help in the sack...

[Beandorf]

got a few little things goin on id like to question and I know some board sponsors are going to throw some products at me to help their sales but id really appreciate some straight shootin here ...its embarrassing but im sure im not the only one. I started taking lexapro a while back and stopped it cold turkey cuz I was having some sexual side effects like problems getting hard and remaining hard...if i changed positions or pulled out whatever id lose it ( example...id be hard and id pull out to put on a condom and by that time it was gone) and on more than one occasion i was literally a 2 pump chump...talkin 20-30 seconds and i was spent and my recovery time was like 30 mins and by that time shes not into it anymore. Im sick and tired and frusterated with this...cuz in my head im good to go but my little guy is a vegetable. im not sure of the terms cuz ive never been to a doctor about it i plan on visiting soon but premature ejaculation i think is what i have and ive looked into a product called Orexis but I was told by many to try Cialas....What im looking for is something to help me stay hard longer...last longer and turn my recovery time into mins...not half an hour...Im 22 years old I should be plowing like a rockstar 2-3 times a night and be able to autoplow for 10-15 mins without blowing but Im spent after 30 seconds and cant get hard? something wrong and I could use some input....thanks

If anyone can vouch for Cialis or Orexis or something else that helps with what ive described id appreciate it

 

[anapolack2]

i hear good things about aspire 36 but i dont know how effective it is first hand

 

[dsade]

Prolactin is the primary culprit in the refractory period (inability to become aroused). Dopaminergics can help here.

Aspire 36 will help you maintain your hardness, and there are quite a few creams on the market containing lidocaine to help desensitize you.

Another thing you can work on is increasing the strength of your PC muscle via kegel exercises. Also, while alone you can practice bringing yourself right to the verge of orgasm, then stopping...breathing....relaxation....visualization....learn to pull the plug when you think you are going to blow.

When you have that down, you can play with alternate techniques of stimulating HER to it doesn't seem like you are just stopping to hold yourself from cumming....suggest an alternate position, then use your tongue again on her while you wait to regain control.

 

[nosnmiveins]

if getting hard is the only problem, i recommend aspire....but if ur libido is shot then get a test booster

 

[Beandorf]

i will have to give aspire a shot...none of you guys said anything about cialis or orexis if that can or will help....maintaining hardness is my problem and blowing way to quickly...thats about it...Im thinking one of these either cialis or aspire or whatever will help me remain hard while helping me control my orgasms so i can pretty much go as long as i want. impossible? Dsade i read what your saying but Im really looking to just take something and help my problem...the desire and want is there...like i said i cant remain hard...if i stop for even 15-20 seconds ill lose it...if i keep going ill blow. looking to maintain hardness while lasting longer and since everyone goes longer and longer their 2nd and 3rd time around...even something with a really short recovery time will work...would aspire or cialis do this? even orexis?

 

[Soopaman]

I can vouch for Aspire36 too. It's great stuff, and really does last for 36+ hours. I can pop one on Friday night and get a hard one anytime I want, and often several times randomly throughout the next day. It also decreases the refractory period, so after the first round you're easily able to go again pretty quickly. 10/10 for me.

 

[Beandorf]

ill have to grab a bottle...thx guys

 

[krogtaar]

how long have you been off that drug? how long were you taking it?

id hope it comes back to you naturally...aspire should help in the meantime if you need it, but see a doc if you dont start working again naturally

 

[The G Train]

I don't know what ingredient did it, but I had a black pearl RTD by VPX and that worked for both hardness and duration. Also Stamina RX worked as well. The main thing is just starting slow and finding what movements/positions will not make you blow too easy. Hit those first for like 5min, then start pounding away. Or ask for her to blow you beforehand, that works for duration as long as you're on some libido enhancer.

 

[Dr Packenwood]

I can vouch for Aspire36 too. It's great stuff, and really does last for 36+ hours. I can pop one on Friday night and get a hard one anytime I want, and often several times randomly throughout the next day. It also decreases the refractory period, so after the first round you're easily able to go again pretty quickly. 10/10 for me.

Same here. Makes it so I don't have to be quite so aggressive, even though she preferres it that way. I can take my time and tease the hell out of her.

 

[AM07]

Whiskey **** really sucks.

 

[neverstop]

all the drugs are cool, obviously viagra and cialis are good, but really i would recommend you just take a couple nights away from your girl, get at least 9 hours of sleep those nights, take some ZMA and drink lots of water and just chill out, i think we've all had similar problems and 99.999% of the time its just from being stressed out, which lowers your naturual testosterone and gets your head all twisted up, maybe get some viagra, rock her fkucing socks off one night so she doesn't get all weirded out then chill out for a few days.

 

[Beandorf]

how long have you been off that drug? how long were you taking it?

id hope it comes back to you naturally...aspire should help in the meantime if you need it, but see a doc if you dont start working again naturally

Well i was taking it for about 6-8 months i THINK and stopped it cold turkey which i was told is a horrible idea for a drug like lexapro but I was too stupid to ween off of it...

 

[Beandorf]

all the drugs are cool, obviously viagra and cialis are good, but really i would recommend you just take a couple nights away from your girl, get at least 9 hours of sleep those nights, take some ZMA and drink lots of water and just chill out, i think we've all had similar problems and 99.999% of the time its just from being stressed out, which lowers your naturual testosterone and gets your head all twisted up, maybe get some viagra, rock her fkucing socks off one night so she doesn't get all weirded out then chill out for a few days.

Yeah I have been very stressed and FILLED with anxiety over the last few weeks from the withdrawl of the lexapro...I think i might dose some aspire or cialas/viagra and like u said pound her to death for 10-15 mins ...god id love to be able to do that Ill work on it thx for the help fellas

 

[nightfly71]

I'll echo that support for Aspire 36. It's the only natural product I've used that REALLY works. Back like 5 yrs. ago, Stamina Rx was similar, but not as long lasting. I found it became very hit or miss after a while, though. I heard it's a different formular these days, although the label is the same.

 

[stoneytheweir]

first of all i can say i know what you're talking about and it ****in sucks. When i was on a perscription a few years ago the same thing happened to me. I'm gonna have to agree w/most of the guys on here with their advice. i don't know too much about taking supps to help out in this area though. All i know is that at that time when i was takin the script i just stopped it cold turkey also and it did mess with me. I would follow neverstop's advice he seems to know what he's talkin bout. look when i was on my script and for a while off of it i was exactly like you ****in pissed and embarrassed about everything. i went from bein done within 10 minutes to be able to go for an hour to a few hours now. Once in a while i still revert to being a two pump chump but not so much these days. Dude burn some incense, lite some candles play with your woman a bit. When you get down to havin sex with her and you feel like your gonna nut pull out and start eatin her out a bit then when you feel like you got control again go for it. But before you do any of this i would reccomend talkin to your lady about your problem. assure her that it is nothing that she has done and you just got this problem (explain it to her in detail) and that you need her help with it. But yea take a few nights off chill, meditate/pray or do something to center yourself and get rid of the stress. hope this helps

 

[FamilyMan69]

Cialis has definitely helped me... Ive been using it for almost two years now (not every day) and it has been a big help. Dont know if it works for everybody though?

For example from here http://www.straightmansweb.com you can find info about the ed drugs...(if its not ok to post links here just remove it)

 

[SufferingEd]

I am suprised you had problems with Lexapro. It is one of the pysch drugs they give that rarely has sexual side effects. I have been on it for a year and I have not had any problems. As a matter of fact when I first started taking it I could actually last a lot longer than usual. That is one side effect of pysch drugs they can actually be prescribed to help with PE. I take Cialis also. It has always worked for me and sometimes I am stay hard even after I blow. It can be taken every other day if needed. Aspire also works well. My brother is also on Lexapro and has not had any problems. You might want to have some blood work done to see if you might have Low T or something just in case. Also like Dsade said, prolatcin could also be you problem. Vitex can help lower you prolactin.

 

[BodyWizard]

Dsade i read what your saying but Im really looking to just take something and help my problem...the desire and want is there...like i said i cant remain hard...if i stop for even 15-20 seconds ill lose it...if i keep going ill blow. looking to maintain hardness while lasting longer

dsade's recommendation of Kegels is the best advice you've gotten so far, but you dismiss it out-of-hand - because it involves actually *doing* something, apparently.

IF you want more dependable erections, do Kegels, and I mean a few hundred every day, and FOCUS: these are muscles, and exercises.

If you want greater control over your orgasms (ie, no more pump-chump), do Kegels, and pay them as much attention as you would in working any of your other muscles.

If, however, you just want to spend money and swallow things, you go right ahead - but taking the lexapro seems to be implicated in your "condition", so I don't see the sense in taking still more things to further disturb your already-disturbed sexual chemistry.

Of course, taking "hard-on managers" (ooo, magic erections in a bottle!) & not doing Kegels is like taking steroids & not lifting any freakin' weight (ooo, magic muscles in a bottle!).However, you must do what you think is right, young Skywalker.

For myself, I *like* being able to have great sex in a variety of positions (or not) for 30-60 min. I like it even more because no-one expects it from a man my age. Yes, I take supplements that help keep my aging chemistry straightened out - AND sex last much longer, feels better, and is generally much more fun since I started doing 300+ Kegels per day.