I've been doing the grappling thing for four or five months now, about once a week. It's an army combatives program, but I go at night when it's basicly an open mat type of thing after you get the basics down. We occassionly get some good instructors to come in, or guys who know their ****, or guys learn something knew and share it. Most of the time is spent rolling, which I'm pretty much sick of doing most every week, I'd rather drill.
Most of these guys at the night classes, 4 or five guys, come in 2-3 times a day almost every weekday and have been for a six months or more. One guy was a wrestler and another guy had BJJ experience before this. Most of them are cool about everything. A few things are frustrating the crap out of me, though, and I'm looking for some advice.
One thing is, like I said, we mainly spend our time rolling. I don't know if it's because these guys drill during the other sessions, or what, but I'd rather get the physics down than try to figure things out while I'm going. Nobody seems to want to work on takedowns or clinches very much and those are things I've never really had to do before.
The other thing is the guys I roll with. Me and another guy are both around 230, only he's much shorter and stacked than I am. He's also pretty damned good and I rarely get an upper-hand on him. He's good about it though. He pauses to show me what I'm doing wrong or what I could have done and isn't an ass about it. He knows that I don't give a **** about losing right now. I mainly work on my positions and once I've got something established then I try to work something. The other guy, though, is an ass about things. He's got some jacked up attitude where it's as if he thinks he's hot **** if he submits me. He doesn't get that I'm working on my technique first, and winning second. He also seems like he's talking down to me when he shows me what I should have done. I mean, once we started from the standup and the dude basicly jumped in my arms. I stopped and told him that was stupid and that I could have slammed him. He got an attitude about it.
Sorry if I'm venting here. I guess I am wondering if I'm approaching **** the wrong way. It's hard to tell if I'm getting better when the other guys get more practice in than me and one of the instructors is high on himself. I know I'm in a different training environment than if I were at a school, but, regardless, how do you know if you are getting better or not? It's just frustrating getting my ass whooped 90% of the time.