I just want to start off by saying that I'm not getting married and this isn't about getting cold feet or getting older and feeling like I have to get married soon.
I don't understand the draw to get married. In my mind if two people are happy and in a committed relationship for many years then why must there be another title to have (married)? Why can't they just be happy with it the way things are? I see my friends getting married and it doesn't bother me until I see them having real issues about dumb **** that never used to be a problem when they were in a relationship. It seems that the married title brings on a whole list of issues.
I'm not saying marriage is a bad thing by any means either. My parents are divorced but plenty of my other relatives have been married to one person their entire lives and seem to enjoy it.
The thing that got me thinking of this is that I have a daughter now (shes 4 months old) and me and her mother have decided to give it a go at dating again. We were not together when I found out she was pregnant, but I was there for her and I am always there for my daughter. Anyway, she wants to get married and I really have never wanted to. She claims that she wants Payson (our daughter) to have a normal family". But normal is what you make it. There are plenty of people that have grown up perfectly normal with different types of family structures. Two parents don't have to be married to raise a well-adjusted child, they would need to get along. But as long as they get along (which her mother and I do) I think Payson should be fine.
I digress. What I want is some input about this topic (marriage). From people who are married, both men and women. As well as people that have been divorced or never plan to get married. The Question: why do people get married, or never marry and what are the benefits over being in a committed long term relationship v. marriage. And if you want to give other input I won't hold it against you.
Thanks - Nate
I don't understand the draw to get married. In my mind if two people are happy and in a committed relationship for many years then why must there be another title to have (married)? Why can't they just be happy with it the way things are? I see my friends getting married and it doesn't bother me until I see them having real issues about dumb **** that never used to be a problem when they were in a relationship. It seems that the married title brings on a whole list of issues.
I'm not saying marriage is a bad thing by any means either. My parents are divorced but plenty of my other relatives have been married to one person their entire lives and seem to enjoy it.
The thing that got me thinking of this is that I have a daughter now (shes 4 months old) and me and her mother have decided to give it a go at dating again. We were not together when I found out she was pregnant, but I was there for her and I am always there for my daughter. Anyway, she wants to get married and I really have never wanted to. She claims that she wants Payson (our daughter) to have a normal family". But normal is what you make it. There are plenty of people that have grown up perfectly normal with different types of family structures. Two parents don't have to be married to raise a well-adjusted child, they would need to get along. But as long as they get along (which her mother and I do) I think Payson should be fine.
I digress. What I want is some input about this topic (marriage). From people who are married, both men and women. As well as people that have been divorced or never plan to get married. The Question: why do people get married, or never marry and what are the benefits over being in a committed long term relationship v. marriage. And if you want to give other input I won't hold it against you.
Thanks - Nate