I guess I'm not sure where you're coming from... Everybody is flawed. What's your conclusion: because I'm flawed, I should go out of my way to look for an equally flawed wife? My nephew just got divorced from a drug addicted wife, and I'm happy for him. I'm just sorry that he married her in the first place. He's a police officer, and her being arrested multiple times was a real embaresment for him. I guess when they got married, he felt sorry for her, and thought he could make her right. It just didn't work. Stupid chivalry.
Here are 10 stupid things men do to screw up their life....
Stupid Chivalry.
by getting involved with the wrong woman (weak, flakey, damaged, needy, desperate, stupid, untrustworthy, immature, etc.) you think that your love will save / transform her.
Stupid Independence.
Unwilling to admit "need" for bonding and intimacy, you hide in excess of work, play, drink, drugs, porn and meaningless sex.
Stupid Ambition.
Unable to comfortably and profoundly accept your inherent importance to society and family as husband and father, you bow to false idols of money, toys, power, and status.
Stupid Strength.
Uncomfortable with feeling weak, vunerable, uselses, powerless, or rejected, you use intimidation, force, or passive-agressiveness to regain control.
Stupid Sex.
Taking an attraction, opportunity, or erection as a "sign" you measure your masculinity and power by sexual conquests, infidelities, and orgasms.
Stupid Matrimony.
Lacking a mature sense of purpose, meaning, or value, of marriage, you realize too late you've gone down the aisle with the wrong woman for the wrong reason, and feel helpless to "fix it."
Stupid Husbanding.
Thinking that marriage is the honerable discharge from loving courtship, you continue to live as though you were single and your "mommy-wife" will take care of everything.
Stupid Parenting.
Believing that only women/mothers nurture children, you withdraw from hands-on parenting to assert your masculine importance, missing out on the true "soul food" of a child's hug.
Stupid Boyishness.
Having not yet worked out a comfortable emotional and social understanding with your mother, you form relationships with women that become geared to avenge, resolve, or protect you from your ties to Mommy.
Stupid Machismo.
Understanding the true and meaningful difference between being male and a man, you can become a man.
If you want details, go buy Dr. Laura's book. It's a good investment.
Pick out the healthy puppy, not the sick one.... You'll be much happier in the long run. You can't fix anybody... Don't even think that you can. If you're happy with what you have, fine, but don't think for a second, that you'll fix anybody.
-TT
