SO everybody chime in, not lust here guys. How much time did it take for you to fall in love with your signifigant other and on a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? 10+ being you cant live without her.
Sounds like it was a smash and grab job.about 3 minutes to fall in love and about 3 weeks to get up the gut to tell her and 3 months to propose. getting married in september so.. scale of 1-10 = 10
Thats almost perfectly it, and as gay as it sounds the line from Jerry McGuire pretty well covers it, the deaf couple in the elevator "You complete me" part. Theres no rhyme or reason to it, but when you realize that she does complete you, thats the moment.I think the moment happens whenever there is a time of need and you realize that they are the one that you need for consolation and support or vice-versa. Once you both hit that certain wavelength, then it is all good from that time until the end.
As cheesy and lame as it is, you just know when the time is right. I have no problem telling a girl that I love them because I do not run from emotions. I feel like if I cannot be honest with myself then I cannot be honest with anyone.Thats almost perfectly it, and as gay as it sounds the line from Jerry McGuire pretty well covers it, the deaf couple in the elevator "You complete me" part. Theres no rhyme or reason to it, but when you realize that she does complete you, thats the moment.
i have to agree with you on that one... i run, far away, very quickly if the three word sentence comes out to fast. its hard for me to believe that people can fall into absolute, definite, positive, lifelong, true love in such a short amount of time. i have a feeling that people that do fall in love too easily will just as easily fall in the with the next fish, just as they did with me. i've had two guys before kwyck tell me that they loved me. one told me after a week.....GAG!!! and the other told me after 3 DAYS:fool2:I'll put it this way. As a general rule, I don't believe I've ever said "I love you" within the first 3 months - regardless of how I felt inside.
Could also be because it is generally thought to be a surefire way to get in a girls pants...i've had two guys before kwyck tell me that they loved me. one told me after a week.....GAG!!! and the other told me after 3 DAYS:fool2:
Here I am about to go to supercheesy level, but there is no way to tell if it will work if you don't try. Supressing the feeling or pretending you dont feel that way just guarantees it won't work, because you aren't being honest with yourself or her.I was really curious to see if there was really instant loves that were good, or just hormones. Kind of what I am facing right now. I had what I would call a once in a life time night last night, and am trying to keep part of me from floating from the high of the night with her.
Thanks for the input.
You just reminded me of a quotePeople change. Just hope that you both change in the right direction for each other, or there cold be problems.
- Antoine de Saint-ExuperyLove does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.
I think it's about time us guys (and girls on this board) talk about it. I'm quite sure most girls talk about it amongst themselves all the time - no wonder they always seem 2 steps ahead of us when it comes to relationship stuff, lol.Some really good point guys. Yeah sure, talking about love might be cheesy. But at some point we ALL have it cross our mind.
The main thing is that it is very difficult to relay the message with just words and emoticons. I know that one of my problems is getting how I feel into words and mannerisms. That being said, I agree that we should talk more freely about it, but our gender role is not exactly taught to be open with this topic.I think it's about time us guys (and girls on this board) talk about it. I'm quite sure most girls talk about it amongst themselves all the time - no wonder they always seem 2 steps ahead of us when it comes to relationship stuff, lol.
How the heck are we supposed to know otherwise? Sure, we all know how to deadlift properly, eat properly, program the VCR and change the oil - but when it comes to one of the most life-impacting things (love), we get all quiet....probably because none of us really knows the right answers, lol...
After 5.5 years - and you still gave that answer - it almost puts a tear in my eye. That's a beautiful thing.i rate my relationship a 1,000,000,000,000,000
The main thing is that it is very difficult to relay the message with just words and emoticons. I know that one of my problems is getting how I feel into words and mannerisms. That being said, I agree that we should talk more freely about it, but our gender role is not exactly taught to be open with this topic.
aww thanks sunder. i hope that everyone finds the same kind of happiness that me and kwyck have. im very fortunate to have found him at such a young age.But seriously - I'd love to hear a girl say that about me after 5.5 yrs together.
doesnt that get....boring? when i was younger i enjoyed that kind of desparation that some people would show.... but it was so boring.... and then scary when they would say i love you....I've had a sudden increase in....ahem...larger and older women express things to me... I'm told that's what I get for being such a nice and approachable guy. It just comes across as desperate to me at how aggressive they can be.
i dont know what kind of girls would go for that theory (saying i love you in less than a month = nooky) except for these kinds...Could also be because it is generally thought to be a surefire way to get in a girls pants...
I caught myself saying it in response from time to time... I've only initiated it twice, the other two girls took it upon themselves to say it first. I won't say it first unless I mean it, but when I respond to it, I eventually start believing myself... does this make me a patho?i dont know what kind of girls would go for that theory (saying i love you in less than a month = nooky) except for these kinds...
AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! YOUR EVIL!!! :smite:i dont know what kind of girls would go for that theory (saying i love you in less than a month = nooky) except for these kinds...
Man oh man I loll'd at that, that was fvckin golden! "I thought" .....oh myYou just reminded me of a quote
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery
I always thought it meant doing her doggie style over a balcony rail, but from what you said maybe it means something else
Hmm....he only rated the relationship at a 999,999,999,999,999. Sounds like you two need to talk.i rate my relationship a 1,000,000,000,000,000
Love IS an amazing thing!it could be the second you first kiss them or it could take awhile and lots of work and understanding.
either way love is an amazing thing when it first happens.
The previous long term before kwyck was for 2 yrs. So at the most you were 14.5yo. If you are with kwyck for 5.5 yrs you have been with him since you were 16.5yo. and 7 months after you met, at 17, you were in love and wanted to get married? Have I got my facts straight?i dated a guy for two years and during those two years, NEVER did i say to him that i loved him, and i never even for the slightest second, believed that i love him even a little bit. kwyck and i said the "i love you's" at 7 months and then knew that we wanted to get married about a month after that..... and we are still together 5.5 years strong (not married due to financial reasons).
i rate my relationship a 1,000,000,000,000,000
For me, falling in love with and can't live without someone is not really how the relationship with my wife is. I think off "falling" in love in the same way I would think of falling down the stairs or falling off a chair. If you are in the psoition of walking up or down the stairs or sitting up on a chair it need be in a way that is stable and grounded. The falling happens when either you are not stable or grounded or well planted upon you feet or ass. The absence of a state of control or a state of instability. This why we don't run on the stairs and we sitting in our chairs on all four legs. So we don't fall.How much time did it take for you to fall in love with your signifigant other and on a scale of 1-10, how happy are you? 10+ being you cant live without her.
No. That's the way I prefer it. Me owns her.Hmm....he only rated the relationship at a 999,999,999,999,999. Sounds like you two need to talk.
The previous long term before kwyck was for 2 yrs. So at the most you were 14.5yo. If you are with kwyckhey! just because im young, has nothing to do with it. maturity is not a number. my "measly" (as you are implying) relationship at 14 was mature enough to know what love was NOT. How many other 14 year olds or even 40 year olds, would have been with someone for that long and not declared love? hardly anyone. and yes i was 16 years old when i met kwyck and was sure that i wanted to be with him and wanted to marry him later BUT we had the common sense to not get married until we had a financial base!for 5.5 yrs you have been with him since you were 16.5yo. and 7 months after you met, at 17, you were in love and wanted to get married? Have I got my facts straight?
:FUfinger:Now you live happily ever after, right? Didn't I just see that story on the Disney Channel.?
As young as i am, I truly dont see how my AGE and love matters. if you want to try to gauge my so called "disney" channel perceptions, maybe you should step back and look at things how things are instead of looking at stupid immature, irrelevant issues and comparing them to disney (that in itself to me is immaturity). i really dont appreciate being degraded and judged about my maturity and intelligence.
When everyone at all ages declare love left and right, i truly understand what love is, even when most would assume it is love. at the age of 16 when everyone wanted to be a makeup artist, interior designer, etc... i decided i wanted to be a dental hygienist for practical reasons (the most amount of pay for the shortest amount of school). while in highschool i planned out my entire college career (all college courses) to the "T" and knew exactly, by semester when and how id be out of college and have done everything exactly to plan. i have an online investing portfolio that does extremely well, because i study investing along side with my education....so regardless of age, yes i will have the fairytale life (as you like to see things b5150) without having everything happen the disney/fairytale way. my love, my finances, my LIFE will be perfect because I will MAKE it that way.
as many of you can probably see, me and kwyck have a great relationship that isnt simple based on that "fuzzy" feeling. quite frankly, me and kwyck have a much better relationship than most people. We both complement each other.Love is a great feeling when you are in it. Marriage is a lot of work. You can be in both at seperate times, and quite honestly, sometimes you may even happen to be in both simultaniously, for a brief moment or two. Good luck to you both
I dont disagree. But having to think about it openly is good practise. I dont think about it out loud enough. The communication was the victory, not the answer ulitmately.No. That's the way I prefer it. Me owns her.
Most people never fall past infatuation and into love. For the most part love is a set of socially constructed actions. In most relationships, people never treat each other with "love" more than "some of the time".
I'd also say that most people want to believe in fairy tale love, which is ridiculous, and they basically always force themselves to fall in love. This is most peoples problem and this is why I'd say that most people claim to be in love waaaaaaay before they know anything about it.
Anyway, "how much time does it take to fall in love?" is kind of a dumb question because you cannot put a time on it since the experience is obviously going to be different for everyone and there is not "threshold" point where you go from not in love to in love.
Figure out when you think you're in love, and use your brain about it. Feelings are very complex and a person can make them out to be whatever they want those feelings to be.
well said. I can't rep you unfortunately.. IOUI dont disagree. But having to think about it openly is good practise. I dont think about it out loud enough. The communication was the victory, not the answer ulitmately.
Love IS an amazing thing!
I fell in love with Chad so fast, and never once thought twice about it! Like everyone else said you can't put a limit to falling in love, it's a feeling you get only with the right one!
my love is a 10. no plus only because once again i agree, there is always something more to make things better!
Always and Forever!:thumbsup:
If it is meant to be, then it willI hereby retract my previous statement. Do not marry a girl when your whole relationship is based on rebelling against your parents and sex... Im about to break up...
No one degraded you or judged you regarding your maturity or intelligence. I simply asked a couple questions. But your rant sure has spoken volumes about said maturity and intelligence. Not to mention this statement speaks volumes on your character as well:The previous long term before kwyck was for 2 yrs. So at the most you were 14.5yo. If you are with kwyck
hey! just because im young, has nothing to do with it. maturity is not a number. my "measly" (as you are implying) relationship at 14 was mature enough to know what love was NOT. How many other 14 year olds or even 40 year olds, would have been with someone for that long and not declared love? hardly anyone. and yes i was 16 years old when i met kwyck and was sure that i wanted to be with him and wanted to marry him later BUT we had the common sense to not get married until we had a financial base!
:FUfinger:
As young as i am, I truly dont see how my AGE and love matters. if you want to try to gauge my so called "disney" channel perceptions, maybe you should step back and look at things how things are instead of looking at stupid immature, irrelevant issues and comparing them to disney (that in itself to me is immaturity). i really dont appreciate being degraded and judged about my maturity and intelligence.
That's ones a gem.i dont know what kind of girls would go for that theory (saying i love you in less than a month = nooky) except for these kinds...
I think you compliment yourself enough for the both of you.When everyone at all ages declare love left and right, i truly understand what love is, even when most would assume it is love. at the age of 16 when everyone wanted to be a makeup artist, interior designer, etc... i decided i wanted to be a dental hygienist for practical reasons (the most amount of pay for the shortest amount of school). while in highschool i planned out my entire college career (all college courses) to the "T" and knew exactly, by semester when and how id be out of college and have done everything exactly to plan. i have an online investing portfolio that does extremely well, because i study investing along side with my education....so regardless of age, yes i will have the fairytale life (as you like to see things b5150) without having everything happen the disney/fairytale way. my love, my finances, my LIFE will be perfect because I will MAKE it that way.
as many of you can probably see, me and kwyck have a great relationship that isnt simple based on that "fuzzy" feeling. quite frankly, me and kwyck have a much better relationship than most people. We both complement each other.
That is so true. Thats why I rated mine at an 8. Its no hollywood romance, and I wouldn't die without her, but its real love in that we both have made that commitment to make it work. We've have been together 12 years now (after me having 1 failed marriage). We've decided that each other is the one we will be with till we die, and thats what I call love. Calling it love but it falling apart in 2, 4, 6, 10 years means it wasn't really love, just infatuation mxed with lust.There are hollywood relationships and endings, but the thing that keeps a relationship going is not just the love or the feeling, but more of a committment (which is of course through good and bad), which makes or breaks the relationship.