has now disappeared. They are with the person they plan on being with for the rest of their life so they feel "What do I need to go to the gym for anymore?"
    ok. Enjoy. Ignore your wife and someone else will bone her and you will be a cuckold.

  10. If you value going to the gym more than your wife then you married the wrong person. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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  11. Quote Originally Posted by Woody View Post
    If you value going to the gym more than your wife then you married the wrong person. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
    I value my health more than my marriage. Yes that is correct. I'm sorry you live in a world where you would never be able to value that as highly as I do. Enjoy being fat as you get older with a dad bod eventually.

  12. Quote Originally Posted by UCSMiami View Post
    ok. Enjoy. Ignore your wife and someone else will bone her and you will be a cuckold.
    Not really because she enjoys a man who is fit and takes care of himself. She finds it a turn on. She doesn't want a man with a dad bod who would rather watch sports on with a bag of potato chips and drink beer with his buddies. Unfortunately once men hit 40 , most men are like that. I went to Vegas and it was disgusting how men looked there. The lack of self respect to their bodies really showed. How the **** can you live life looking like that? Its ****ing pathetic!

  13. Quote Originally Posted by UCSMiami View Post
    ok. Enjoy. Ignore your wife and someone else will bone her and you will be a cuckold.
    Quote Originally Posted by Woody View Post
    If you value going to the gym more than your wife then you married the wrong person. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
    Agree. But sometimes aren’t we all selfish.. we need our time for the gym without a fight.. I say this because before my wife joined the gym or started understanding how important fitness is, there was sometimes a conflict with the time I spent (which is not a lot. About 2hrs including travel) for the gym. Now that she’s in to her fitness journey, she understands.

  14. Quote Originally Posted by jtmass View Post
    Agree. But sometimes aren’t we all selfish.. we need our time for the gym without a fight.. I say this because before my wife joined the gym or started understanding how important fitness is, there was sometimes a conflict with the time I spent (which is not a lot. About 2hrs including travel) for the gym. Now that she’s in to her fitness journey, she understands.
    I'm so sick of this pathetic attitude of women in general who have enabled men to look like ****. I just read this, wtf?

    "Part of my admiration for men with imperfect bodies is self-reflective; I’ve never had a flat stomach in my life, and I’ve passed the phase where that seems like a major moral failure on my part. The Dad bod doesn’t guarantee a similar worldview (there are, for sure, exacting *******s who live inside dad bods), but it makes a match more likely. It’s fine for all of us to have regular-looking bodies, and if you’ve never had a partner who felt that way, let me promise you: it is some thoroughly good ****. Find one such person and get naked with him or her.

    Consciously or not, many of my friends seem to have given dad bods tacit approval in their dating choices, too. None of us are waiting around at the squat rack to talk to the dude with the perfect arms, and that includes the women in my social circle who enjoy spending a fair amount of time in the gym themselves. That’s not to say that guy isn’t great, but he’s just not the first person who comes to mind when most of us are measuring our real-life romantic ideals.

    At a certain point, and maybe at a certain age, the reality of a great guy who doesn’t go to the gym as much as he wishes he did trumps the muscled, hairless boy-band ideal of our youths, and it trumps it by a lot. Almost across the board, the women around me choose funny, quick, well-rounded dudes who can be goaded into having five whiskey sodas with them after a rough week at work. We’re all in our late 20s, and through some trial and error, it turns out that regular-ass humans are actually pretty fun to hang out with. Who knew?"

    So basically men who love the gym and focusing on themselves "A little too much" is a turn off for the average woman. What a joke.

  15. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    I'm so sick of this pathetic attitude of women in general who have enabled men to look like ****. I just read this, wtf?

    "Part of my admiration for men with imperfect bodies is self-reflective; I’ve never had a flat stomach in my life, and I’ve passed the phase where that seems like a major moral failure on my part. The Dad bod doesn’t guarantee a similar worldview (there are, for sure, exacting *******s who live inside dad bods), but it makes a match more likely. It’s fine for all of us to have regular-looking bodies, and if you’ve never had a partner who felt that way, let me promise you: it is some thoroughly good ****. Find one such person and get naked with him or her.

    Consciously or not, many of my friends seem to have given dad bods tacit approval in their dating choices, too. None of us are waiting around at the squat rack to talk to the dude with the perfect arms, and that includes the women in my social circle who enjoy spending a fair amount of time in the gym themselves. That’s not to say that guy isn’t great, but he’s just not the first person who comes to mind when most of us are measuring our real-life romantic ideals.

    At a certain point, and maybe at a certain age, the reality of a great guy who doesn’t go to the gym as much as he wishes he did trumps the muscled, hairless boy-band ideal of our youths, and it trumps it by a lot. Almost across the board, the women around me choose funny, quick, well-rounded dudes who can be goaded into having five whiskey sodas with them after a rough week at work. We’re all in our late 20s, and through some trial and error, it turns out that regular-ass humans are actually pretty fun to hang out with. Who knew?"

    So basically men who love the gym and focusing on themselves "A little too much" is a turn off for the average woman. What a joke.
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  16. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    I'm so sick of this pathetic attitude of women in general who have enabled men to look like ****. I just read this, wtf?

    "Part of my admiration for men with imperfect bodies is self-reflective; I’ve never had a flat stomach in my life, and I’ve passed the phase where that seems like a major moral failure on my part. The Dad bod doesn’t guarantee a similar worldview (there are, for sure, exacting *******s who live inside dad bods), but it makes a match more likely. It’s fine for all of us to have regular-looking bodies, and if you’ve never had a partner who felt that way, let me promise you: it is some thoroughly good ****. Find one such person and get naked with him or her.

    Consciously or not, many of my friends seem to have given dad bods tacit approval in their dating choices, too. None of us are waiting around at the squat rack to talk to the dude with the perfect arms, and that includes the women in my social circle who enjoy spending a fair amount of time in the gym themselves. That’s not to say that guy isn’t great, but he’s just not the first person who comes to mind when most of us are measuring our real-life romantic ideals.

    At a certain point, and maybe at a certain age, the reality of a great guy who doesn’t go to the gym as much as he wishes he did trumps the muscled, hairless boy-band ideal of our youths, and it trumps it by a lot. Almost across the board, the women around me choose funny, quick, well-rounded dudes who can be goaded into having five whiskey sodas with them after a rough week at work. We’re all in our late 20s, and through some trial and error, it turns out that regular-ass humans are actually pretty fun to hang out with. Who knew?"

    So basically men who love the gym and focusing on themselves "A little too much" is a turn off for the average woman. What a joke.
    What are we talking about here, again??

  17. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    I value my health more than my marriage. Yes that is correct. I'm sorry you live in a world where you would never be able to value that as highly as I do. Enjoy being fat as you get older with a dad bod eventually.
    I live in a world where traveling, my fiancé, our dogs, my career, and the life we build together matters more to me than going to the gym. I'm not so frail and insecure that I have to gym constantly or feel like I have a dad bod.

    Do I workout? Absolutely. But if my fiancé wants to spend a weekend out of town I'm not going to look at the hotel gyms to make sure I can get a quick session in every day. I'm not going to refuse life experiences because they don't fit in with my gym schedule. I'm not going to turn down getting pad Thai or trying out a new Italian place because I can't fit it in my calories. If I go 3-4 days without working out I'm not going to turn into Homer Simpson -- oh, sorry.. Homer is the yellow cartoon character that drinks a lot of beer and eats donuts. You don't seem to have many life experiences and I'm not sure if you have time to watch TV in between are your super manly gym sessions, but surely he rings a bell?

    And at the end of the day, if I was fat and had a dad bod, nothing would change in my relationship. We'd still be happy. We'd still travel. We'd still try new foods and drinks. We'd still love each other. I'd still win trials just the same as if I was skinny. My world wouldn't end. My life wouldn't be miserable. Can the same be said about you?
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  18. ^^ this all day.. would 100% rather go on a nice vacation and or go and try new restaraunts since im a foodie. I do hit the gym 5 or 6 times a week but i wont say no to a vacation just because i couldnt get a lift in while im there. Im 5'8" 190 12-14% bf and honestly i dont count calories and if i wanna take my soon to be wife out to eat u bet your ass im crushing that desert menu

  19. Quote Originally Posted by UCSMiami View Post
    ok. Enjoy. Ignore your wife and someone else will bone her and you will be a cuckold.
    Ouch...that was funny

  20. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    I value my health more than my marriage. Yes that is correct. I'm sorry you live in a world where you would never be able to value that as highly as I do. Enjoy being fat as you get older with a dad bod eventually.
    So if u value ur health more then ur marriage, I'm guessing u are not willing to die for her if that time ever rises?
  21. Is there some rule that once people get married the majority lose interest in the gym


    Quote Originally Posted by dds View Post
    So if u value ur health more then ur marriage, I'm guessing u are not willing to die for her if that time ever rises?
    Well absolutely not. Why should he miss the gym so she can live?
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  22. Quote Originally Posted by Woody View Post
    Well absolutely not. Why should he miss the gym so she can live?
    Lmao..

  23. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    Not really because she enjoys a man who is fit and takes care of himself. She finds it a turn on. She doesn't want a man with a dad bod who would rather watch sports on with a bag of potato chips and drink beer with his buddies. Unfortunately once men hit 40 , most men are like that. I went to Vegas and it was disgusting how men looked there. The lack of self respect to their bodies really showed. How the **** can you live life looking like that? Its ****ing pathetic!
    Well did not mean that either. Once fit and if diet is on point, then minimal training needed to stay fit.

    There is fit and then there are levels way beyond which require much more time investment. That latter part is the problem if new wife is not gym minded.

  24. Quote Originally Posted by UCSMiami View Post
    Well did not mean that either. Once fit and if diet is on point, then minimal training needed to stay fit.

    There is fit and then there are levels way beyond which require much more time investment. That latter part is the problem if new wife is not gym minded.
    Exactly right and the goal that I focus on to attain and to have is bodyfat in the single digits. Being "Fit" Is settling for average. No thanks! I have always been an etremist with everything I have gained an interest in and I say why settle for blending in with so many others? This same mindset is why when I was young I would do a half ounce of blow a night instead of a line or two. Or dropping five pills of XTC in one night! I thank myself everyday for using that energy now to be in the best possible shape I can be instead of partying. I rarely consume alcohol unless its a glass of red dry wine. There is no point further than that considering my goals and my current lifestyle. Being considered fit is not fun to me nor enough of a challenge. For those that are happy with that well I guess they will just never be me. Thats life. Have fun being "Fit" and going out on the weekends and ****ing off. I'll stick to being hardcore in the gym when it comes to that lifestyle which consists of diet and training. Perfect example.......There's this guy I See every morning at the gym, his physique never changes! He goes to the gym everday in the morning and many would consider him fit. Even though by looking at him a real serious gym junky would know he is just a hamster running on a treadmill cause he doesn't do the things that need to be done to stand out and be serious. I'll tell you one thing too, these guys you see who are happy being "Fit" ? Its their wives and gf's who stare at me across the gym and get wet while their husbands give me dirty looks. While I just sit there with a smile on my face knowing all eyes on me mother****er! Your wife wants to blow me how does it feel knowing that? Not my fault you have settled for an average physique and enjoy drinking and eating like ****! Thats the way I role! My motivation lies in my mind to get better each and everyday than anyone else! I am straight ALPHA and thats how it will be now and always.

  25. Quote Originally Posted by CompeteNPC View Post
    Exactly right and the goal that I focus on to attain and to have is bodyfat in the single digits. Being "Fit" Is settling for average. No thanks! I have always been an etremist with everything I have gained an interest in and I say why settle for blending in with so many others? This same mindset is why when I was young I would do a half ounce of blow a night instead of a line or two. Or dropping five pills of XTC in one night! I thank myself everyday for using that energy now to be in the best possible shape I can be instead of partying. I rarely consume alcohol unless its a glass of red dry wine. There is no point further than that considering my goals and my current lifestyle. Being considered fit is not fun to me nor enough of a challenge. For those that are happy with that well I guess they will just never be me. Thats life. Have fun being "Fit" and going out on the weekends and ****ing off. I'll stick to being hardcore in the gym when it comes to that lifestyle which consists of diet and training. There's this guy I See every morning at the gym, his physique never changes! He goes to the gym everday in the morning and many would consider him fit. Even though by looking at him a real serious gym junky would know he is just a hamster running on a treadmill cause he doesn't do the things that need to be done to stand out and be serious. I'll tell you one thing to, these guys you see who are happy being "Fit" ? Its their wives and gf's who stare at me across the gym and get wet while their husbands give me dirty looks. While I just sit there with a smile on my face knowing all eyes on me mother****er! Your wife wants to blow me how does it feel knowing that? Not my fault you have settled for an average physique and enjoy drinking and eating like ****! Thats the way I role! My motivation lies in my mind to get better each and everyday than anyone else! I am straight ALPHA and thats how it will be now and always.
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