Does anyone else have trouble meeting people? Seriously people never seem too thrilled to talk to me. Im dont really go out of my way to talk to people so that doesnt help. Anyone else encounter this?
And confidence.You'd be surprised how much a smile will do to help meeting people.
Ya my big problem is I have lived in the same town my whole life. Never really had to start fresh. Then a lot of people I knew went off to college while I decided to stay in town to go to college. I still make an effort to keep in contact with friends. It is mainly meeting new people.I live in the same house I have lived for over a decade so my friends have always been local. I moved my job twice so I was spending more time in the week out of the area so I wasn't available in the evenings, despite staying in the same house.
After I while I realised I had lost contact with a lot of my friends. There are only so many times you say no to an invite from someone before they stop inviting you.
So, I live my life with the motto, treat others as you want to be treated. I give my friends time and they give me time back. I make an effort to see how people are with the odd text or phone call and get the same back.
A lot of people I know say that nobody makes an effort with them anymore and it is always the people that have stopped making an effor that are saying it.
Go out of your way to talk to them, invite them to things and get back in the loop. My social life has been a lot busier with people I have barely spoken to in years since I started living like this.
Ya I have a feeling I dont look to friendly unless I force myself to smile lol. I am by no means mean, but I can see how I dont look too nice. Even an ex from high school said if she didnt know me she would be scared of me lol.You'd be surprised how much a smile will do to help meeting people.
Would not be a bad thing.And confidence.
Lol ya havent tried that one yet. Just seems like there is no real way to meet people. Not into the whole going out thing. Dont really drink anymore and I cant stand being around drunk people when Im sober.Thank god for chatroulette.
I like to stand right behind someone at the ATM, this approach forces conversation.Ya my big problem is I have lived in the same town my whole life. Never really had to start fresh. Then a lot of people I knew went off to college while I decided to stay in town to go to college. I still make an effort to keep in contact with friends. It is mainly meeting new people.
Ya I have a feeling I dont look to friendly unless I force myself to smile lol. I am by no means mean, but I can see how I dont look too nice. Even an ex from high school said if she didnt know me she would be scared of me lol.
Would not be a bad thing.
Lol ya havent tried that one yet. Just seems like there is no real way to meet people. Not into the whole going out thing. Dont really drink anymore and I cant stand being around drunk people when Im sober.
I have trouble talking to anyone new especially women. I just don't know how to start a conversation with someone the first time. I have a social anxiety which really dampers my social skills. I do seem to do fine when people approach me though. One of the reasons I lift is because it gives me confidence.I moved down here 18 months ago from a different state knowing not one person. I only have about 2 really good friends, but that's all I need. It doesn't help that everyone I work with is twice my age.
I met some guys at the gym and other people through them. I normally don't talk to people at the gym because I'm all about business, but especially when you're new you have to open up. I usually give everyone a shot or two and in those first couple times I know if I want to talk to them again / if it's worth it.
If it's a girl, I flash a little smile when I walk by - nothing major, but just enough to show that I'm acknowledging her. Confidence definitely helps and knowledge does, too. People love to talk to me and learn stuff they never would have known. Or if they're thinking about going back to school, they pick my brain about that since I advise.
Play to your strengths, smile and be confident.
You've got this, Dirt Foot :yup: :hug:
I really agree with this. ^You'd be surprised how much a smile will do to help meeting people.
Absolutely 100%. I'm a loner, always have been. I grew up in the country so I entertained myself. In the military, my supervisor saw that I was more productive working alone so that's what he had me do. In the oilfield, I was an offshore trouble shooter, I went platform to platform, alone, figuring out problems. At the same company, I was the only heavy equip. mechanic so when I wasn't offshore I was working, alone, on equipment. Conversation just feels awkward to me. Walking through a store, I'll avoid people I know quite well not to stand there talking.Does anyone else have trouble meeting people? Seriously people never seem too thrilled to talk to me. Im dont really go out of my way to talk to people so that doesnt help. Anyone else encounter this?
Yeah, that or he's stuck-up, lol.I can relate... I am a loner. I have my friends and all but for the most part I avoid people.. I am a computer geek by trade so it helps. Its weird but I am happy when I am NOT around people... I am a biker so when I go on runs with the boyz its funny cuz they are all out talking to everyone and I talk to only those people I know. The grapevine has told me I am intimidating which I laugh at (I just started weight training so I am still a small guy). But Ive been told I am so quiet that it makes me unapproachable.
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nail on the head.... have gotten the stuckup comments too from people I have never spoken a word to. ppl that know me know that I am the farthest thing from stuckup.Yeah, that or he's stuck-up, lol.
Nope, just nothing to say. You can see it's raining, you can feel the cold or hot, why do you need me telling you the weather.
Its kind of funny, having been a software developer for the last 14-15 years, and spending the majority of that time telecommuting I'd think i'd be less social but somehow i'm not.I am a computer geek by trade so it helps.
I will take you up on this challenge when I start back school. Right now I dont really have a place to meet people. Not into the whole talking to people while I workout. That is pretty much the only place I go consistently.I want you to go out and talk to 100 different women, starting tomm- next week I want you to talk random **** to 100 different women. And I bet you no matter how you act or how ugly you are you'll get at least 15-20 phone numbers. Now you network off that, you get them and then you get their friends too. You'll meet people through your bitches, it'll all be good
No, see ur already ****ing up. I said "Like a guy with nothing to lose" that means you take your ass to places like the bookstore, grocery store, Wal-mart, the gas station, malls, etc etc. Go get some ass!! Jesus, its too easy to do nowadays not to!!I will take you up on this challenge when I start back school. Right now I dont really have a place to meet people. Not into the whole talking to people while I workout. That is pretty much the only place I go consistently.
Lol I dont go anywhere.No, see ur already ****ing up. I said "Like a guy with nothing to lose" that means you take your ass to places like the bookstore, grocery store, Wal-mart, the gas station, malls, etc etc. Go get some ass!! Jesus, its too easy to do nowadays not to!!
I don`t think it is so much having a morbid sense of humor,it is having a sense of humor,period.People gravitate towards people who can find humor in almost anything,where as they tend to shy away from people who take themselves too seriously or who are intense about everything.I find that using a morbid and sarcastic sense of humor helps me when I meeting strangers. As a consequence, many acquaintances call me Dr. Strangelove. For example, a co-worker asked me two years ago "Why do you always go to the gym ?" my answer was "I need to be in good enough shape so I won't get a heart attack during sex or while masturbating. I don't want that on my death certificate". For some reason, people respond well to me when I act this way.
This is probably half the problemLol I dont go anywhere.
Not a bad suggestion.Tomahawk may have a location problem.Sometimes changing environments can make all the difference.Move somewhere where you can surf. I've met tons of girls in a totally new environment already haha.
This is probably half the problem
Move somewhere where you can surf. I've met tons of girls in a totally new environment already haha.
I think that is the big problem. Been in one place for way too long. Most if not all my friends tell me GTFO of that town.Not a bad suggestion.Tomahawk may have a location problem.Sometimes changing environments can make all the difference.
That doesnt sound like a bad place to move. I think I would have to stay in the South. I do need my country music :banana: lolmove to South Florida... no shortage of people, places and things here!
NICE!That doesnt sound like a bad place to move. I think I would have to stay in the South. I do need my country music :banana: lol
Been feeling extra confident lately. Should translate into good things in the classroom :sgrin: Before my workout today I ended up chatting with this girl I met back in December. We met at a mutual friend's birthday dinner. Was a nice little ego boost as she is attractive and seems to have her wits about her.
Yeah I hear you on this. I have no problem meeting women and most of my close friends are women too. I find it easy to talk to random women around the city too, get #'s, setup dates etc, all that. I even find it easy to deflect women's advances who I may not be interested in, and just keep them as friends, without anything getting weird.You know, I have no problem meeting people, but I have a problem making actual friends, particularly with guys.
If it's women you're having troubles meeting, a smile and a joke go a long way. Women love confidence and a good sense of humor. Also, the best thing to keep in mind, is to just be yourself with people.That doesnt sound like a bad place to move. I think I would have to stay in the South. I do need my country music :banana: lol
Been feeling extra confident lately. Should translate into good things in the classroom :sgrin: Before my workout today I ended up chatting with this girl I met back in December. We met at a mutual friend's birthday dinner. Was a nice little ego boost as she is attractive and seems to have her wits about her.
I can never ever get stopped from going into the "friend zone". The only time I don't get caught there is if they approach and show interest in me. I'm not good with flirting I guess.If it's women you're having troubles meeting, a smile and a joke go a long way. Women love confidence and a good sense of humor. Also, the best thing to keep in mind, is to just be yourself with people.
It can be a bit of a numbers game.I can never ever get stopped from going into the "friend zone". The only time I don't get caught there is if they approach and show interest in me. I'm not good with flirting I guess.
Yeah dude . I have social issues and anxiety so talking to new people in general is kind of hard let alone I have to worry about flirting. Plus I didn't get out much in my teenage years because of my grandmom, so that in packed my social skills as well. So, I'm really just starting to learn good social skills.It can be a bit of a numbers game.
I used to get caught up on stupid thoughts in my head like "why won't she go further with me" wondering why things don't go how I'd like sometimes, when it seems like all things line up. This used to hit my ego a bit and get me down.
Now I don't dwell on trivial things, I just move on. There's plenty of people around and not everyone is logical or normal. Instead of thinking what I did wrong or dwell on one person, I try to meet many and then see what the options are. Things will happen and workout as they will.
I don't come out and automatically flirt with everyone either. Sometimes it takes just being friendly, and then moving on from there after testing the waters. You don't want to come on too strong or freak people out from the start. Some girls won't want to pursue if they have even the slightest thought that you may be a player.
That was always the type of woman I preferred. My wife is ex military, was on the boxing team, etc.I am forever "one of the guys"...............Uggghhhhh I hate that!!!!!! hence why I don't date, if you don't date you can't be disappointed.l..