this dude hit on my girlfriend
02-08-2004 08:23 AM
this dude hit on my girlfriend
there is this guy that i work with and he told my girlfriend that he liked her. she told me about it and i couldnt believe the lack of respect. i wanted to kick the **** out of him. but if i did this i would be fired so what the hell should i do. i know most likely if i confront him i will lose my temper and do something i will regret because he annoys the **** out of me. anyone got some advice on how to handle it?
02-08-2004 08:31 AM
Let it go and rub it in his face that you have her.
02-08-2004 09:42 AM
you have what he wants. consider that and forget about it. If this guys action dictates some action from your part, then go ahead, be a man and kick his ass but all he is right now is talk.
02-08-2004 09:46 AM
This is just me but I'd stomp his a$$. If you can't do it directly, nothing shows the love like a bat to the back of the knees and you and a few friends practice tap dancing on his face. Sure it's somewhat cowardly to ambush someone, but if the circumstances are that you'll get fired for a straight forward brawl, then that is all you can do. Well, other than letting it go. I personaly don't put up with other peoples BS. Especially when it is of that nature. There is another option that I know of but it is a pain in the a$$ and lots of drama. You could talk to him in a public place and make it seem that he's more or less picking at you. Call the police and say that he threatened to attack you. They'll say they can't do anything but they will make a note of it if an officer is dispatched to talk to him or you. That is the foundation for the plan. Now that you have created a history with him being the bad guy, just say that he is hitting on your girl and you asked him to leave her alone and he got violent, you are ready for the big finish. Have a few friends that you know wont crack or screw up a story meet you somewhere that you know you'll have a shot at catching the guy alone. Set up a fake scene. Like act like you and your friends are working on your car's sound system and you just happen to see the guy. Make sure no one is around and straight up stomp his a$$. Then have a friend call the police and say that his friend (you) is being attacked by some guy. Not only will he get his a$$ kicked but he'll get arrested. Now you can opt to not press charges if you want, but wait because he'll most likely file a warrant on you. Now all you do is talk to the DA and explain that you were attacked and be sure to say exactly that you "feared for your life". Have your friends say that all they saw was you and the guy talking and then he just attacked you. You have witnesses to colaborate your story and basicly the guy will be screwed. In the end you'll both drop the charges and you will have gotten your get back. Trust me I've been through this many times. I have no respect for people who can't respect the boundry of a relationship.
02-08-2004 10:26 AM
Brewing Anabolic Minds
So much drama...
If you love your girlfriend and she loves you why not let her handle it? You can't be with her 24 hours per day and the trust has to start somewhere. There is nothing more satisfying for me than to see my wife refute the advances of others...it instills more trust between us and we grow stronger. A relationship is likened to lifting: if you don't stress the working parts then it will not grow stronger. The more times she handles her own business the more you will trust she will do it even when not in your presence.
Get the idea?
02-08-2004 10:39 AM
bump to that and Chemo's post above ^! Take it as a compliment, and don't worry about it. I'm sure you've already expressed your displeasure about the situation to your GF, and that's good - she needs to know you care, but being too jealous or controlling will only drive her away. Let her know you're confident in yourself and you trust her...that said, be civil to your coworker, but keep an eye on him.
Originally Posted by shadow_manifest
02-08-2004 10:48 AM
Brewing Anabolic Minds
I never said be civil to the coworker
02-08-2004 11:58 AM
Originally Posted by candle25
Since when did warning another dude about screwing up turn into a soap opera?
Bro, just confront him and forewarn him about it. If you can't learn to control your temper in a public setting than you have more problems than you first thought. If he reacts to your warning w/ a blow, then strike back, its not brain surgery.
The most he'll do is say something smart back; just let it go, but let him know that if he ever touch's her, confront her, etc. etc. your gonna hurt him real godamn bad.....
02-08-2004 01:26 PM
Consider whether the satisfaction you would get is worth the possible repercussions of violent action on your part. Is this idiot worth upsetting your life, when you already know that your girl is faithful to you?
Originally Posted by hogiejoe
Life is full of idiots and *******s, there's not enough time to kill them all.
I would just let him know that it is uncool to hit on a co-workers girl friend. If you are worried about losing your temper, plan exactly what you want to say, say it and walk away. I wouldn't threaten him directly with an ass whooping, as in some workplaces that alone can get you fired or counseled or lower your evaluation.
Just lower your voice (imagine a Clint Eastwood raspy whisper) and say something like "You look like someone who would enjoy living a long healthy life. Let me give you a health tip. Eat your vegtables, don't drink, and don't mess with my girl."
Then turn and walk away.
If that doesn't work, just make sure there are no witnesses.
02-08-2004 02:11 PM
That is too bad....
Originally Posted by Greenguy
02-09-2004 09:28 AM
Bro take as a compliment at first. Apparently your chic is hot enought that another dude wants her. F him man. You got her and she was cool enough to tell you about it. If she would have hidden this from you then she has an interest. But she didn't. If he does it again then you're in a different boat. But for now just smile at him and nod your head. No beef bro............
02-09-2004 01:33 PM
Bro, that's not worth fighting for. If he disrespects your girl or says something stupid to her than you can kick his ass.
02-09-2004 02:01 PM
Take it easy bro, he just hit on her. Also she brought it up to you which is a good sign. The first time I would let it go, if he does it again you approach him and tell him your thoughts on what he's doing. Then if strike three comes you hurt somebody. Or if he goes straight to touching her it's time to punish him.
02-09-2004 05:43 PM
thanks for all the different points of view. when you mentioned that i should feel good that my girl is loyal to me and told me about this, my outlook on the situation changed. it went from anger to ...well not anger. but ill be watching this snake, thanks for all the good advice bros.
02-09-2004 06:12 PM
ask the dude if he wants to sniff ur fingers..i personally would F-with someone like that..i would embarrass the hell outta him tell him that ur gf said"i had a retarded guy u work with ask me out..he smelled like tomatoe soup" or soemthing like that f-him..laugh it off
02-09-2004 06:22 PM
Don't let it get to you too much. If you are with a hot chick that's going to happen. Now if he touches her then I would knife him in the parking lot after work.
02-09-2004 07:45 PM
At what point would the couple be "overtraining"??
Originally Posted by Chemo
02-09-2004 07:54 PM
Hang'n & Bang'n
I personally find it a complement that other guys find my chick hot. But as long as she told you and didn't give him any reason to continue persuing her then you're cool. I would personally talk to him and tell him that your girl told you everything (as she always does) and that you think what he did was chicken **** and that you expect it to end right there. After that, just let it go. If he does it again, then stomp his ass.
02-09-2004 08:12 PM
Chemo put it the way I would.
02-09-2004 10:03 PM
i say send the guys sister a love letter in the mail...you should have his addy from work
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