2. What's happened is what's happened. You're right it is what it is but first of all, how old are you? How long have you been lifting? My girlfriend JUST started 5 months ago and she reps a plate on each side slowly with GREAT form. People get flamed when they do something stupid and then ask questions as to why they're in the predicament they're in. Go to any forum.. This is how it is across the board. I moderate at a pitbull forum. People let their dogs loose and wonder why they come home to dead dogs.
3. You are a sheep. Everyone is on the "dark side so f**k it". I know its appealing to be "on the dark side" to you but its not just run this comound and swell up. There's hard work and knowledge that goes along with it. Just because your friends are on cycles is a STUPID reason to get on one.